albridge: When a mans trust in his wife is betrayed by her having affairs with other men and he caught her red handed with a man on top of her should he still stay married to her or divorce her? Is there a place for christian forgiveness in such a case?

plaetton:

Big laugh.
Which adulterous woman? I do not recall ever reading about Jesus forgiving an adulterous woman. Kindly refresh my memory.
And by the way, was the woman his wife?

bukatyne:

This is what gets to me.

Whatever opinions you have, leave God, the Bible and Christianity out of it if it doesn't tally with them.

Who told you that God doesn't forgive sins? What did Jesus Christ come to do? If he doesn't, will you still be alive?

albridge: When a mans woman's trust in his wife her husband is betrayed by her him having affairs with other men women and he she caught her him red handed with a man woman on top of her under him should he she still stay married to her him or divorce her him? Is there a place for christian forgiveness in such a case?

bukatyne:

Are you a Christian?

If yes, remember the Lord's prayer

... and forgive our trespasses as WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TREPASS AGAINST US...

If you don't forgive people who offend you, GOD WILL NOT forgive you.

Toks2008:

I advice you to rid yourself from this funny ideology.

A man naturally is polygamous except the one who chose to be decent in that aspect.

Ladies are expected to even remain virgins till night of the wedding so the fact that these days,things have changed does not give women the impetus to cheat on their spouse.

The physical,psychological and spiritual damage to the man's psyche will never make it easy for him to remain happy with the lady even if he forgives her especially if he caught her in the act. That picture will never ever go no matter how he tries.

On the other hand, divorcing her is no guarantee that you will get a better lady because the next lady might even be worse than the divorced wife.

My advice is that if your wife cheats on you, save yourself the stress of divorcing her if she is really sorry and repentant because some are never sorry for the shameful act.

But If you feel you really need to move on please do and get yourself another bitch but just don't go through the stress of divorce process cos she is not worth it. Let her take the walk by herself if she can't cope with you having another lady in your life. At least you saved her the shame of an adulteress divorcee

bukatyne:

This is what gets to me.

Whatever opinions you have, leave God, the Bible and Christianity out of it if it doesn't tally with them.

Who told you that God doesn't forgive sins? What did Jesus Christ come to do? If he doesn't, will you still be alive?

alutacontinua:

Waoh! The female gender has suffered in this world. SMH!

bukatyne:

This is what gets to me.

Whatever opinions you have, leave God, the Bible and Christianity out of it if it doesn't tally with them.

Who told you that God doesn't forgive sins? What did Jesus Christ come to do? If he doesn't, will you still be alive?

armyofone: Yes, forgive.

The good book said: He who hath no sin should first cast the stone and the pharises left one by one.

bukatyne:

Are you a Christian?

If yes, remember the Lord's prayer

... and forgive our trespasses as WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TREPASS AGAINST US...

If you don't forgive people who offend you, GOD WILL NOT forgive you.

Toks2008:

For about 12 years i have remained faithful to my wife simple because i'm a believer,i fear GOD and also respect her as well as love her so if catch her today sleeping with another man, do you expect me to still keep her as my wife? HELL NO! If as a man i restrained myself despite all these temptations moving around so why can't she do same?

Nevertheless, i will not go through teh stress of divorcing her but punish her more by getting married to another lady and i care less if the new lady is a confirmed akunakuna and leave the stress of walking away to her.

genesisjohn: it is the same Bible that allows someone to divorse an adultrous woman

Toks2008:

Not at all. That is the way it ought to be.


Let a man go into a room with 5 ladies and come out, you will see people praising him for his conquest but let a lady enter a room with 2 men and comes out,i bet she will get the most disdainful look she can ever imagine.

Lets stop all these hypochricy and face facts.

alutacontinua: My own problem still lies in the fact that if a man were to be caught cheating, the story changes!
Why should it be any different for any gender?

alutacontinua: My own problem still lies in the fact that if a man were to be caught cheating, the story changes!
Why should it be any different for any gender?

plaetton:

Biggest f.... bullcrap.
Would give such stupid advise to your own brother?

plaetton:

Absolute garbage.
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It is the fear of punishment should keep people from committing crimes.
If we all have a get-out-of-jail card in the form of forgiveness always in our pockets, then pray tell, what would be the incentive to living a moral life?

Why dont you tell your partner or spouse to go out and seek cheap thrills, because your have your christian forgiveness card ready to bail him or her out of the prison of accountability and personal reponsibility.

There are boundaries.
even in our criminal justice system, some crimes elicit warnings, some elicit fines, other elicit jail time and the worst gets the death sentence. And we all know that the law is impersonal.

Adultery,the violation of trust in marriage, the most intimate and sacrosanct of personal relationships, is to me , unforgivable.
Forgive at your own peril.

Now answer my question. Would you forgive?

plaetton: [/b]
WTF?
Who?
Is he my townsman?
Garbage.

The bible told me that god, at least the biblical one, does not forgive any sin. Just ask the Israelites.

Obviously some unforgiven people are going to hell, not so?
So For whom else is hell for?

livebullet:

becos by nature , a man has more than 1 slot for a wife. God made it so. Women are made just 4 1 man.

Toks2008:

I advice you to rid yourself from this funny ideology.

A man naturally is polygamous except the one who chose to be decent in that aspect.

Ladies are expected to even remain virgins till night of the wedding so the fact that these days,things have changed does not give women the impetus to cheat on their spouse.

The physical,psychological and spiritual damage to the man's psyche will never make it easy for him to remain happy with the lady even if he forgives her especially if he caught her in the act. That picture will never ever go no matter how he tries.

On the other hand, divorcing her is no guarantee that you will get a better lady because the next lady might even be worse than the divorced wife.

My advice is that if your wife cheats on you, save yourself the stress of divorcing her if she is really sorry and repentant because some are never sorry for the shameful act.

But If you feel you really need to move on please do and get yourself another bitch but just don't go through the stress of divorce process cos she is not worth it. Let her take the walk by herself if she can't cope with you having another lady in your life. At least you saved her the shame of an adulteress divorcee.

bukatyne:

If you marry another wife, whoa re you punishing?

It's like a child saying 'my parents are stingy therefore I will steal'. Who will God punish? If you carry bitterness, how does it affect her? If you don't repent before God comes/ you die, who is the greatest loser? You will end up in hell and your wife will repent and go to heaven!

You better pray to God to heal you of bitterness and live your life to the fullest. What happened to you is NOT new! I have heard of women who toiled with their hubby for many years and then the man makes it and marries a second wife and chase the first! What should the first do? commit suicide? The funny thing is that if she doesn't forgive the husband, she is going to hell.

Don't let anybody drag you to hell or ruin your life with bitterness. At the end, it's a personal race between you and GOD. He will not listen that it was Iya Sikiru or Basirat or bukatyne that offended me

*Kails*:
idk...should a wife forgive an adulterous husband?

livebullet:

becos by nature , a man has more than 1 slot for a wife. God made it so. Each woman is made just 4 1 man.

bukatyne:

And stone an adulterous man to death!

Toks2008:

Nothing happened to me,i was simply making my notion known. Nevertheless, where did you get your assertions from.

As far as im concerned i have divorced her even without going through the stress of filing for it and getting lawyer that will even make me spend more.

I dont want to go into explaining your comments to you cos i can see you are getting it all wrong. Which hell are you talking about? when the only reason for divorce is adultery. Abeg get your facts right.

obyrich:
Divorce was given as an acceptable alternative to stoning. If your spouse cheats on you and you decide to cheat back, both of you can either chose to remain in the unfaithful union or part ways. Christ did not approve stoning but he graciously approved divorce as a remedy to adultery.