Our love became a nightmare when he found solace in another woman’s arms and he changed to a wife beater”. A house wife, Mrs Olubunmi Jolaogun, disclosed this while praying an Orile-Agege Grade ‘B’ Customary Court,Lagos to put an end to  her  9-year-old marriage to her husband, Olubode, over desertion and lack of care. The 35-year-old-woman, who lives at 2, Musa Street, Ikotun, told the court that her marriage had been nothing but a nightmare.

”My husband had nothing when I met him, and I was the one taking all the responsibility at home. ”When things started getting better for him, he neglected me and, before I knew it, he had impregnated another woman and spends quality time with her. ”He lied that he was going to Abuja. I later saw the receipt of the hotel he lodged in  here in Lagos during that time,”she said.

”He always accused me of prostituting which I never did; he came to report me to my parents and, in the process, he slapped my elder sister.”

Olubunmi, a mother of two urged the court to dissolve the union and grant her custody of the children. Meanwhile, Olubode, 38, denied the allegations. He said, “I did not leave her. My business took me out of the house. I have always cared  for her and the children. ”While I am away, she doesn’t sleep in the house, and I don’t know where she normally goes. She is extremely stubborn and doesn’t listen to me.

”She has not spent  up to 30 weekends in my house for the past four years and I don’t know why”. Olabode, who lives at 9, Temidire Street, Ikola, Ipaja, Lagos also told the court that his wife had pushed him outside and could not be a caring and responsible husband again if the marriage was not dissolved.

”If the custody of the children is granted her, I want my children to be taken to my parents  every holidays, because my wife’s family contributed negatively to our fight”. The court president, Mr Joseph Adewusi, told the couple to maintain the peace and adjourned the case till Jan 28 for further hearing.

very unfortunate situation like this are often brought up when things are no more getting rossy. That is when they start reading meaning to many things they would let go.

^^ But in this case, things were actually turning out for the better (according to the wife).

Sad story though.

quite unfortunate that non of them want to say the truth,sorry

No surprise there.
It only takes an artful and loving player to respect all women he deals with.
Anyman that puts down his wife because of another female is a USELESS MAN!

There is always an excuse to phock other women!
Marriage na waya!
Kata kata efry whia!

I can feel this man's pain.
90% of divorce case can be traced to the fact that extended families want to influence events in a marriage and this ends up as interference.
Parents,brothers,sisters need to learn that once a couple become man and wife they MUST be given their space and be allowed to build up their home.
Take it from one who knows what he is talking about.

Richvkunt: I can feel this man's pain.
90% of divorce case can be traced to the fact that extended families want to influence events in a marriage and this ends up as interference.
Parents,brothers,sisters need to learn that once a couple become man and wife they MUST be given their space and be allowed to build up their home.
Take it from one who knows what he is talking about.

I'm pleasantly surprised to hear you say this.

Somehow, I expected you to be of the "Support-the-extended-family-at-all-costs" school / African traditional values.

Yep, I agree wholeheartedly with you on this one Richy.

*** By the way, Happy New Year O! ...***

^Happy new year to you and yours.

For better for worse,for worse for gone.

A tale of two citizens.

I think the man's side of the story is true. Why should a married woman spend weekends outside her home even if the man is cheating on her,I sincerely doubt if the women of nowadays can be as faithful as our mothers. Especially going by the said tribe of women simply nothing to trust about them.

what is d court waiting for in disolving ds marriage? both parties seems saturated.

I keep sayin it.... Even thou i'm 101% yoruba, i wont marry from my tribe. If you marry a yoruba woman just have it mind that you marry the entire family. A yoruba woman cant think for herself unless she invite all her families.

The wives never gets the credit when something Good happens to them ooh, it is when they misbehave they remember they have wives.

On a slightly different note, If the woman is not the "psychological support" for when a man makes his millions, is it fair to say she ain't the "psychological support" for when things go south?

Sagamite and Dayakanu. . .I hope it is obvious that I am using style to look for y'alls trouble.

dis has been d Word frm every cheats!.

