rachiks: my dear, let no one deceive u. You should neva 4get the past becos without the past, the present or the future cannot exist. Strive hard to make ur wife undastand but neva give up dat friend 4 any reasn cos he is part of who made u 2day or if not u wouldnt have been existing.

zeefa: I don't really know how to handle this case cos its becoming a huge problem between me & my wife. I have tried to play it to the best of my knowledge but the situation is not getting in anyway better.

I & dayo have been friends for more than 15yrs. We grew up together those days in Ibadan and fortunately, we attended the same university to study different courses. We were in the same faculty of Engineering but different department.

The university I attended is without school accommodation, so we got an apartment close to eachother & sometimes he comes to my place & I go there too.

He loves Beans a lot back then and he happens 2 b a good cook. So most times, I visited him cos of the beans, laced up with Gari egba @ night.

However, we graduated & I was posted to delta state while he went to IMo state. Even at that, he comes to my place. I served in an oil & Gas company and we had enough money to spend.

I used to give him enough money those days cos he was given just a small allawe which cnt take care of all his needs.

After our youth service, I was retained & he moved to the uk for his masters courtesy of the little money I made during my service year.

After 3yrs, I moved too curtesy of him & he helped with part of the bills cos he was working and studying then.

He got married and after about a year I got to uk and I did mine too almost immediately.

But lately, I have been having issues with my wife over the closeness between me & dayo. we have a free calls to ourselves on O2 network. So we talk virtually everyday for more than two hour after work. And weekends,like saturdays, we move from weekend free landline to landline call to skype.

Just yesterday my wife warned me to desist from such altitude or face divorce.

Please, I need decent people in the house to advise me. I can't ask him to stop calling me or visiting me. He once told me about his wife having similar problem with our friendship too. We are just normal friends with no string attached.

Do I call both families together to resolve it or ignore the threat from my wife.

Thanks so much for taken your time to read.

jidegirl12:

Well cultured my foot!


Iwo okinrin jatijati to won fin shepe fokunrin! Akukubi omo!
Ki lo n gbe ton gbin? (<== greetings )

What's the deal with this guy that you think your wife's opinion/ request is irrelevant here ?
alapa ma sise oledarun okunrin freeloader looking for hand downs from a richer buddy go get a life ( good for nothing lazy bu tt!)

You lack decorum and qualities of a caring hubby. You even find it egoistic to trash your wife on public forum cos of your useless SOB messiah friend that a needs good head shake himself.
[b]
I have a hubby too, heck he ask for permission before drinks with his best buddy, sometimes I say no and he heeds[/b].
Marriage is a collaborative business btw 2 individuals ONLY ... all gay buddies without a life should take the back seat thank you!

Fvcking egocentric smug! Mooch oshi!

I'm going back to sleep.. bad luck man.. ajimaseri apadalosun okunrin !



ABASI KEYUNG!!!!!!!!

lordweezy: now listen a woman or no woman was there @the beginning beta divorce her if she can't accept u for who u n ur friend ar.jus barely 5yrs or less n she is been bossy then if you leave her tomorrow she will send you to wash her dish,pants and undies and if you don't she would threaten to divorce

purposeDiva:
I'll b frank if ℓ̊ say the OP doesn't need our advice @al. From all I've read so far aπϑ his responses, he already has α̇̇ set solution; letting his wife go! Then I'll say he's not ready for marriage if this is Ð réason he'll send his wife packing. Also if his frnd loves aπϑ cares for him as much as he claims here, den such α̇̇ frnd shldnt allow himself be d cos of his best frnd's broken home. Sm advisers b sincere! Wat r̶̲̥̅̊ they always talking abt for 2hrs EVERYDAY I'm not sure he calls his wife even for 3mins over d phone everyday while @ work. aπϑ after work is meant for family. 2hrs EVERYDAY COME ONNNNNNNN!!!

peruso: TRUTH BE TOLD ABT THIS THREAD........ 90%-98% LADIES WILL TILT TOWARDS THE WOMAN, 70-79% 0F GUYS WILL TILT TOWARDS THE MAN.

WE CAN ONLY GIVE OUR OWN PIECES AS TO WHAT WE THINK, SOME OF US WILL ADVISE BASED ON- OUR RELIGION - OUR CULTURE - OUR TRIBE - OUR UPBRINGING- OUR BIAS- OR EVEN WHAT WE READ.

BUT I WONT ADVISE!!!! NO I WONT
I WILL ONLY MAKE A CANDID OBSERVATION; DID I HEAR DIVORCE DIVORCE AS IN DIVORCE,..

