ogugua88:

[size=13pt]I didn't turn out well because I was flogged. I turned out well because I modeled my parents' behaviors. Modeling is the greatest form of discipline in my opinion. Children mimic behaviors, including physical abuse. If a parent flogs or spanks a child, don't be surprised when that child starts spanking and flogging siblings, cousins, pets, etc. Behave ideally so that a child will mimic ideal behavior. I don't need a cane to raise any child of mine.[/size]

sainty2k3:
I wonder when people like you will learn to be courteous on nairaland. Just because we are all 'faceless' doesn't mean we should neglect the moral value of mutual respect.
Now I can see what flogging has done to you

Magdalee: When i was growing up my father flogged me to the extent that i thought he hated me. I couldnt dare to look him in the eye for fear that i would be flogged. Even when i was sexually abused by a family friend i couldnt tell him for fear of being flogged. Something happened however one day when he raised his hands to hit me i held his hands and dared him to touch me. I had grown to be stubborn and to hate men. Today i'm 26 but no successful relationship. I therefore think that there are other ways to discipline a child. We are humans not animals

~Bluetooth:

Spanking is a Nigerian culture and I'm not sure you can take that away from them irrespective of their level of education.I don't believe in granting children absolute right to be wayward and useless to the society.

Maybe the Adebolajos won't have become terrorists if their parents had spanked that spirit of terror from their blood with a koboko while growing up.Well,Koboko is actually used to reset children to their default settings.

donwilz: Please, tell that to an ignorant person. Flogging has been part of our culture way before the colonial period. Generally, in my own experience, Nigerian kids are better behaved and respectful than their oyibo counterparts . When you beat a child moderately(not kill) and equally show some love after the beating, the child learns. My parents beat me and my other siblings, today, we are all non violent and responsible. Same to the other peers of mine.

elhadjkoko:

Beating aint allowed in the developed world & thats why we have serial killers, large sale murders and so on, I'm a teacher and f U want to know, schools where indiscipline thrives most are where flogging has been banned, there's a notable school in Ibadan where a student slapped a teacher and to save his job the teacher just had to walk away and report to the principal. There is another school where I once taught, where beating was also frowned, except for very serious offences. Some students that were sent home for school fees ish went drinking & later naked themselves on the street, what did the school do? They were given 4strokes each, the said students just started laughing after the beating.....now how do you think those ones will turn out later in life?
We need it to keep our wards in check...even the Holy Books support it.

So Kidnappers, Boko Haram, MEND, cultists, Area boys, herdsmen, ethic rioters, thugs, and armed robbers in Nigeria aren't serial killers or killers in large scale?

I think that the schools where beating is outlawed may be more indisciplined because the teachers themselves don't know how else to instill respect and discipline other than intimidation and fear.



We had a teacher in one of my classes in the US. He, of course, would never beat you, but he was intelligent, and well respected by the students. If anyone did anything immature such as talking in class would simply pause and look at them until they're done. This caused the person to stop immediately and everyone else feared doing anything that will cause him to pause and look at them. Because the students respected him as a man, they wanted him to respect them as well, and when he looked at them in disappointment, they would force themselves to stop because someone they respect and look up too is showing them that their action is childish.



The man who's words have been the most listened to in this history of human kind was Jesus Christ. Jesus didn't beat his followers. Jesus didn't intimidate anyone. Jesus spared the rod, but in his actions and his purity his followers respected the strength of his peace and we he spoke they would listen. He is akin to the parent that 'doesn't need to beat' his 'students' because they respected him so much that they were ready to listen to him and his ideas on a better world.

I'm not saying that everyone should be christ, but the most popular entity in the history of mankind is christ. He is the most followed (because Christianity is the world's largest faith), and he didn't inflict pain or intimidation on anyone. To say that the method of not hurting your subjects doesn't work is to go against something Christ himself proved in the bible.

INDESTRUCTABLEX:


You are on your own... I just can't believe Nigerians are impaired in reasoning. I can count the number of times my dad beat me mercilessly. I can't count the number of times my mum flogged me. Yet in all of that, I am way better. U can't compare the morals of a child that was flogged to those that were not. Flogging is the only way. It has been from the beginning and will always be.
Take our fore fathers for example. Do u agree that the world is gradually loosing it norms and values?
Before now divorce was a shame, same sex marriage was also a shame. Now pple are proud to say they have divorced 5 times or push for same sex marriage.
1c you leave ur roots, you become confused. Wo, I dey beat my cousin and after that I tell him y I do so. So you better shine your eye... Before you start regretting.

celeron40:
RUBBISH!!! If flogging is so effective, then why is Nigeria in the mess it is in today? Is your so called flogging not supposed to make better citizens. And you're here saying nonsense about divorce.