Hello great nairalanders,
this argument popped up in a recent conversation,
Who is to be dominant in a relationship?, the GUYS or the ladies?.
or should both be Equal?

where is ibkaye and HR.hotness
Una no go come yan una mind now, na until guys begin tackle una na im una go come dey yan,

kizzle:

Hello great nairalanders,
this argument popped up in a recent conversation,
Who is to be dominant in a relationship?, the GUYS or the ladies?.
or[b] should both be Equal[/b]?

It should be equal!!!

def.
the men shld be on top of d game.

Equality is the key  

9ja boi:

def.
the men shld be on top of d game.

Pahahahahaha!

lets open our Bible to,

i also feel the guys should dominate, i mean its a MAN's world.

The Bible teaches that woman and man were created for full and equal partnership. The word "helper" (ezer) used to designate woman in Genesis 2:18 refers to God in most instances of Old Testament usage (e.g. I Sam 7:12; Ps 121:1-2). Consequently the word conveys no implication whatsoever of female subordination or inferiority.

May God bless the reader and the hearer of God's word.

i dont believe there is (should be) equality in relationship. relationship is all about compromise. relationships based on equality end up sour than relationship based on compromise. in other words, relationships based on compromise last longer and in most cases forever than those based on equality. there r toooooooo many examples. just look around u

a woman is jst a helper and not a masta,
so how on earth is dere gon b equality,
there cannot be 2 captains on a ship.

@ 9 ja boi i concur.

Well it should be the Men, the ladies are there to assist.

Gbam !

@topic

The man should.

*mimicks all of them* it should be the man yehn yehn yehn choo choo choo bleh, nonsense 

kizzle:

where is ibkaye and HR.hotness
Una no go come yan una mind now, na until guys begin tackle una na im una go come dey yan,

Did someone say my name?

A relationship is a partnership and no partnership can work with one person superior to the other.
Equality in a relationship depends largely on what u mean by equality,,,, as far as I'm concerned equality doesnt necessarily mean the woman has the right to shunt aside her role as a mother and home-maker,,,
like any partnership decisions should be taken together and not imposed on the other party,
in terms of money, both parties should be happy with whatever arrangement is decided on,,,

some people are quick to quote the bible about women being subordinate or whatever,,, that is pure sentiment.
we are no longer in biblical times and many men no longer live by biblical rules so why the hell would u expect the same from a woman.
someone mentioned why there should be 2 captains in the ship and my response is why should ther even be a captain in the first place.

woman arent slaves to be ordered around or to attend to your every need (carnal or otherwise), any man that expects that of his wife is breeding hatred in her heart. the modern woman is educated, has a job and capable of making decisions for herself. if as her husband she agrees to let u make the decision on her behalf thats a different case, but imposing your decisions without asking her opinion is unacceptable!

The way i see it, a marriage like partnership will only survive if both parties are involved and happy with every aspect.

HanHan, na tales by moonlight we come read?

No na Story that touch

@Ztyle and Sodgi
Shebi you read what she said? Men ko

men, its really clear.sey na until una women begin dey command una na im una go begin dey find help
the women are to be the sub while the men dominant.
give these ladies a yard,they'll take a mile.

kizzle:

men, its really clear.sey na until una women begin dey command una na im una go begin dey find help
the women are to be the sub while the men dominant.
give these ladies a yard,they'll take a mile.

ching chang chong

kizzle:

give these ladies a yard,they'll take a mile.

so you think so.

These one wen lady wen rule USA now.

