busolayemi: gone r dose days wen I av tym for responses on nairaland...buh u c madea, forget bou women emancipation...I tink its only normal a man helps his wife...its not jst bou gender equality buh mayb ma background...I av such a lovin dad who wudnt allow ma mum ovastress hersef...dats minus d fact dat a bigger chunk of d financial stress is on him. For instance, he doesn't allow ma mum wake up at nyt to care for d baby as long has d baby's weaned...most nyt, I wake up nd see him in d livin room, carryin d baby on his chest or his neck...jst to lessen d stress for mummy...nd I can't rememba eva seein dem argue talkless fight...so u c, if u feel am talkin cos of waeva ur reasons, den u nid to get to sum homes...I dnt tink it remove anytin frm a man to help his wife out...yes, d wife shdnt take advantage of dat buh at d same tym...men shd learn to help more....wat do u say of men dat can't even cook...if their wife isn't dere, dey turn to mama bash n eateries...I dnt get african men...so complicated...God bless ma hubby thoe...he's a blessin to me*kissesdearie*

Black Peni5: Shebi it was the babes that were clamouring for gender equality...You don see responsibility now you wan run.

touchmeder: We both work but i run the house generally
I cook, clean and do the whole stuff BUT he helps
I dont insist, i dont do rota, i dont do 50 50 nonsense but he just generally helps out
A good man who loves his wife will do these sort of things you dont have to insist and run all over the place screaming
He will do his bit because he cares and loves you (at least mine does)
Understanding between the couple is the key. Each to their own

Osario: To you all writing in pidgin. Please, if you can't write in proper English, then get out of this forum. Your expressions and spellings suck

Truckpusher: Then why are you coming here to influence unmarried girls that showing some bravado to their hubby will make them different from other women?.....women don't enjoy their husbands by showing gragra oh...if you want your husband licking your foot, all you've got to do is to show that weak feminine nature which is normal and natural and you'll see the man becoming a superman feeling like a king that wants to protect his priced subjects even with his life....men are just like that in nature.....no sane man will mistreat a woman that is soft, gentle, and respectful .most women that doesn't get help from their husbands are mostly women that wants equal right and all that stuff you peeps keep buying from the west because the man's natural instinct will see you as a fellow competitor he'll no longer see himself as protector hence the clashes and all that follows.

busolayemi: u dnt av to undastand...as long as u undastand d flow of discussion...if u av sumtin contribute, do...if not f**k off

busolayemi: sometime last week, I got into a discussion with a male friend of mine and the subject of discussion was that gone are the days when women sit at home to cater for children....These days, its a collective effort...now, that got me thinking if the financial responsibility at the home front is now shared...what happens to the domestic responsibilities....cos I know men who still insist their wife do their laundry and sum chores all in the name of being the man of the house...

busolayemi: its u guys dat r makin d discusiion complicated....mayb if a guy ad cum out to speak d way ma favorite commenter spoke...d ishu wnt get dis far...buh men don't jst like women talkin bou dem sharing chores at home nd dey tentd to want to attack whoeva brings it up...na today

Orikinla:

How many career women sit at home in the 21st century?
Men who assume their wives are also their housemaids belong to the 19th century.

When a married couple says lets start a family, that means both of them are going to live, love and work together in unison to have a good home. The duty of the wife as a help mate is support her husband to succeed in like and be a good husband and father of their children.

There is no golden rule that his wife must wash his clothes and iron them, except he is ill or physically disabled to do so himself.

Osario: To you all writing in pidgin. Please, if you can't write in proper English, then get out of this forum. Your expressions and spellings suck

busolayemi: pls tel em we r in d 22nd century...i

Its so amaze me when you gurls come on here seeking opinions from differnt angles on how to treat or beat your husband, shadowkeeping your real self...Listen, no amount of advises or people's opinion can equal you doing that thing first, and see the outcome. Not Living by people's word. If you are fond of slapping men, try it. If you are that lazy type, carry out that gesture with him..

