****MOTHER'S LETTER TO HER CHILDREN ABOUT MARRIAGE (worth reading - SHARE THIS MESSAGE)

TO MY GIRLS:
Marry a man whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, he is not hard to please. Admire him, cheer him on and show gratitude, and he will fall over himself trying to please you. Smile often, speak well of him always, and do whatever necessary to try and maintain a pleasant mood about you so that it transfers to your home, making it a place where he and your children love to be.
You’ll have bad days of course, crying days even, and that’s when you go to your bedroom, kneel on the floor and beg the Lord to carry you. Then get up, get a fresh perspective (crayons will come off the wall), and try again. Above all else, make a home.
TO MY BOYS:
Marry a woman whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, she may be hard to please only if you don’t know “the secret”. What is that? I’m glad you asked. The secret to pleasing your wife is to make her feel safe and treasured. You may have to move out of your comfort zone to do this at times. She won’t always readily translate the oil change to love, though it means that. But let me give you a “secret question”–a question you need to ask her often. It’s not just in the asking, though. Be sure to focus your eyes on hers, may be even touch her shoulder or face, and then ask: “What’s on your mind these days? “ And then be ready to listen. She wants you to draw her out. She will perceive this as your protection over the matters of her heart. Tenderness, listening, protection. That’s what she wants.
TO YOU ALL:
If your wife or husband does something really stupid, forgive. If they do it again, forgive again. Forgiveness must be the propelling force in your lives each day. Dwell on the strengths, push out thoughts of their weaknesses. Take every thought captive–choose to love.
Here’s that part you are not going to hear often:
If you find yourself “not happy”, having lost attraction, disinterested, etc., you are not permitted to even think about a divorce. If you find yourselves arguing more and more, don’t think for a minute that “the children will be better off out of this”, because they won’t.
The vows you took on your wedding day were not suggestions. They were covenant vows, before a Holy God, family and friends, to stay with this person the rest of your life, even if you don’t feel like it. You swore a solemn oath and if you can’t live up to it, don’t get married. Decide up front that your marriage is irrevocable. There is far more motivation for getting along if your “marriage house” has no door.
Do not share intimate thoughts or feelings with anyone of the opposite sex.Do not find yourself alone for any length of time with such either.
Divorce is not a “private option”. It will affect multiple families for many generations. When you “separate what God has joined” you permanently injure far more than just yourself.
Guard your marriage as fiercely as you would guard your own life. Treat your spouse as an extension of your flesh, just as God sees you. Treat your spouse like other family members. You know, “you gotta love ‘em, they’re the only family you’ve got”.
I want you to be happy, I surely do. But I will pray for you to be holy.
Proverbs 19:14 - "Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD."
Proverbs 20:6-7 - "Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find? The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him."
God bless you saints...
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By Pst Samuel Olagbenjo

A letter 2 OP:
dear pastor,
sorry sir,if d word summary is not in ur dictionary.I dont think i can read dis,eida meaningful or not sir.Try and go back 2 skul sir nd study english.
Your faithfully
Aklofs
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Oga @ the top, Pls can u summarize?

Wizee: Oga @ the top, Pls can u summarize?

He should get d 4ck out with his crap.That's it broda Salifu

@ op Thanks for this encouraging words of wisdom.it has helped me a whole lot in setting my priorities when it comes to who i choose to give my hand to in marriage.meanwhile ignore these little minds.carnal minds think,breathe and eat carnality,they will see it as crap because their minds are too myopic to understand moreover this is a faceless forum (nairaland) where many people are uncouth,mannerless,extremly rude and lousy,so dont let it come to you as a suprise...yours faithfully a sister in christ

kulyie: @ op Thanks for this encouraging words of wisdom.it has helped me a whole lot in setting my priorities when it comes to who i choose to give my hand to in marriage.meanwhile ignore these little minds.carnal minds think,breathe and eat carnality,they will see it as crap because their minds are too myopic to understand moreover this is a faceless forum (nairaland) where many people are uncouth,mannerless,extremly rude and lousy,so dont let it come to you as a suprise...yours faithfully a sister in christ

In fact you are thé marriâge matériàl thé woman is talking about . Radarada
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Being a mother is hard work. Being a good mother is a lot of hard work. Being a poor mother is a nightmare.

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All women should read this post.

Sometimes being humble in itself, is a form of pride.

Yet, people who don't have access to stories have marriages that work. While people who have access to billions of instructions still fail in marriage. It is true that in the multitude of counsels, there is safety; but have we not heard where the multitude counselors will lead u astray? I have worked severally against instructions and I came out being the only one who was right. What happened to pastors who have messed up their own marriages? Do they not also talk marriage with their congregation. It takes two to make a marriage work or crash it. And most of the times, the majority of the ones which survived read nothing and listen to nobody.

Their is need 4 you 2 work on ur reading attitude.and 2 d op making christ ur first pursuit won't make u gud husband.