This is nt aa generalization, but I have noticed this among some women.
They mostly do so when they want something or to get you on their side.
They start telling a story which they can easily say without emotions or some emotions but to "convince" you they start crying.
I just realised that I even with my prior experience when sharing I never cried, I will just say it and maybe that's why some people never "believed" or "pitied" me.
I say this because it has been a reoccuring issue recently, a Cousins Mother who wants him to marry her choice of a spouse as against his own because of tribal consideration, I went to speak with her because He asked me too, next thing the woman was giving me sob stories irrelevant to the issue at hand and crying.
Thankfully I know this "Anty" well and I wasn't falling for it, most of the stories were laced in half truths and I called her out, immediatelly I did, the tears dried up like magic, but am sure others who had earlier come to talk had fallen for the tears.

Second Experience, a Neighbor whose daughter had once gotten a car gift from a boyfriend the Mother didn't know and they sked me to help hide the car from the Father I refused, recently the girl got into some trouble, I went to the Mom to see how we could resolve it, she started pleading innocemnce and crying, again I called her out, "Madam, I am not here to blame or say I told you so, I am here so we could solve this issue with the little help I can offer", again tears dried like magic.

Third Experience was with a Family Friend. I had severally warned her about some habits, I don't think scheming and hiding has any place in marriage but she had even started avoiding me. Till trouble burst and her husband caught her taking joint funds to buy personal assests, again when the husband met me and said he was done and will be filing for divorce I went to talk with her so we could work on how to apologise and steps to take on correction, another round of tears with stories of how "unfair" he was and pushed her into it, which I know is a big lie because he has been very nice, open and fair, she was just being greedy and following bad company.

I don't know if I am too hard, I try to be rational and explain an issue clearly without making people feel sorry for me with tears, I prefer if I have an issue we think clearly and find a solution.

Are some women just emotional or do they just use tears to gain sympathy?

Bare in mind that some of these women will do acts that will shock you to the marrow yet turn to tears and stories when caught

Madam CC, I get you oh, I also cried at Skyfall, But the topic is specific "when tears are used for emotional blackmail"
I am focusing on people who use tears even when they are wrong in an attempt to get pity and sway people to their side. Like I said when they are called out the tears dry immediately. That's what I am talking about not genuine tears. I am sure you have met some women who you may have spoken to severally they won't listen next thing when kasala burst na cry

Madam debrief, there is no much to say here,.....they are simply hypocrites...... you have already said it, they use it to gain pple to their side, which to me......its hypocrisy.....anybody that see them while crying will sympathise with them, thinking that they are real, whereas, in their inner mind, they know what they are doing and they most times get what they want, unless they are attacked by someone wiser than them.
We have them all around us and we need to distinguish them from the sincere emotional women.
Im emotional too, but also factual when need be.
May God help us all.

Lol, Madam CC, Like I said these women once you call them out the tears stop.
This is not about you oh. Lol
Greatgod thankfully I am not the only one who has met such women. I was begining to think I was too hard

That d power of a woman -TEARS

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Tears no dey move me o

Right from when I was growing up, I always cry when I think am right and you accuse me falsely.

While am defending myself am crying in-between.

As for using it as emotional blackmail....I don't see myself doing that. Before I carry any action, I think of the consequences. If I can't deal with it, no need carrying it out!

That's just me

Wn a woman cries 4 u, accept her dat time cos no body on earth loves u mor dan her @ dat point in time.
Wn she keeps quite, lots of thoughts r gonig on in her mind. Wn she stears at u, she wonders hw long u wl b around her.

What pains me the most is that they might swear with tears denying what they are accused of, only for you to discover that they actually did it. Is it that they can just shed tears anytime or they know the trick on how to shed tears anytime. Well, I would like to have such "tear trick".

Personally those tears don't move me because there are basic rules in every relationship and once you fail them woefully you come back begging with those tears in your eyes sorry you must pay the price and you'll never take me for granted or some other person in your life.This is why when I screw up in any relationship I'll simply walk away , but to my greatest amazement they will be calling me to come back that it's not over yet , but I never go back because it will haunt you in the future.

for whatever reason, the moment i see tears i feel i am being manipulated.

emmm where is the cry cry scene in skyfall
for me na bloody action, fire and uglyface

On women crying for emotional blackmail, its as old as time

Eve used it on Adam to get him to chop d fruit
Rebecca to corrupt Jacob to deceive his father
It how it is the answer is in between

Women are mostly emotional creatures and they use it to get what they want
You set ur boundaries, what u can live with GOOD
What you cant NO

chaircover: Yes, but how does one know if these women are switching on the tear tank to emotionally blackmail or if they genuinely cant stop themselves from bursting into tears. You know that I said that I cry even when I am wrong, so anyone looking at me may think that I am just trying to use emotional blackmail but I am just crying because I dont like the situation that I am finding myself in.

. . .and Yes sometimes when I get into that crying mode and someone tells me to stop crying (usually has to be someone different from my husband) I will stop. So maybe you are right and it is emotional blackmail in a way (I dont know), it certainly wasn't deliberate and emotional blackmail was not at the back of my mind.

Its like when kids dont cry when they fall down and hurt themselves if their parents arent there, but tend to cry a lot more when the parents are within eye/ear shot. Is that a form of emotional blackmail? I dont really know ooo!

