andrewozed: I met this young pretty lady in my church and she is intelligent and everything I want in a woman. I recently asked her to date me which she agreed to and I want to propse for marriage immeditely because I don't want a long relationship. But the problem is she is yoruba and during interraction with my friends they adviced me that I can go ahead if I really love her but I should bear in mind the following issues perculiar to yoruba women:
1. A married yoruba lady will eventually have a younger boyfriend outside marriage.
2. A yoruba married lady that can afford it will purchase properties and build houses without the husband's knowledge or approval.
3. A yoruba married lady doesn't like cooking for her husband or children, they prefer buying food outside for the husband and children to eat and even when they cook their food is usually stew based. Eg yam and stew, amala, ewedu and stew, egusi soup mixed with stew, etc

Please I need your response, are these things true? Because these things are taboo in my state where I come from. I need to be sure she won't keep extra marital affairs after we get married for long, though she is educated.
Constructive comments please

repogirl: Wow, na wa o, all this stereotyping. Being a yOruba girl myself married to an ibo man, if my husband had heard all this one, he would have run o.
I advice you to court for atleast 6 mnths abeg, u might not know everything but some things might stand out. Marriage is however totally different from courtship and it helps if you get to know each other quite well and even your families' so you might have an idea of what you are getting into.

That's all I have for now.

sluvy4tune: Yoruba women are dirty by default

No Qualms:

Interesting. How have you been coping with his culture, language, foods, etc.

Were you sent to his village after your wedding to learn his culture? I learnt that is the norm.

Thank you.

andrewozed: I met this young pretty lady in my church and she is intelligent and everything I want in a woman. I recently asked her to date me which she agreed to and I want to propse for marriage immeditely because I don't want a long relationship. But the problem is she is yoruba and during interraction with my friends they adviced me that I can go ahead if I really love her but I should bear in mind the following issues perculiar to yoruba women:
1. A married yoruba lady will eventually have a younger boyfriend outside marriage.
2. A yoruba married lady that can afford it will purchase properties and build houses without the husband's knowledge or approval.
3. A yoruba married lady doesn't like cooking for her husband or children, they prefer buying food outside for the husband and children to eat and even when they cook their food is usually stew based. Eg yam and stew, amala, ewedu and stew, egusi soup mixed with stew, etc

Please I need your response, are these things true? Because these things are taboo in my state where I come from. I need to be sure she won't keep extra marital affairs after we get married for long, though she is educated.
Constructive comments please

repogirl:

I schooled in the east for about 5 years so I learnt a bit. I learnt ibo language a bit, I can understand a little but we speak English to each other and the kids. I did learn a lot of their soups in school, oha and onugbu happen to be my favorite and the one I didn't know, I learnt from him. As for culture, I'm learning that as we go along.

I didn't have to spend time with his family, I don't know if they still do that these days but I did meet his family during d courtship and they were really okay.
That's it. BTW, we were friends for a year, courted for four (on and off) and have been happily married for almost four now. It's God's doing sha.

repogirl:

I schooled in the east for about 5 years so I learnt a bit. I learnt ibo language a bit, I can understand a little but we speak English to each other and the kids. I did learn a lot of their soups in school, oha and onugbu happen to be my favorite and the one I didn't know, I learnt from him. As for culture, I'm learning that as we go along.

I didn't have to spend time with his family, I don't know if they still do that these days but I did meet his family during d courtship and they were really okay.
That's it. BTW, we were friends for a year, courted for four (on and off) and have been happily married for almost four now. It's God's doing sha.

andrewozed: I met this young pretty lady in my church and she is intelligent and everything I want in a woman. I recently asked her to date me which she agreed to and I want to propse for marriage immeditely because I don't want a long relationship. But the problem is she is yoruba and during interraction with my friends they adviced me that I can go ahead if I really love her but I should bear in mind the following issues perculiar to yoruba women:
1. A married yoruba lady will eventually have a younger boyfriend outside m
2. A yoruba married lady that can afford it will purchase properties and build houses without the husband's knowledge or approval.
3. A yoruba married lady doesn't like cooking for her husband or children, they prefer buying food outside for the husband and children to eat and even when they cook their food is usually stew based. Eg yam and stew, amala, ewedu and stew, egusi soup mixed with stew, etc

Please I need your response, are these things true? Because these things are taboo in my state where I come from. I need to be sure se won't keep extra marital affairs after we get m
arried for long, though she is educated.
Constructive comments please