i met this guy sometime last year we started dating but he is 4yrs younger than me and still in school but will graduate this yr while i work in a bank. this guy professes so much love to me and tries his best to please me at least i think. he said he will marry me and recently i have this feeling that i'm not so comfortable with it cos his mom saw my pic that he used as his screen saver on his phone and told him i'm quite big he called me and told me but said that what matters is us that he told his mom that who she loves. what do u think? does he really love me?

well first of all i will like to ask u a question, is he the only boy or the last born, cos mothers like a man when his the only son they have, but i think he loves u

thanks for ur reply, he is not an only son they are just two but he is the last.

@Poster

Big as in high roller or big as in Big bones ??

Can you wait for him? No use starting what you cant finish. You know he's still a student. when you start presurring him for marriage he'll lay out his 10 year plan for you.

@Poster,
it all depends on how old you are,
I said this because i have witnessed a case like this.
If you are more than 26 and this guy is still in school,
I will advice that you be very careful not to put all your eggs in the same basket.
He might love you for real but you have to consider how old you will be by the time he finishes school
and remember he might not be willing to head straight to the alter from school.
Its a difficult situation.

hmmm,r u sure d guy does not stick wt u because of your job?and y would he tell u what his mum said?hes a man and should atleast keep certain things to himself,there r some guys that their families reject or say some nasty things about d babe they want to marry,still they keep it to themselves,and wont tell d girl,so y should he open his mouth and tell u his mum said you're big^{*some guys need to grow up in their minds*}

@poster,

How long y'all been together?

It is never a good idea for an older lady to be phocking a younger dude not to talk of marriage.  Especially if you are a Nigerian.


@Topic

Please, I beg you in the name of God. . . leave this dude alone and find someone more suitable for you.  How can you be sleeping with someone younger than you are in Nigeria for that matter? Especially if you consider the fact that most of them still live with their parents and it takes quite a while for these "younglings' to find their feet. If you were on the same page. . .in school and within the same age I would have said ok. . . college sweethearts. You are working for crying out loud and you are phocking a guy who is still in school? Good lord!

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm! Please. . if this is a Nairaland joke. . .let it end here!!!! Rubbish!

The sex cannot be that great. . .please leave this toddler alone!  I really do not care if you are big or not.  Please find an older, more mature and responsible dude and stop playing mommy.

That is really disgusting!

Im sure the guy is enjoying all the pocket money that you send to him.

gone are d days wen love conquers all.dese days it SEEM to conquer some not all.think wit ur head nd not heart.i see no future btw u nd d guy.as you guys go on ,one party will let go.why waste ur time nd emotions.amicable breakup wit d guy.full stop.