Mynd_44:
Not a racist but something along that line. Same way I would call someone who chooses not to date black people racist

HisRib:

I choose not to date white men. So this means I'm racist? NO. Preference is NOT racism.

yuzedo: Reading back on your comments, replies and tone, I do commend your maturity and coolness, not resorting to insults or defensive, cagey, uncouth and ratchety behaviour shows you might really have some class and intelligence.

However, bottomline still remains: Your message is in poor taste, and your desire is quite selfish and shor-sighted. I'd ask that you reconsider, but that would be an exercise in futility. As you said, to each his own.

Therefore, I wish you best of luck. Cheers.

HisRib:

At the end of the day I spend just as much money on my man. I guess I raised the right topic for the wrong crowd.

Cheers

Kirinwa:

No No No.It's not about wrong crowd.Are you trying to say that because we don't agree with you we're wrong crowd?You even used the word villagers to address us earlier.
I can only understand what will happen if your guy disagrees with you on some key issues.
Remember so far no one has supported your line of reasoning.Even your fellow girls don't understand you more less us.
Girl grow up.Age has little or nothing to do with maturity.

Kirinwa:

No No No.It's not about wrong crowd.Are you trying to say that because we don't agree with you we're wrong crowd?You even used the word villagers to address us earlier.
I can only understand what will happen if your guy disagrees with you on some key issues.
Remember so far no one has supported your line of reasoning.Even your fellow girls don't understand you more less us.
Girl grow up.Age has little or nothing to do with maturity.

HisRib:

If I told a person who's struggling to feed himself or his family I spend $300/week on manicure & pedicure, they too would feel insulted. So of course the "crowd" has everything to do with it.

Anyways, I wouldn't force anyone live outside of their means. I was just stating my opinion. My engagement ring should cost 3months worth of salary. Just principles. A grown man won't have an issue with it.

SniperInADiaper: Gold digger.

God help you when you get married and your husband loses his position financially and can no longer give you extravagent things.

Sweetlemon: E eya!
I have been going through and studying the op's comments.
No, she's not a gold-digger. Just a helpless cinderalla romantic who has been dreaming of her wedding and prince charming for so long that she's so reluctant to wake up to reality.
Op, no need to feel bad joor. Most girls dream, or have dreamt of diamond rings at one point in time or the other. Only thing is that as we grow older, we start waking up to reality that not all of us will be lucky enough to marry such men and so we start to lower our standards and console ourselves with stuff like "things will get better" "I'm not materialistic so I don't care" etc.
Op, there's no crime in wanting a man who can spoil you with money, but please, don't put your mind on ready made only, look out for potentials as well. A hardworking, focused, self-controlled, well connected guy is a keeper my dear, even if he hasn't yet hit the jack pot.
ABOVE ALL, make sure a man loves you!!! The contents of a man's heart is more important than his bank acc. You may meet a rich guy who can afford a giant rock but may make your life miserable afterwards. So endeavor to see the man's heart first before accepting his ring o! This is however not to say that broke guys do not have their own wahala (talking from experience)
Let me finish off by saying that when a man really loves a woman, he gives her the best, materially, physically, mentally, socially, spiritually, etc. So saving 3 months salary for a ring shouldn't be too much wahala for him esp as she will be wearing it forever.
However, bear in mind that for most guys, buying an engagement ring is an emotinal issue. Most guys spend according to how special the girl is. The more special she is, the more beautiful the ring will be, so op, concerntrate more on being a special girl to the man whose ring you will wish for and watch him bring your dreams to reality.
Goodluck op!

Truckpusher: if your man is ok with the whole idea of spending his hard earned three month salary on engagement ring only ,then go ahead but lemme assure you that the day he loses his financial security and things didn't change for good for a very long time, he'll despise you........truth is no sane man respects a woman that makes him spend unesscearily no matter how rich he is.

Sweetlemon: E eya!
I have been going through and studying the op's comments.
No, she's not a gold-digger. Just a helpless cinderalla romantic who has been dreaming of her wedding and prince charming for so long that she's so reluctant to wake up to reality.
Op, no need to feel bad joor. Most girls dream, or have dreamt of diamond rings at one point in time or the other. Only thing is that as we grow older, we start waking up to reality that not all of us will be lucky enough to marry such men and so we start to lower our standards and console ourselves with stuff like "things will get better" "I'm not materialistic so I don't care" etc.
Op, there's no crime in wanting a man who can spoil you with money, but please, don't put your mind on ready made only, look out for potentials as well. A hardworking, focused, self-controlled, well connected guy is a keeper my dear, even if he hasn't yet hit the jack pot.
ABOVE ALL, make sure a man loves you!!! The contents of a man's heart is more important than his bank acc. You may meet a rich guy who can afford a giant rock but may make your life miserable afterwards. So endeavor to see the man's heart first before accepting his ring o! This is however not to say that broke guys do not have their own wahala (talking from experience)
Let me finish off by saying that when a man really loves a woman, he gives her the best, materially, physically, mentally, socially, spiritually, etc. So saving 3 months salary for a ring shouldn't be too much wahala for him esp as she will be wearing it forever.
However, bear in mind that for most guys, buying an engagement ring is an emotinal issue. Most guys spend according to how special the girl is. The more special she is, the more beautiful the ring will be, so op, concerntrate more on being a special girl to the man whose ring you will wish for and watch him bring your dreams to reality.
Goodluck op!

yuzedo: Bia, you dis foolish geh with your wicked message, you dey sell ring? Na market you dey market your business so?!

See as you dey ginger as if say na beans. You don't even care about love, you just wan makes sure say your ring fine pass your neighbour own.. Shiorr! Na una type dey marry at 40yrs, divorce at 41yrs!

HisRib:

I spend $300/week for mani/pedi of my OWN money. I have a very good JOB. Once AGAIN this was just about engagement rings. Damn!

Idowuogbo:
Yeah yeah! Even beggars would come online and claim dey own Bar-beach. Na2day?

HisRib:

Sure. But I'm not one of them. I'm a career woman. I have a great job & can afford about anything. Nice try though.

HisRib:

I was just stating my opinion. My engagement ring should cost 3months worth of salary. Just principles. A grown man won't have an issue with it.

jmoore:

"fairy tale principles"
grown man? Ask your dad how much he spent on your own mother's engagement ring.
You need to grow up!

HisRib:

Both my husband and I are going to be financing our wedding. I didn't say I wanted an expensive wedding. I want a nice intimate meaningful wedding ceremony. I just want a gorgeous engagement ring. Is that too much to ask for?

jmoore:

"fairy tale principles"
grown man? Ask your dad how much he spent on your own mother's engagement ring.
You need to grow up!

HisRib:

My father spent $35, 000 on my mother's engagement ring. Any more questions? I'll wait.

2goodbobo: When all fingers are pointing to you, then their is something wrong. Nobody is saying you should not get what you want, but learn to be considerate. What if he can't afford such amount of ring? What if he wakes up one morning and give you a ring that is not worth the amount you wanted? What will you do? Will you reject it?

Between is very wrong for you to construe that we are "villagers" in these forum simply because almost everybody is not in consonant with you.

HisRib:

My father spent $35, 000 on my mother's engagement ring. Any more questions? I'll wait.

Acidosis:

I want to believe your above 23years..

Your Nationality pls?

jmoore:
thats why I said you need to grow up, liar liar!

HisRib:

I am 22 years old -- I am half Chinese and half Congolese.

HisRib:

My father spent $35, 000 on my mother's engagement ring. Any more questions? I'll wait.