D-reloaded:

I can't picture myself in such because I don't intend of beoing with an immature slowpoke. Why would someone tell someone to leave a job if they are barely making enough for him and his wife talkless of children. Typical Nigerians I suppose

No sane person would want to be part of a single income household in the year 2008.

Btw I don't understand your last question, are you implying that a person aka "woman" that works isnt considering the "welfare" of her children?

Thing is, why am finishing my career, I'll have kids along the way! Long years in school, will be all worth it in the end sha

bawomolo:

chia, long years in school. u still haven't finished primary 6 after all these years

Thought you were playing hard to get

You're still stalking me na?

Wait till I sharpen my knife, trust me, I'll come and look for you!


and POST YOUR OWN (Mr. Children, career marriage)

RichyBlacK:

Chronologically: 1. Career; 2. Marriage; 3. Children

In terms of effort, attention, focus, energy:
1. Marriage (your spouse comes before any other bullsh*t)
2. Children (your children will be negatively impacted if your marriage fails)
3. Career (important for financial stability but not necessary; people with no careers have been known to be financially stable; and people with solid careers have been known to become financially bankrupt!)

yinkuso08:


I agree.

ChiefS:

Under Ideal condition for the woman:

Career
Marriage
Children

However everyone hardly finds himself in an ideal condition.And everyone's case is different.There are people that got married late and desperate to have kids in time.If the career will affect it in anyway they may decide to reverse the order.Also in severe cases where there is no one to take care of the kids and its necessary for the woman to leave her career for sometime and raise the kids then the future of the kids should be given piority.

algood:

Thanks. u really answered my question and iquite appreciate that word, for sometime and not a permanent stuff.
Well, i happen to leave my career to stay with my kids , though not voluntarily but the situation warrant it.

My husband income isnt that much to take care of us, but we are doing fine sha oh, i was having guilt within me, that leaving my job to stay at home, is it a good decision or a bad one,
thanks to your statement of leaving ones career for a while to take care of the kids , to a certain level then resuming back.

minniepoe:

@poster,

i am going to be sincere with my posting. under ideal situation, the home of a woman should matter to her more than her career does. the bible makes it known that a woman is the home maker. in a situation where the home suffers and the career blossoms is not a balanced situation.
the marriage should came first for not only the woman but also for the man. then comes the children. and then the career.
considering the scenario your have described, a man in his right senses that makes less than what can take care of his family will never ask his wife to resign from her job and take care of the children but will only do that out of selfishness. a man that is loving and caring and not selfish will only ask his wife to create more time for him and the kids and both work things out.
i have seen situations over here in Europe where the wife had to quit her career in order to take care of her three kids because they were always with the minder. the couple always left home half six in the morning and usually home between 8 and half 8 every week day. the kids only saw their parents weekends because they were usually asleep when picked up from the minder.
quitting her job didnt mean she had to stop working altogether, she only got a less demanding job, though not within the same field, less pay, more convenient time for her to take care of the kids and also saved them a lot of the child minding cost.
in cases like this, the woman should be ready to sacrifice her career for the welfare of her kids. i wouldnt think twice to take this decision as well.
for me in order of priority
marriage
children
career

Cadet:

Thought you were playing hard to get

You're still stalking me na?

Wait till I sharpen my knife, trust me, I'll come and look for you!


and POST YOUR OWN (Mr. Children, career marriage)