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Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by slimyem: 4:46pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
Tpia, the only Nairalander who preaches and curses concurrently. Thumbs up o!! 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by Nobody: 4:50pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
debrief08: In the same section some are justifying the reasons why a man can sleep with his househelp yet getting high blood pressure and throwing curses on a s3xually frustrated woman sleeping with someone else. Even on this thread, there are the ones (at least one guy) that won't entertain this woman if she talks of divorce to regain her sanity and happiness. She should endure, buy a di*ldo blah blah blah. Yet she is the spawn of satan and the husband is angel Gabriel. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by Nobody: 4:52pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
coogar: You can't be serious. When a man cheats, LOTS OF PEOPLE will ask where the woman went wrong. When a woman cheats, she will be stoned to death but first disgraced and disowned, even of her own children. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by Nobody: 4:53pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
There is this old saying that a Man needs an opportunity to cheat but a woman needs a REASON to. @OP to attempt to answer your question, it's a no. Not common for married women to cheat but i think it has started happening in this morally corrupt generation. One thing however that you can be certain of is that no woman married to a "sensible" man will cheat back on him (even if has made a mistake in the past)Married women who cheat are ofetntimes married to reckless men. The woman in question is cheating back cos it makes her happy and has porobably brought her some sanity she might have lost due to her husband's reckless nature, who im i to castigate her? Something else would probably make another woman happy like a vacation or sort. To each it's own but i think men should also realise that the world is changing, even married women now faces temptation and are regularly being "hit on" by other guys. If a man sows fidelity, let him by all means reap same, but no errant guy should start expecting to reap flowers where he sowed banana abeg. 3 Likes |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 4:55pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
coogar: well maybe she has an history of judging men harshly but we have to judge her based on her post today I agree with this statement It is not right for society to expect women to be the moral compass while men throw caution to the winds However the reality is that when women commit adultery the impact is felt much more through out the society hence the seeming unforgiving stance towards the women folk It still does not justify either gender 1 Like |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by coogar: 4:57pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
biolabee: which is exactly what i have done - she's a fat hypocrite! |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by SisiKill1: 4:58pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
Hehehehehe....Coogar made a funny!!! Oh women would be so lucky if the bias against them was only on the section of some obscure website, won't they? I'm laughing at comments about what cheating women will tell their children and blah blah. Yeah, the mother is the ONLY moral compass a child needs, he can watch his father change women like hairstyles and treat his mommma like crap....that's not damaging at all oh because his daddy kukuma has no influence on him (which makes me wonder why they then say stay for the kiddies but that's a story for another day) but his momma going with other men. . .well open the psychiatric wards doors because it's about to rain mentalos!!!! Lmao!! All sorts I tells ya! By the way, Ile...1 million thumbs up. 4 Likes |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by Nobody: 5:04pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
mrs flawless: God bless you very much for this! It would be good for them if all unrepentant, shameless, disrespectful, serial cheaters like the man in the story if they end up with wives just like this woman! 1 Like |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by Nobody: 5:04pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: Hehehehehe....Coogar made a funny!!! Yep you got that ^^ right |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by Nobody: 5:05pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Amin Ashe |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 5:08pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
coogar: well... If a man sows fidelity, let him by all means reap same, but no errant guy should start expecting to reap flowers where he sowed banana abeg it does not always work like that though women will like it for thunder and brimstone to fall i know a guy that took his wife in after she messed up maybe due to the kids... but he is an exception will i do same.. i dont know Do i expect my wife to leave me if i transgress.. she may she may not God knows but i dont want to try it I have a question for the women in the house Are these sins the same to yo, rate in order of 'worst-ness' 1. A man has a fling once 2. A man has a steady mistress and does not neglect his home duties 3. A serial philanderer like the man in the post Will you throw away your marriage because of these |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by coogar: 5:09pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: Hehehehehe....Coogar made a funny!!! hahahaha sisikill, but it's not the same. let's look at the extremes of infidelity in both cases. the worst that can happen to the man is knocking one of his girlfriends up and having a baby out of wedlock. in the woman's case - if she gets pregnant from one of her lovers, she would name her husband as the father of the bastärd! i ask again - are the 2 cases the same? |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 5:12pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
coogar: i get why some men wil do DNA test for their kids They DOnt wanna raise no others man's kid I aint that baby's daddy.. sometimes i sit and wonder how can i father another man's son- wyclef |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by coogar: 5:21pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
biolabee: absolutely..... as long as a man cannot bring his love child home and claim it's his wifey's biological child then infidelity in men and women are not and can never be the same thing. |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by slimyem: 5:22pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
I thought this thread was about cheating in retaliation in which case both husband and wife don't mind each others excapades anymore not analysing and debating worse case scenarios infidelity can birth. However,a man who sires a bastard outside the home and the woman who brings a bastard home to her husband are the same IMO.None is worse than the other.It makes no sense to compartmentalize. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by Nobody: 5:24pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
