Agbaje Yetunde Mutiat wrote:
Hmmm! ways to keep the love of your husband

1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!

2. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.

3. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”

4. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta’ala gives you something really to complain about.

5. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights

6. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.

7. Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.

8. Tell him he’s the best husband ever.

9. Call his family often.

10. When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re interested.

11. Encourage him to do good deeds.

12. If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, ins ha Allah.

13. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It’s a big deal.

14. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.

15. When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.

16. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.

17. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really.

18. Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.

19. Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it.

20. Tell him you’re the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you’re good at.

21. Learn to make his favorite dish.

22. Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and other people also think you have a bad husband.

23. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.

24. Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like he’s your servant. “They are garment to each other” [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]

25. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha narrated that the Prophet (PBUH) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her saying, “Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.”

26. Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don’t laugh or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.

27. Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.

28. Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.

29. Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.

30. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. lol

31. Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the “dough”. It makes it easier for him to go to work.

32. Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.

33. Brush your hair, everyday and your teeth too.

34. Don’t forget to do laundry.

35. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies.

36. Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his money.

37. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.

38. Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)

39. Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted).

40. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.

41. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait until matters become worse.

42. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like du’ah, and love only exists between spouses where Allah instills it.

43. Don’t EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do that, why do you ” (thats a killer!)

44. Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa!

45. Strive for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah’s love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And remember–if Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.

46. If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel

47. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.

May Allah preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners,
Ameen!

NB: Point 48. Try to memorize all of these, even if it takes your whole marriage. (na play O).

Married women should take note.

But ermmm how does a man keep his wife's love sugary??

I should give this to my future wife

I can say: refer to no 12 please, thank you .

Nice list.

JazakAllahu Khair.

Nice job. Only if women can remember these at the appropriate time.
jazakumullahu khairan