If you make it, fine..if you don't, so be it...btwn, Whats with the 22nd century??

busolayemi: its u guys dat r makin d discusiion complicated....mayb if a guy ad cum out to speak d way ma favorite commenter spoke...d ishu wnt get dis far...buh men don't jst like women talkin bou dem sharing chores at home nd dey tentd to want to attack whoeva brings it up...na today

Osario: To you all writing in pidgin. Please, if you can't write in proper English, then get out of this forum. Your expressions and spellings suck

thorpido: I would do all these for my wife but I'm not sure I'll marry a woman who talks like this.

thorpido: I would do all these for my wife but I'm not sure I'll marry a woman who talks like this.

touchmeder: We both work but i run the house generally
I cook, clean and do the whole stuff BUT he helps
I dont insist, i dont do rota, i dont do 50 50 nonsense but he just generally helps out
A good man who loves his wife will do these sort of things you dont have to insist and run all over the place screaming
He will do his bit because he cares and loves you (at least mine does)
Understanding between the couple is the key. Each to their own

busolayemi: favorite comment...

LesbianBoy:
A househelp(preferably a sexy ekaette ) would do all that, not the man!

Boss13:

A matured woman.

JallowBah: He works, I works.
He pays, I pay ( house, food, bills. )
I buy my own beauty-things with my own money, he buys whatever he needs with his money.
I clean, he clean.
I cook, he cook.
I get up with the kid in the night, so does he. ( After breastfeeding stopped.. )

And for me, that is how I want it. I do not wish to go to my husband and ask for money for clothes, shoes, or a coffee for that matter. And I do not wish to put the whole responsibility for bills on him either.

busolayemi: gone r dose days wen I av tym for responses on nairaland...buh u c madea, forget bou women emancipation...I tink its only normal a man helps his wife...its not jst bou gender equality buh mayb ma background...I av such a lovin dad who wudnt allow ma mum ovastress hersef...dats minus d fact dat a bigger chunk of d financial stress is on him. For instance, he doesn't allow ma mum wake up at nyt to care for d baby as long has d baby's weaned...most nyt, I wake up nd see him in d livin room, carryin d baby on his chest or his neck...jst to lessen d stress for mummy...nd I can't rememba eva seein dem argue talkless fight...so u c, if u feel am talkin cos of waeva ur reasons, den u nid to get to sum homes...I dnt tink it remove anytin frm a man to help his wife out...yes, d wife shdnt take advantage of dat buh at d same tym...men shd learn to help more....wat do u say of men dat can't even cook...if their wife isn't dere, dey turn to mama bash n eateries...I dnt get african men...so complicated...God bless ma hubby thoe...he's a blessin to me*kissesdearie*

lindiwey: Na wa for dese men in dis forum..tnk God for my husband he is nt d kind of man dt sees anytn wrong in helpn out..he dosnt knw how to cook cos of his upbringn but wen it comes to cleaning d house,washn our sons clothes,feedn n bathing him he is ever ready to help out infact its division of labor in ma house and we r very happy,we gist yle doin our chores.and I respct him a lot.dts y am seriously lookn for a job so dt we cn share d financial burden..

Originalsly: Like you said that's the way you want it. So who is the head of the house? ...who has the last word?... who wears the pants?...hmmm...the trousers? Every family has a head...one head...is that you? @ topic...I do believe the man should be the provider and the woman take care of the home. Depending on where you live and circumstances it may be necessary for the woman to work. What happens if they both work and the man loses his job? Does he not do anything at home... because it should be done by a woman? I don't agree with that.I see nothing wrong in a man helping out in the home...even if they both work.

Geebee-M:

A man dat truely luv his wife wud definately nt just sit & watch her do all house chores. U sound as if its a right, if he doesnt do it, he is in 4 it

Boss13:

Linda, many married men on nairaland help their wives out domestically but they just don't come to nairaland and brag about it. I am not married, but if my wife ask me or even insist I do it I will never. However, if she jokingly tells me. I will definitely support her. There is a huge difference. The difference is - how to talk to your man. I assist some of my girlfriends wash my clothes when they are washing it. I don't assist with cooking, cos I don't know how to cook but I might be in the kitchen cracking some jokes to relieve stress or holding the paste tomatoes.