I READ MOST OF THE REPLIES AND I WUD SLIGHTLY AGREE AND DISAGREE WITH THE COMMENTS.
FIRST AND FOREMOST, THE WOMAN WAS MADE TO HELP MAN WHICH MAKES HER BENEATH MAN, IN TERMS OF EQUALITY I STILL DONT UNDERSTAND DID U MEAN WHO SHUD BOSS WHO AROUND?I THINK WEN TWO PEOPLE WHO ARE GOING OUT ON A RELATIONSHIP PEOPLE WE COULD CALL LIKEMINDED OBVIOUSLY INLOVE THERE WOULD BE NO NEED FOR BOSSINESS!COZ LOVE IS NOT BOSSY, NOBODY IS A SLAVE FOR CHRISSAKE, I THINK THERES A WAY TO GO THRU CARRYING OUT ACTIVITIES, I KNOW WITH CONSIDERATION AND HUMILITY WITH UNDERSTANDIN ISSUES LIKE DIS COULD BE RESOLVED.
WE WOMEN COMPLEMENT MEN WHILE THEY ARE  HARD WE ARE SOFT, WEN THEY ARE STRONG MINDED WE SHUD BE SOFTMINDED THATS WHY WE ARE CHARMING AND BEAUTIFUL WE ARE ALSO CALLED THEIR BETA HALF THIS I BELIEVE MAKES UP THE ESSENCE OF  BEING A WOMAN WHY WUD ANYONE NOW WANT TO DROP DAT TO BE EQUAL TO A MAN?

HanHan, na tales by moonlight we come read?

word! my broda

No na aunty pls tell us a story!

I READ MOST OF THE REPLIES AND I WUD SLIGHTLY AGREE AND DISAGREE WITH THE COMMENTS.
FIRST AND FOREMOST, THE WOMAN WAS MADE TO HELP MAN WHICH MAKES HER BENEATH MAN, IN TERMS OF EQUALITY I STILL DONT UNDERSTAND DID You MEAN WHO SHUD BOSS WHO AROUND?I THINK WEN TWO PEOPLE WHO ARE GOING OUT ON A RELATIONSHIP PEOPLE WE COULD CALL LIKEMINDED OBVIOUSLY INLOVE THERE WOULD BE NO NEED FOR BOSSINESS!COZ LOVE IS NOT BOSSY, NOBODY IS A SLAVE FOR CHRISSAKE, I THINK THERES A WAY TO GO THRU CARRYING OUT ACTIVITIES, I KNOW WITH CONSIDERATION AND HUMILITY WITH UNDERSTANDIN ISSUES LIKE DIS COULD BE RESOLVED.
WE WOMEN COMPLEMENT MEN WHILE THEY ARE  HARD WE ARE SOFT, WEN THEY ARE STRONG MINDED WE SHUD BE SOFTMINDED THATS WHY WE ARE CHARMING AND BEAUTIFUL WE ARE ALSO CALLED THEIR BETA HALF THIS I BELIEVE MAKES UP THE ESSENCE OF  BEING A WOMAN WHY WUD ANYONE NOW WANT TO DROP DAT TO BE EQUAL TO A MAN?

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i 4 say urs to na anoda aunty yan us tori but i repent cos u ve proven u get plenty upstairs.

more grease to ur . . . . . . . . hum!

Words! @HR.hotness and OMO IBO I concur their postings mentioned above!

as long as there is mutual respect, btw both parties, NO LONG TIN 

Some losers are Quoting the bible as an Excuse to be more dominant

EQUALITY IT IS.

i am equal to a man. HR.hotness HIT the nail on the head and she makes alot of sense.

anyman who says he is more superior should go and shag a monkey.

no man is superior to me.SIMPLE! WHAT U GIVE IS WHAT U GET!

I don't think there's such a thing as equality in relationships (pls don't bite my head off). Men and women have general characteristics that automatically make equality fly out the window when it comes to realtionships.

Men have that "I'm the man and it's my duty to protect you and at the same time conserve my ego" attitude. Women tend to be touchy when it comes to matters concerning the home, kids and finance.

Just as ppl have said, compromise and understanding are what shd be fought for in a relationship not equality(meaning partners shd value each other with respect). Equality is out of the picture when emotional factors are present. Believe me I'm all for women's rights but equality in relationships is just another term for power struggle which will eventually do more harm than good.

We rule,