Misolex: SUMMARY...... He felt he neded 2 gt hold of a lady while in 9ja...he went 4 hiz choice,it tuk im 3months 2 gt diz gal cus d gal ws ok in ha 4ma relatnship...she moved on 2 ma OP's syd cus im JUJU enta ha.it culd nt av bin posibu 4ha 2 4gt such an x in a hury...wen she told ma OP 2 make ha 4gt im...she ment b beta kuz ma x z gud...i c d lady 2b SINCERE...ma OP nided a big n uneazy FISH......i bin no 1 talk b4...d relatnship kan actualy wrk,i bliv,........bt OP ansa ma questns :1. hw long av u bin in 9ja. 2. Wat made u go 4 dat gal. 3. Wen ar u kumn bak 2 9ja...............

bright87: `

Tnx for your answer, women cant be trusted doesn't mean i should conclude. i am truly a no nonsense person so dont think she is using me, and besides it was not that easy wooing her.. it took about 3 months to cross d bridge just that i was good with my game plan on getting her to my side.. because it's very rare to get a girl without BF these days you just have to learn the art dislodgement...

bright87:

Kindly enlighten me more on what you mean by "me dwelling on long thing" and "her being emotionally weak" Bro I have to be sincere with you, i know she has strong feelings for me because we didnt start dating coz she had problems with her ex-, they were okay together while i snatched her, but truth be told I just wish I never got emotionally attached to her, because i am actually not based in naija and it's of truly no use keeping such relationship.. coz i would be leaving in few months time. Even though she insist that she would wait for me, but i have told her that she can't wait and I see her as someone who cant wait so she shouldn't think of waiting and this always angers her. I truly needed a sincere advise on how to detach myself from her emotionally without her knowing and still do things with her normally... coz i don't wanna feel too bad when the time comes for me to leave naija. Thanks.. just advise not thrashing me, coz i am not a learner, just that we find ourselves in certain situation we never planned for. Cheers !

NLG_woodey:
You can love more than one person at a time but on different levels.
A lady with 4 BFs may have a spread like this
Boy A: 40%
Boy B: 20%
Boy C: 15%
Boy D: 10%

The remaining 15% will be reserved for unforseen circumstances like RUNS, etc.

Guess what?
She may end up marrying B if A disappoints.

bright87: `

Tnx for your answer, women cant be trusted doesn't mean i should conclude. i am truly a no nonsense person so dont think she is using me, and besides it was not that easy wooing her.. it took about 3 months to cross d bridge just that i was good with my game plan on getting her to my side.. because it's very rare to get a girl without BF these days you just have to learn the art dislodgement...

Well I actually met with her again yesterday, I told her to see me after work and she did, well I have actually asked her to take some time off from me to go and think properly what she wants.. I even went as far as making her understand that she might be lusting for me and not love.. I just told her to think and decide and let me know and that I would be willing to let her go if her love for her ex- is greater that what she felt for me.. I am not greedy as most ppl think I love her, I have other women flocking around me which I simply can't date or have fun with them because I dont feel anything for them. I wudn't wanna hurt her if she is truly sincere with me.. From what she has told me so she said she felt very bad and that she felt she has cheated on her ex- who has been nice to her, dating him and telling him no sex until marriage and here we have crossed the bridge.. If i was truly greedy i wud keep having fun with her and not wanting to know if she truly loves me.. I am simply kind of confused, just that I get this mixed feelings and she also feels bad knowing that I think she will return back to her ex- when i leave.. But the fact remains that I never enticed her with money or anything materialitic, there are quite a lot she doesn't yet know about me as regards my possessions

Dogohson: The gal is just on a roller coaster emotional ride. It does appear to me that she is highly emotional by nature. Believe you me, thats exactly how she's going to elope with someone else if the opportunity arises. My concern is for her Ex whose heart is probably in tatters now, while he of whom she is dying for is seeking for ways to detach from her. What a paradox

bright87:

Thats not my definition of love, but as you know it's all a mixed feelings.. The truth is this, I am not a kid and I won't ever force myself on a Gal who doesn't feel anything for me.. I don't waste time on things like that. Well she is always happy anytime she is around me, she is just too afraid that she might lose me, she never demands anything from me even when she knows i am capable, she talks so much about the future with me.. The truth is that if someone feels something for you, you will definitely know, I am prudent enough to let her be if she doesn't feel anything for me.. I have asked her so many times why she loves me, she said she just didn't see anything in particular and that all she knows is that the feelings just grew with time and she will always beg me not to break her heart and she has made me emotionally attached to her which i truly dont like. I just know she feels something strong for me (maybe not love) but there is just this strong feelings which had grown over the months.

didicold: To me the OP is just an ass, first u wooed d girl then u 4ked d girl, now u r asking us to give u a good reason/technique to dump or distance urself from her, am i d only one wu perceives something off about dis scenario, i think op just wants someone to love and fawn over him while he plays d hardcore i dont give a shit guy in shades, for d girl ,all d best to her, her life just got complicated

@op grow a pair and quit whining about *how she loves u too much*