So sorry about your situation. It happened to a friend of mine. She got pregnant for this guy and the guy told her to abort the baby girl. she didnt. She bore the shame all through. She got pregnant for the guy the second time and the same thing happened. He told her to abort it and she didnt. Now the plan getting married after the two children. I pray it works for them.

Most guys dont think with their heads. The enjoy the koko but if the outcome turns out like this, they arent bold enough to face it.

My advise is---- dont allow him see the pretty girl, he is not worth it.Dont be threatened by him, he cant harm you.

I was thinking he came to apologise or something cos there was in naija film i watched that something like this happened and the man was to come and apologise to the lady becos he wldnt have children of his own. I think after the apology the man cld now have his own children.

Anyway, dont have anything to do with him for now. Just take ur time to think of what to do.

Cheers!

@ Poster

The earlier you 4get ur past the better. Denying the man his biological child will only worsen your own life in future. Like it or not, the child will grow up looking for her father. And legally in Nigeria, I don't think you have power to deny a man his biological or legally adopted child. Think twice.

If you succeed in denying the man his child, can you bear the burden of training the girl all her life? Who will your girl call father all her life? Should you marry 2morrow, do you think your husband will see the girl with good eyes? Lastly the child will even grow to hate you for denying her fatherhood.

Yes, the man should be blamed 100% for deserting you with ur pregnancy then, but methinks you're not 100% exonerable from the past.

hummm ur story is so touching but we 10x God u got over it and u ve found ur feet back on track cos there re many out there that ve similar story that re ruined 4 ever cos of such, but my own advice for u is to inform ur family about this but dnt give in to him too soon just like that cos he actually wanted the child cos of one stupid worldly title, dont mind men they always thing they can eat there cake and ve it.

Gosh!! that man is a labista, don't even try to let him near your baby or he might plan to kidnap her therefore you have to be more viglant

tell him to go to hell and take one agent for his title.

Don't give.

Every man can make babies, but very few are fathers,and this selfish fool is not one those few. Can u imagine he has seen u b4 and didn't come near? Dat means he only needs d child because of one stupid title. I hope he's given biggest looser and fool. Tell ur family abt dis development, that idiot doesn't deserve a chance.

I grew up wit my stepdad & my mum, so I want to tell you "DON'T GIVE HIM UR CHILD". He doesn't have wat it takes to be a father & won't suddenly develop it. Ur child will have all the love she needs & will be contented when you tell her the truth abt her father when the time is right. You suffered for the child, if U̶̲̥̅̊ were not good enough to be his wife then, am sure U̶̲̥̅̊ & ur child are way too good for him now! Be wise so U̶̲̥̅̊ won't regret it. Once bitten twice shy!!