tpia:

famous last words of polygamic wives.

Yet even in Nigeria there are women who move out of a rich man's house rather than continue being in a polygamic relationship.

Yes, it happens.

and if your boyfriend's other wives decide to take you on, its on. You'll bear the scars for the rest of your life.

redgalusa:

This is not a polygamous relationship. There are Nigerian men in the U.S who have two Nigerian wives. They live in separate households, however, they are both wives. This is nothing knew nor is it a revelation. The fact is that it is taboo to speak of those things.

My situation is very different. The Naija lady claims to be this man's wife. She lives in Nigeria and has waited six years for him to fulfill his promise. His paperwork is fine. He is a citizen, he has brought his two brothers here. I do not believe her, I know the game and manipulation is at the core.

[size=18pt]If she was truly his wife he would have brought her to America[/size].

JustGood:

I wait for the day you will come back to tell everyone what happened.

You're not the first and you wont be the last!

redgalusa:

Just Good. Why are you so negative? The tone of your replies have routinely
been cynical. Why not well wishes instead of sarcasm, not all Nigerian men are bad.

agathamari:

i am an american living in nigeria with my husband. what you were told is what i have experienced as well as a few american and european women i have met here. i recently caught my hubby messing around and when i confrunted him he made it all about him and how i was embarassing him because i was mad. wtf

Theblessed:

[b]Guys - both American, African, men/women from other nations, why expose yourselves to risks you know that is always there in your face Common sense dictate a man/woman on the run with illegal entry is a criminal in the first place. If you haven't got a psychological problem of ATTACHMENT AND NEEDING TO BE LOVED (as a result of your childhood, lack of confidence and self esteem) why even think of such people let alone being in partnership with them? Majority are only out to use you, can't you see that? Or should I say, are there some common sense left upstairs or is it just an empty space up there? Why moan when you let yourself being used and abused by these bastards? Because, you let your emotions cloud your God given common sense - you don't need a degree to get this you know!! You are either born with it or without as this is only showing that some of you have ZERO COMMON SENSE. Please, stop moaning here? As I write, some of you are still letting yourselves down in the name of love but where is this LOVE? If you happens to meet such people, don't be merciful to them, kick their a-se off as they only want to HURT you. Why pity a man/woman that has evil intentions against you, why The signs are all there for you to see but you vehemently chose to ignored it and come to N/L to moan. For those who are still BLIND, DEAF AND DUMP, I should say it again, if they hadn't got their legal papers in neat order please, NO DEAL! Hear it Because, it will all end in TEARS.

Now, the BEDROOM ANTICS - this specifically relate to most if not 98% of Nigerian men. Their BEDROOM MANNERS are absolutely zero. CULTURALLY, sexual explorations are not in a Nigerian man's genetic make up but it can be learned. Thank God some of them are gradually learning how to now, they find themselves in the West and have access to the world of INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY. In exploring the beautiful body of a woman, majority would prefer doing so with a WHITE WOMAN THAN a BLACK WOMAN, why
You better ask them? In my view, it is their ignorance as they think a WHITE WOMAN'S BODY is more beautiful than that of a BLACK WOMAN and everyone knows that WOMEN BODIES are PHYSIOLOGICALLLY the same and no difference apart from the COLOUR of their SKIN and TEXTURE of their HAIRS. What else?? And for my sisters, I would like to say, if you can, try else where - you should not be deprived because, there are many ADAMS as there are EVES in this world. Try them, that's my take! And, you should all go for the best and the best all the time. Personally, I get it all the time from the man who can and knows how to RING my BELL - no mess up here!

Good luck with finding the right guy that can ring your bell to heavenly PLEASURE AND HAPPINESS! [/b]

Euchena:


I had heard that an Igbo man was the best kind of man to marry but I wonder what on earth did I do to deserve this poor ass excuse of a man that I got stuck with. I hear that  this other woman is married to an American man trying to get her papers. Now that I know who she is and where she lives I think that I need to turn her in to immigration so she can get her free one way ride back to Nigeria. I can't change his behavior but I can change her address. If he doesn't like it he can go back with her. Now when he f#@@s up she can pay! He can't have two wives in America and I won't share.

agathamari:

sistawoman - its a current issue.  needless to say he is sleeping on the couch instead of my bed. 

agathamari:

aparently you didnt know that oriental womens vag is tilted the oposite direction of everyone else.  from what i have been told white women are more adventurous in bed.  when was the last time you tied up your guy?  he'd like it

sistawoman:


@theblessed,

I disagree with your first post.

sistawoman:

What did you do?

