benefitzte: @ all,
I picked her up right in my car calls came in which she ignored, when we got home she took d call and lied about where she is to d first person, minutes later another call probably from a friend of d first caller insisting he and d friend are coming to meet her at where she said she was, their conversation was so audible cos it's a smallNokia phone.
I didn't say anything till dis morning, in her presence I took her phone and went thru it (I know what you would say but i 've never done dis before now, I 've alwaysbeen against it) and saw SMSs professing love, that was when I had to ask here.
Honestly speaking I know no one is to be trusted but this is my downside....I trust easily.
After more than 3hrs she is now telling me it was her friendthat used her phone to send those sms s that if it were her she would 've deleted them even when her name was mentioned in one of d sms, about d phone calls she now said it's someone she has been avoiding.
Truth is I don't believe her , between beating her up and asking her to leave tomorrow without paying her air fare back and beating her up and still not giving her anything I promised her, still contemplating which would serve her better.

byvan: You feel like hitting a woman you never paid a dime on?enroll into anger management classes ASAP.hit her, hopefully you ll pay heavily for your restless hands.

chronique: My advice: don't hit her. Act like you're not bothered and enjoy the goody bag as much as you want. When you're done with her,kick the biatch out and say bye-bye. Simple.

Pls make me understand u....are u justifying her actions because I 've not paid a dime on her? How about d few things I 've done for her in dis short time? [size=38pt]Fyi I was supposed to give her.d balance of her school fees[/size].

byvan: You have no right to hit her,period!!!begone if you can't take it anymore.If you must fight, go fight a man.

Ihedinobi: Dude, you did good not hitting her. Honestly, that she'd lie in your presence or refuse calls in your presence might also point to honesty. It may be that she truly is trying to avoid someone and it may not be smart for you to confront the person.

We guys are different from women. So don't judge her by yourself. Perhaps you should take a little time to check her story out. The part that makes me uncomfortable is the sms's. They really could have been sent by her friend or someone else but it's difficult to peg it considering that she didn't delete them to hide them from you. Her neglecting to delete them might be because she didn't actually send them and may have forgotten them. It may also be that she sent them and forgot to delete them.

I think it's up to you to decide what worst-case scenario you can live with and act according to it.

benefitzte: @ andromiada,
I do understand what blind trust is, for me to 've come here to seek opinions is because I want d relationship but for someone in a distance relationship and d little time u 've got to spend with her u are getting this kind of impression is really hurting.
Continue trusting blindly ? What if I end up wasting my time and resources? Am 33 now and I 've got so MUCH responsibility.

benefitzte: @ andromiada,
I do understand what blind trust is, for me to 've come here to seek opinions is because I want d relationship but for someone in a distance relationship and d little time u 've got to spend with her u are getting this kind of impression is really hurting.
Continue trusting blindly ? What if I end up wasting my time and resources? Am 33 now and I 've got so MUCH responsibility.

byvan: This wacky thing must be a f*olish character ,maybe you mistook here for your father's compound, that's probably why you will spew "Shut up" as if anyone will listen. Better go and answer where you are called.

andromida:

Well this is the way most Nigerians treat their relationships. They have backups, sidekicks etc in case the relationship does not work out. Most do not date with integrity,
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WackyJ1:
Madam this lady is showing the poster why having backup is necessary just like my ex showed me..