Richvkunt: I can feel this man's pain.
90% of divorce case can be traced to the fact that extended families want to influence events in a marriage and this ends up as interference.
Parents,brothers,sisters need to learn that once a couple become man and wife they MUST be given their space and be allowed to build up their home.
Take it from one who knows what he is talking about.

Sweeera, where you been??!!

Happy New Year Dollface!

ifihearam: I think the man's side of the story is true. Why should a married woman spend weekends outside her home even if the man is cheating on her,I sincerely doubt if the women of nowadays can be as faithful as our mothers. Especially going by the said tribe of women simply nothing to trust about them.

lol, well that is until they get into trouble

ifihearam: I think the man's side of the story is true. Why should a married woman spend weekends outside her home even if the man is cheating on her,I sincerely doubt if the women of nowadays can be as faithful as our mothers. Especially going by the said tribe of women simply nothing to trust about them.

another stewpid comment from a man who keeps abusing women on this forum.whats the difference between you and the man? are you now the judge to decide who is right or wrong? what has tribe got to do with this topic anyway? mtscheeew!

well I gat nothing to say
#just feeling to post on fp shaa #

they should try and work things out because of the children... because it will affect the children.

i know what i mean, sad story of the past

My friend that is not an excuse... no matter what happen you have the will power to do what ever you want to do.... no one can push you nor stop you... the power is in your hands.

The Judge should have just sentenced the man to two years imprisonment or an option of fine of N250,000.

Normal yoruba lifestyle! Case close!! Next thead pls

Desloaaa: dis has been d Word frm every cheats!.

Exactly. All they say is ''she caused it''. *long hiss*

They should have noticed their incompatibility from d beginning. The wife seems to be very out-going.
So many things are ignored at d beginning, claiming love, love, love, whereas, d most essential things are ignored, thus, results like this are inevitable.

At times we human just fool oursefs. An average guy has like 7 girls he nails and a cute guy probably 50 then a rich guy hmmmmn dozens, wat about a cute and rich guy? Or are the women 20 times the men in naija mtchewwww. Just maturity and discipline we all need. If a guy can't zip up then a woman shudnt close up. Givin xcuses for lust is absurd and immature

slimchi2k2: quite unfortunate that non of them want to say the truth,sorry

correct,d truth yet to be said.

I undastand d whole scenario (trading blames) bt it wont help, it will end up messing the lives of those children(lack of care/parental training-aint easy living with a single parent). 4 d sake of d kids dy shd 4gv each oda n strt 4m were d stop. There is nothing dat cnt b repaird. Wish d kids a blesful life

God will judge accordingly.

To the liar and to the one who is lied to. We are all accountable to God. Giving excuses for an extra marital affair can only come from a lame man.

ifihearam: I think the man's side of the story is true. Why should a married woman spend weekends outside her home even if the man is cheating on her,I sincerely doubt if the women of nowadays can be as faithful as our mothers. Especially going by the said tribe of women simply nothing to trust about them.

Imagine being married to man like this?

He sounds like the twin brother of the devil himself.

[quote
author=ifihearam]I think the man's side of the story is true. Why
should a married woman spend weekends outside her home even if the man
is cheating on her,I sincerely doubt if the women of nowadays can be as
faithful as our mothers. Especially going by the said tribe of women
simply nothing to trust about them.[/quote]mr were u there?.

greatgod2012: They should have noticed their incompatibility from d beginning. The wife seems to be very out-going.
So many things are ignored at d beginning, claiming love, love, love, whereas, d most essential things are ignored, thus, results like this are inevitable.

Now this is a very reasonable assertion,but there is a case of assault waiting for criminal investigation(man slapped elder sister); The man accused the wife of prostituting and she accused him of impregnating another woman, I believe both accounts corroborate what caused their separation, the woman was not very open with information and the husband was always threatened by her financial status, thus he harbored reservations in his mind about the woman and when he got his break and she was still acting the same to him,it became a good reason for him to begin an extramarital affair.

;But from the real dimension, the woman has a spirit husband who wants to break up her real home,