A HOLY INSTITUTION IS THREATEN WITH THAT WORD[b] DIVORCE[/b] BECAUSE OF WHAT!!!!!! HMMMMMMMMM

NOT BECAUSE OF CHEATING, NOT BACAUSE OF KILLING, NOT BECAUSE OF CHILDLESNESS, NOT BECAUSE OF THE BILLIONS OF REASONS WE ASSUME EVEN REASONABLE(OF WHICH THERES ALWAYS ROOM FOR FORGIVENESS).


NO COUPLE SHOULD THREATEN THE OTHER WITH DIVORCE.

BUT FOR WHAT? I ASK AGAIN

lordweezy: now listen a woman or no woman was there @the beginning beta divorce her if she can't accept u for who u n ur friend ar.jus barely 5yrs or less n she is been bossy then if you leave her tomorrow she will send you to wash her dish,pants and undies and if you don't she would threaten to divorce

Kgdavid: grown men shuld not spend so much time talkin to each other on the phone, your wife probably feels ignored and neglected during that period!

luvmijeje: Op ur wife is suppose to be your best friend. To be candid you are being selfish.2hrs afterwork every weekdays and also on weekends,haba.!So u are expecting her not to complained.
You better set your priority right before your marriage fails.

Mr Tumble: @op From your story I can see that your wife is a medical doctor and was assisted by this your same friend during her plab days and you on HSMP. She wants you to sacrifice your friendship for your marriage. My question is why will you be on HSMP and still be fearful of RP threat? Provided you have no wrong doing be it assault, then I don't see why your ground should be shaking and the need for associated trembling. For you to be this worried means you either not on HSMP or you are worried about your marriage and not RP. If you are worried because of the RP it implies that your HSMP claim is invalid and your story is far from the truth. If you are worried because of your marriage then I can understand that, and your concerns about salvaging your marriage. From my own point of view....If it is about your marriage then, unfortunately you have to weigh your options because if you pretend and play along till you get your RP will you still be willing to be with her? what kind of threat will she be issuing, probably the assault and neglect or rape? A woman or man issuing any kind of threat be it divorce or RP threat just because he or she has an advantage over your status not your life has no wife or husband credentials and hence not a wife or husband material. If your HSMP story is valid then I don't see what you have to loose from her threat. Marriage is not about threat or taking advantage of one another.Provided you two can have a dialogue and reach a consensus not you obeying a threat order. If you go on to pretend till you get your RP then divorce her then its obvious its all sham. She is taking advantage of the fact that you need her RP.To me thats slavery 21st century. That shouldn't fly. Lastly,putting your life in the hands of a woman is not a good thing to do. which seems to be what you have done knowingly or unknowingly. Set yourself free as you are not different from other Nigerians marrying white ladies and if they don't conform to the ideology or lifestyle of the ladies involved they get threatened over their immigration status...thats





exactly what am seeing here. Why be a slave? No offence.

zeefa:

Well, I don't kw what to say as per your comment. I feel she is just getting jealous unnecessarily. As regards your suggestion, if she decided to pick up calls from any of her female friends too. Franklyspeaking, I won't mind if that will make her happy.
The person in question help her get the materials for her PLAB exams & other stuffz. This person is not just a friend but a brother from another woman ready to do anything for us as a family.

My dear, I can't be given u details of my family on NL. But he has done a lot for her too especially when she was pregnant. His wife don't really complain cos he told me he has warned her never to pokenose into our affair.

But my own wife seems to be strong headed that won't just listen or understand but all she intend to do is 2 dish out the threat of a divorce.

As I said, I will call both party to a meeting on sunday, then I will give the house details on our conclusion. I pray it works, but if things go wrong, I have no choice than to let her go. I respect her a lot & I love her and I don't expect such from a woman that care & love her husband.

Besides, am so grateful for all your advise & suggestions.

Jastombutex11:

You ladies just need to shut up when men are discussing real issues. If u are the one in his shoes i bet u spit in the air i he tells u he's not getting any attention from you. Mind u BONE OF HIS BONE threatening him with Divorce. I bet that's something else. Sip alomo and relax okay come back and comment constructively my dear

aijaydiva:
constructively my foot! Where is ur own constructive comment? Is it this one? Smh!

luvmijeje:
Keep shut! Who is he suppose to turn to,if not the mother of his children,the bone of his bone. He is no longer single and he should start acting that way.

Jastombutex11:

You ladies just need to shut up when men are discussing real issues. If u are the one in his shoes i bet u spit in the air i he tells u he's not getting any attention from you. Mind u BONE OF HIS BONE threatening him with Divorce. I bet that's something else. Sip alomo and relax okay come back and comment constructively my dear

Jastombutex11:

Nothing looks constructive to a dumb a33... mind u i didn't even comment on the post so its your head now not just your foot smh