I dont set out and start crying just to get sympathy, infact the crying embarrasses me and I wish that I had more control over it.

before my kids started kindergarten, they would would pick themselves up when they fell. now when they fall they start bawling

Gosh....i hate it wen dey do dat. My gf once did d same thing one day. She was actually at fault o but i just kept quiet without saying a word. Next thing she started crying. SCAM.....I simply told her.....if she like make she cry her eyes out i no send. I left her in d living room to go to my bedroom. We didnt say a word till she left the following morning. Later called me and said 'I'm heartless'

Tears hardly move me.....d fact is, i hate ppl crying around me.

bless u op. . .
This issue of emotional blackmail has happened to me several times. . .my girlfriend is the mother of tears when she screws up. . .she knew i was soft hearted and i could'nt stand to see her cry so she took advantage until one day when i grew balls of steel. . .she screwed up and started crying like some popular nollywood actress. . .and i told her "why are u shedding tears?. .u should be shedding blood". . .lo and behold the tears magically disappeared. . .
Morals of the story. . .dont fall for crocodile tears when ur babe screws up.

Ladies and their funny old antics. So some women in this day and age still use the tear-trick

if u cry me too i go cry' no be only u get tears for eye

Biola, the part where M died na.
The movie was beyond shooting and killing showed the real Bond, his upbringing etc. I cried oh

I know but it was expected
JDench is getting old and has to be killed off at least she killed off her bastard son and made JB the legitimate spy king

Pele
I also dropped a tear in Titanic years ago
Braveheart shook me especially when they killed that chic.. oh young love

I didn't cry at Titanic oh, I wailed, real wailing like I lost someone.
I cried at "The Patriot" didn't have the heart to watch Braveheart because they told me Me Died.

oyb:

before my kids started kindergarten, they would would pick themselves up when they fell. now when they fall they start bawling

OYB so rite they would look at u if u flinch they would cry but if you ignore they would get up dust themslef and move on

Ahh Patriot another epic by Mel Gibson n Heath Ledger

REALLY,

Are there still people who cry when watching movies !!! (smh non stop )

the last time I felt sad while watching TV was Aguero's last minute strike against QPR in the final game of last season. and my saddest TV moment was rigobert songs last penalty against Nigeria that made the eagles lose the 2000 nations cup at the national stadium (Now that's a valid reason to cry - patriotism).

If James Bond and Di Caprio like, let them die one million time for film, na dem saka

4 some women crying is a hobby and telling them sorry their UNICEF/UNDP civic right.

Well as soon I learn that the tears for all purpose and intent is for blackmail, I'll swing fast into action. I will just start playing Toni Braxton's 'let it flow' and arm myself with a very good mop.

pak: REALLY,

Are there still people who cry when watching movies !!! (smh non stop )

the last time I felt sad while watching TV was Aguero's last minute strike against QPR in the final game of last season. and my saddest TV moment was rigobert songs last penalty against Nigeria that made the eagles lose the 2000 nations cup at the national stadium (Now that's a valid reason to cry - patriotism).

If James Bond and Di Caprio like, let them die one million time for film, na dem saka

There is notinwrong in been emotional. its who we are HUMANS

But that aguero gol sweet me DIE!!!!

CC .... now that one pass me o you're an emotional wreck sis.....cry cry cry ..... I guess you will also cry if I give you a surprise visit in your Ibadan store cos I'm coming with full force

Debrief ; I get what you're saying .... for pity parties eh? Get that alot from staff you're about to reprimand or fire.... older staff that makes you feel you're too rude .... it just makes me angry more when they start to pull those stunts and I just give them the hand and not do eye contact....

I rarely cry.... I prefer to take a break in a secluded place and bawl my eyes out than let people see me miserable, my hubby said its okay to cry but it's just my nature to be tough skinned but I will be remorseful tho.... Kinda like Kennedy's .... It has a lot to do in upbringing too.... being raised solely by a man ... he never cried since I've known him

I believe that most times women can't help bursting into tears,whether they are wrong or right.I hate to shed tears because I see it as a sign of weakness but I can't help it.I try not to speak when am very angry cos I might end up in tears.Most women have over active tear ducts just like chaircover said.Others might be con artistes whose stock in trade might be to blackmail with tears.I wonder how the guilty manage to cry to buttress their innocence.

Am doing a good job moping up my tear ducts.I hate that feeling of vulnerability that comes with crying.

tobechi74: That d power of a woman -TEARS

I doubt u. Power of women are there punny.

chaircover: There is emotional and there is blackmail. We are all different and some of us are actually very emotional because thats just the way we are.

I cry a lot. Always have done and I doubt that it will stop anytime soon. It doesnt mean that I am doing it to blackmail anyone.

I cry when I watch things on TV. Just Friday I watched Skyfall in the cinema and cried thrice in that movie I wont say where cos I dont want to ruin it for folks who are yet to see the movie. Who crys watching James Bond? Thank God the place was dark and no once could see me crying

I cry when I watch survivor stories, I cry when I watch births on TV, I cry when I watch Air crash investigation; all sorts. Im always wiping my eyes and pretending that there is something in my eye. I cried when I saw my daughter singing in the Christmas School play and I cry when one of our tropical fish dies sef!

If Mr CC and I have a misunderstanding and I am right, I cry. If he is wrong I cry too. I def cry when I am accused falsely or my intentions are misunderstood . . .thats just me

So for me there is no emotional blackmail behind it. Mr CC is used to it and when the tears start flowing he will go and get tissue and cuddle me. Some of us just have very active tear ducts

lmao, i have always known chaircover is a cry-baby, her heart is softer than baby wipes. cried watching "skyfall"? jeeeeeez, judi dench is old - she was always going to die anyways. better dont watch "life of pi" otherwise you would be escorted out by the wardens.

@ topic,
most women use these tears to win favours, they use tears to make their tales more believeable and blah blah blah. the moment i see crocodile tears, i begin to doubt their stories. i understand we all have varying degrees of threshold of pain but then some women are just pathetic......