biolabee: 3, 2, 1. 3 leads 2 only by a whisker. |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by Nobody: 5:29pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Amen jare. I might not have the liver to cheat back on an unfaithful spouse but honestly, my kudos to those who can do it and not not feel guilty about it. What is good for the goose....... |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 5:33pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
slimyem: I thought this thread was about cheating in retaliation in which case both husband and wife don't mind each others excapades anymore not analysing and debating worse case scenarios infidelity can birth. slimyem. my bastard is MY BASTARD.. my wifes bastard is another MAN's seed To a woman,,, they may come from the same place but mehnnnnnn.. they are different two different things.. dont ever compare ileobatojo: thanks.. 3 leads 2 interesting But is 2 enough for a woman to end her marriage.. Ladies over to you Cos what i am hearing is that a man in scenario 2 should divorce his wife to have his mistress What if he loves his wife and remembers theyve been through a lot together In old age. physicality is not an issue but rather companionship David had Abishag to warm his bed but his soulmate was bathsheba
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Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by slimyem: 5:35pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
biolabee:Its all infidelity.Only number 1 is forgivable if there's true remorse and a "promise" it won't happen again. 2 and 3 are in the same category and as per the question.... What is "throwing your marriage away"? Opting for this woman's choice or walking away? 1 Like |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by coogar: 5:38pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
mrs flawless: those who can do it are sluts - period! these people deserve each other - a morally-bankrupt man and a cheap slut in a holy matrimony..... |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 5:40pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
slimyem: Its all infidelity.Only number 1 is forgivable if there's true remorse and a "promise" it won't happen again. throwing your marriage away is what it is,.. seperation or divorce so if your pouse committed 2 or 3, you would walk out of the union? Second question What if he loves his wife and remembers theyve been through a lot together and wants to stay for the friendship, kids etc In old age. physicality is not an issue but rather companionship |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by slimyem: 5:44pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
biolabee:Your opinion bro. If i were to judge,i'd judge both equally. Pity the woman who doesn't deserve that her husband cheats on her and sires kids outside. Pity the man who doesn't deserve it but gets to raise a bastard anyways. The same way its not fair to the woman is the same way its not fair to the man.Its a crazy world. End of! Back to topic. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 5:51pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
slimyem: Your opinion bro. you'd judge equally because you are a woman and to you they are all your children. fair enough To a man they are not the same you may be thinking of fairness and equity but they are not the same Back to topic It has been from time immemorial.. For fans of Games of Thrones, Cercei Lannister killed King Robert's Barrathian bastards as they had more royal blood than Geoffrey Barathion who is a product of incest all are bastards but some are more equal than others LOL |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by slimyem: 5:51pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
biolabee:probably. Second question....and also wants to keep doing his offside runs? Is that what you are saying? true. |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 5:53pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
slimyem: good response.... that means infidelity to a woman's mind translates to the fact that the man hates her interesting... |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by Nobody: 5:54pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
Biola, Once a cheater always a cheater, a stray cat that already tasted the neighbour's food will definitely try it again. No matter how you pamper/baby/care for a useless man, he will still go back into the gutter be belongs. It's now up to the woman to know how to fill that void and deal with it It takes great courage , respect and self discipline for a good man to dedicate his life / commitment to his family and that's why a long term courtship is very important before marriage. I don't believe in one time cheater, and that goes to all my friends circle . The horrendous behaviour of some men are mind boggling like cc always say you can get all the goodies in a marriage as a single fella as long as you're loaded. |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 6:00pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
jidegirl12: Biola, Another interesting comment.. so if in an alternate universe You would walk of the union.. yes? Also what other xteristics would you term these useless men.. stealing from their wives, drugs, alcohol etc will men who are like three baby daddies be useless or will they be useful since they are not married to any of their baby mamas.. (akata men) |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by slimyem: 6:01pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
biolabee:...because they are HIS BASTARD(S) too or ain't that right? you may be thinking of fairness and equity but they are not the samekeep rationalizing right and wrong Watching GOT too but haven't seen this part.don't spoil the suspense for me. |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by slimyem: 6:05pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
biolabee:Nope.It translates to the fact that he has no respect for her and/or for his family. |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 6:05pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
slimyem: rationalising... Sorry .. thought u were on the GOT thread and thus on Season 3 I am waiting for all of season 3 before i watch once and for all.. i am on vampire diaries now back to topic only a rare man would raise another child as his, moreso if he knows if he does not know and finds out late in life, it is a rarer man that will continue raising that child we all agree.. society seems the same thing through different lens one is a minor trespass and the other is a violation or taboo... id like to know how women see it hence my questions.. |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by biolabee(m): 6:06pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
slimyem: Nope.It translates to the fact that he has no respect for her and/or for his family. Thanks.. this disrespect as you term it. is it enough to end the union... |
Re: Is This Common Amongst Nigerian Married Women? by mawuqueyan(f): 6:13pm On Apr 30, 2013 |
Never jugde a man until you av walked a mile in his shoes... Father Ȋ̝̊̅§ a dog already, now mother Ȋ̝̊̅§ turning †̥☺ a bitch (sorry †̥☺ say) what example Ȋ̝̊̅§ she setting for her kids God help them. 1 Like |
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