Theblessed:

[b]Well, I am very sorry reading your story here.  But, quite truely didn't anyone warn you about such marriages?  Even if they did, you may not have listened.  Anyway, let me correct certain things here.  For marriage sake, you are right to say that Igbos, have the right attitudes towards marriage in Nigerian however, as an Igho girl I would not marry an Anambra man for 3 reasons:

a) they are domineering and too controlling. As a woman, you can only be
seen not heard, period. They have very high MALE EGO! As an Igbo girl
yourself, you should know this.

b) They are highly business minded and would not tolerate you knowing
    every details, ins/outs of their business in fact, you might not know where
    all your husbands investments are located - your inlaws (his bothers,
    family and your grown up sons if you have one) are meant to know that
    NOT you.

c) Since after the Biafra/Nigeran civil war, most Anambra men basically
    refused to go to SCHOOL and thus are mainly, ILLITRATES OR HALF
    EDUCATED therefore will not share your views or communicate at the
   same level as you (assuming you are educated yourself) but their woman
   are highly educated.  It's better to be with someone at your level, if I
   should suggest.

Anyway, good luck but I should advice you not to revenge - for revenge is for the Lord.  Just kneel down and present your case to God, morning/night, continuously/relentlessly, your prayers would be answered for the Lord does not look down on the BROKEN HEARTED.  Believe in him, you would be surprised.[/b]

sistawoman:

What is your plan of action?

Do you plan on forgiving and allowing him the room to cheat again?

How does he feel about it?

If you dont mind what tribe?


I am very interested only because my husband and I have been discussing retiring back home in Nigeria now I am wondering if it is worth the headache or fearful that once off American soil and back home on his soil he will feel his God given right to cheat.

But maybe I am jumping the gun because he will be about 65-70 before we move to Nigeria.

IGWE_USA:


        TheBLESSED, I used to hold your previous posts on this forum with high regards with the believe that it's being dished out by an authority.
       
        But the above post, typed by you, says other wise. Infact, it depicts the apogee  of ignorance on your part as an igbo woman. I wont care
         
        to know your state of origin in the east neither will I engage you in a debate to prove you wrong because it will be a grotesque display of

        my decorum as an Anambra guy.

              On a second thought, I hope that I just exchanged words with an AKATA that doen't even know where Nigeria is, talkless of ANAMBRA STATE.

agathamari:


@theblessed.  i said vagina not ass.  the vagina in most women point toward thier navel (use your finger to find out on yourself if you dont know already) oriental women point toward thier tailbones.  ask any ob-gyn who has had dealings with oriental women to find out. btw oriental men member
s have a slightly different muscle structure then other men as well. 

Theblessed:

Imagine the blind trying to lead a fully-sighted person - How RIDICULOUS!!!!!!. My own profession, that this lady is trying to inform me about on here when she hasn't got a clue and couldn't even defend her own assertion or prove it's CREDIBILITY with RESEARCH EVIDENCE - too sorry indeed. She's just opening her mouth and bringing out things no one asked her about. To be honest, there's no point trying to have a dialogue on here with an IGNORANT, no point. People are talking from their a-ses instead of using their brains. Please, be well informed, get some education and show some decency. It would do you much good, huh!

Nwaka77:


My sister, don't mind that confused ignoramus who calls herself agathamari. If she is not on this forum bad mouthing Nigerians and Nigeria, then she is busy bad mouthing the man she married like anyone forced her to marry him in the first place. And then if it is not that, she is disrespectfully making inappropriate comments about the private parts of other women. She is not worth communicating with. The topic is about American women who marry Naija men and not Asian women and the shape of their punanies. She cannot stick to the topic of the thread for nothing. Please, my sister ignore her and engage in conversations with intelligent folks on this forum who have something meaningful to contribute. Stay Blessed and keep the posts coming.

chykeo:

@Theblessed

I wanna call for a truce. I am so concerned that on just page 10 of this thread, you have quarrelled with two people; Igwe_usa and agathamari. I believe 2 people can really diasgree without causing any crises.

Agathamaris last post asked you to only find out if you disagree with what she said by asking an obstetrician or finding out yourself on you. I think I understood what she meant to be that the tube from the vagina of other women tend to move towards the navel while that of the orientals move towards the tailbone. I am no authority on this so i cannot say but one can only try to find out by asking. Does it have lead to insults and exchange of bad words?

And honestly speaking, I think Igwe_USA may have used some very harsh and direct words but his message meant only to say that you were wrong with your summation of Ibo and Anambra guys. I am from Anambra State and it is not about blind patriotism but I think the post was just very myopic. MAybe you ve not really seen Anambra guys. A lot of them are very decent, educated, exposed, enlightened, ambitous and gentle. Interest in making money which everyone on earth is guilty of (capitalism) shouldn't be the yardstick for gauging Anambra, nay, igbo man.  Difference is Igbo men are very republican by nature. They just wanna be themselves and know that money brings the needed comforts in life. HAs anyone ever been in a situation where having more money makes him more uncomfortable.

I think we all should go back to the topic. It is not about anyone in particular and not about igbo men and women neither is it about anatomy. And please no more insults. And I believe atleast most of us are educated. Was insult part of the curriculum of any school we went to?

