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|Re: Why Do Men Think Women's Lives Cannot Go On Without Marriage? by Nobody: 9:08am On Dec 31, 2013|
[CHocolaTE:Wow! Men benefit more? Seriously? Okay o. Just by the way side, i think the problem we have in this part of the world with respect to marriage is our general perception of it. Marriage here is seen as a means to have children and little emphasis is placed on the companionship aspect or partnership aspect of it. That is why we see a lot of arranged marriages here and there. What about marrying a friend, knowing someone before marrying him/her? No. Many men here also see their wives as possessions, semi maids and breeding machine. This is very WRONG.
|Re: Why Do Men Think Women's Lives Cannot Go On Without Marriage? by CHoccolaTE(f): 9:39am On Dec 31, 2013|
|Re: Why Do Men Think Women's Lives Cannot Go On Without Marriage? by Nobody: 11:31am On Jan 01, 2014|
I didn't read your lengthy post but I think it the other way around. Most women actually think their lives wouldn't go on without marriage!
|Re: Why Do Men Think Women's Lives Cannot Go On Without Marriage? by CHoccolaTE(f): 7:53am On Jan 02, 2014|
Na lie. It's men that like hyping themselves to believe that all women need them to continue existing.
|Re: Why Do Men Think Women's Lives Cannot Go On Without Marriage? by Nobody: 6:25pm On Jan 02, 2014|
|Re: Why Do Men Think Women's Lives Cannot Go On Without Marriage? by Winter4: 4:33pm On Feb 08|
I see the news, I hear gists;
This marriage thingy...
My mum has started raising prayer points on my behalf lol
She's like "How will this my daughter be saying marriage is not compulsory" lol
Meanwhile Me I was just joking
But of course, my "joke" stemmed from deep thought on the subject
I'm still looking sha o
In the meantime, I am putting Myself First
|Re: Why Do Men Think Women's Lives Cannot Go On Without Marriage? by Ohidata: 12:29pm On Feb 09|
First, I'd like to say that i respect everyone's opinion and and that this topic is a serious one and is a major reason why a lot of people, men and women alike live unhappy together
Marriage is the union between a man and a woman to become husband and wife. So what the gay people are doing now isn't marriage - I just wanted to clear the air on that.
I quite frankly believe that if a man truely loves his wife, he won't have issues helping her out at home irrespective of what his family or friends make of it. Helping your wife makes you more of a man and not less, as most men erroneously believe.
The problem starts with us as people not having the right values. Men and women alike make bad choices in marriage. Most guys are stuck on women's physical appearance and think little of anything else and a lot of women are stuck on guys' wealth and good looks. One must really know whom one is marrying. A guy that yells at his girlfriend habitrarily while you are dating is most likely going to be abusive in marriage. Similarly a lady that nags isn't going to automatically stop cos she's gotten married - she gets worse.
The bottom line is there is lack of consideration for one another, in most cases on the part of the man towards the woman; there's superiority complex, again from the man to the woman in most cases; and let us not forget that in most cases people get into marriage for what they can get out of it and not what they can put into it. If a man treats his wife less than a partner simply because he is the primary bread winner, then he lacks wisdom because there have series of instances where the table turned and the woman became the bread winner. Likewise, if a woman mistreats her husband because he lost his job/business and hers is thriving, she lacks wisdom... Men are known to cheat at will, this is wrong, whatever problems you have with your wife that is sexual, stick with her and sort it out as I guarantee that the gains far outweigh the work required. So also it is no news that so many men these days are raising children that are not biologically theirs without their knowledge, this is Ludacris and utmost wickedness. So many things are wrong in marriages these days and they can all be traced to the following:
- cultural differences
- getting married for the wrong reasons
- deceit (e.g. a man presenting himself as wealthy just to marry a woman only for the woman to fine out otherwise after the wedding)
- always comparing one's partner with others
- lack of or inadequate communication
- boredo, m/inactivity
- disrespect for either of the other's family members
- family interference
- lack of finance/mismanagement of funds
- improperly managed stress
- impatience in choosing a partner
- lack of trust
- excessive jealousy
- unsatisfied sexual needs of either of the couple
- lack of appreciation
- lack of forgiveness
- insighting children against their father/mother
In all of these, to get a partner that though isn't perfect but would do all in his/her power to make you happy, try and do this: make sure the person you want to marry is going to help you know God, love God, serve God and be with God in eternity.
Any person that would seriously assist his/her partner in achieving the above is sure to be good to go. The other things are minor.
As for the issue of a woman/man willfully deciding not to marry, there's no issue with that. The only challenge is that any such person has to be celibate or otherwise commits fornication - according to Christian teaching and I assume the Muslims teach likewise, but we all know that a lot of people just want to be free to have sex with whomever they so please without consequence. That is that, we are free to choose our own paths.
Look with keen eyes for your partner with prayers and you are sure not to err. Don't overlook warning signs when courting. Discuss everything possible before getting into marriage.
Finally, marriage is the only school where U get your certificate before you begin and it is for life. It is a lot of work and don't give in at the slightest show of trouble. There are pointers to how to spot a genuine man/woman that would truely love you, all you need do is look out for them.
|Re: Why Do Men Think Women's Lives Cannot Go On Without Marriage? by needful: 8:48pm On Feb 09|
The truth of the matter is, society placed alot of burden on women. I thank God that my girls aren't gonna be raised in that environment. Women this and that, the aspect that pains me so much, is the fact that a woman who only bears xx chromosomes will give birth to girls and the same man who bears Xy chromosomes will still crucify her for giving birth to female children. Nigerian men get wahala seriously. This is the aspect that usually blow my head. No doubt that men enjoys the marriage more than women infact. U marry, wahala because u are afraid of not giving birth to only female children because if it happens, that ur husband will quickly go outside and start impregnating anything on skirt. You no marry, that one na war from the societal pressure.
|Re: Why Do Men Think Women's Lives Cannot Go On Without Marriage? by Smile4mee01: 4:11pm On Feb 10|
Here's the truth.
The woman was created for the Man. And so it's really hard for a woman to live outside this purpose.
Just as a Man was created by God to dominate the earth, it's really hard for a man who is not living within purpose i.e making money and all.
If you dont get married. Can u truly and sincerely still do without a Man at all?
Dont let feminism drive you down a path you will regret. It's what it is. Somethings cant change till the end of time
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