Theblessed:

, [b]If you haven't got a psychological problem of ATTACHMENT AND NEEDING TO BE LOVED (as a result of your childhood, lack of confidence and self esteem) why even think of such people let alone being in partnership with them? Majority are only out to use you, can't you see that? Or should I say, are there some common sense left upstairs or is it just an empty space up there? Why moan when you let yourself being used and abused by these bastards? Because, you let your emotions cloud your God given common sense - you don't need a degree to get this you know!! You are either born with it or without as this is only showing that some of you have ZERO COMMON SENSE. Please, stop moaning here?, The signs are all there for you to see but you vehemently chose to ignored it and come to N/L to moan.

[/b]

Theblessed:

[b],

Now, the BEDROOM ANTICS - this specifically relate to most if not 98% of Nigerian men. Their BEDROOM MANNERS are absolutely zero. CULTURALLY, sexual explorations are not in a Nigerian man's genetic make up but it can be learned. Thank God some of them are gradually learning how to now, they find themselves in the West and have access to the world of INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY. In exploring the beautiful body of a woman, majority would prefer doing so with a WHITE WOMAN THAN a BLACK WOMAN, why
You better ask them? In my view, it is their ignorance as they think a WHITE WOMAN'S BODY is more beautiful than that of a BLACK WOMAN and everyone knows that WOMEN BODIES are PHYSIOLOGICALLY the same and no difference apart from the COLOUR of their SKIN and TEXTURE of their HAIRS. What else?? And for my sisters, I would like to say, if you can, try else where - you should not be deprived because, there are many ADAMS as there are EVES in this world. Try them, that's my take! And, you should all go for the best and the best all the time. Personally, I get it all the time from the man who can and knows how to RING my BELL - no mess up here!

Good luck with finding the right guy that could ring your bell to heavenly PLEASURE AND HAPPINESS! [/b]

agathamari:

,
aparently you didnt know that oriental womens vag is tilted the oposite direction of everyone else. from what i have been told white women are more adventurous in bed. when was the last time you tied up your guy? he'd like it

agathamari:


@theblessed. i said vagina not ass. the vagina in most women point toward thier navel (use your finger to find out on yourself if you dont know already) oriental women point toward thier tailbones. ask any ob-gyn who has had dealings with oriental women to find out. btw oriental men members have a slightly different muscle structure then other men as well.

Theblessed:

Well, lady, your commentary above sounds sweet only to an idiotic mind. Intelligent people can not be fooled by such write ups hence I ask you ONCE AGAIN please, point to your AUTHORITY and WHERE'S THE RESEARCH EVIDENCE to back up your specialist knowledge of ASIAN WOMEN fanny. I believe - NONE, ZERO so leave this matter you can not defend.
As a woman, you mustn't be making crude comments of womanhood like this. In your view, they are ASIANS but hey, they are still WOMEN, ok!

[b]You have made so many crude and trashy comments here that's unworthy of a decent lady, leaving people on this site to assume the kind of a lady you are and the kind you associate with. You might be a nice lady but be selective of your words and how you use them. Don't just use words for the sake of it, please!!![/

agathamari link=topic=13194.msg4192987#msg4192987 date=1247672608:

wow someone is a prude who doesnt know about anatomy. if you dont want to listen to me i seggest you speak with a doctor who has treated an asian woman or a man who has slept with one.

b]

Theblessed:

Imagine the blind trying to lead a fully-sighted person - How RIDICULOUS!!!!!!. My own profession, that this lady is trying to inform me about on here when she hasn't got a clue and couldn't even defend her own assertion or prove it's CREDIBILITY with RESEARCH EVIDENCE - too sorry indeed. She's just opening her mouth and bringing out things no one asked her about. To be honest, there's no point trying to have a dialogue on here with an IGNORANT, no point. People are talking from their a-ses instead of using their brains. Please, be well informed, get some education and show some decency. It would do you much good, huh!

Nwaka77:


My sister, don't mind that confused ignoramus who calls herself agathamari. If she is not on this forum bad mouthing Nigerians and Nigeria, then she is busy bad mouthing the man she married like anyone forced her to marry him in the first place. And then if it is not that, she is disrespectfully making inappropriate comments about the private parts of other women. She is not worth communicating with. The topic is about American women who marry Naija men and not Asian women and the shape of their punanies. She cannot stick to the topic of the thread for nothing. Please, my sister ignore her and engage in conversations with intelligent folks on this forum who have something meaningful to contribute. Stay Blessed and keep the posts coming.

Theblessed:

Thanks my dear sister for airing your views about this 'Oke Nkita' of a woman. Too sorry for the Nigerian brother that didn't know what to do with his life in the States and end up with this Trash, that has no class. The sad thing is that, the Igbo brother even brought this thing home to Nigeria, what a pity!! Goes to show, people would do anything for money and security probably, the reason he ended up with a woman that seems to have gone through 10 husbands in a row. No wonder, he sleeps around searching for a decent lady whilst she ends up on N/L shouting about it and, seeking our sympathy. Shows the calibre of a woman she is - a shameless ignorant.