Hey guys. My girlfriend and i have been dating for a while and we are in the university.

She is a genius, i'm not dull but slightly lazy and rhusty in some courses.

Since we started dating. She took it upon herself to tutor me.

Forced me to go to night classes and read, supervise all my assignments. And surprisingly i improved greatly and i sat for NLNG and SHELL scholarship.

At the end shockingly. My name came out and today i am getting 300 thousand from LNG per session and 200,000 from shell. So plus the money i get from my parents.

My account is chilling but now my girlfriend is asking me to share all my financial data with her, from ATM pins to account details and investments.

It's really bothering me cause i don't think it's right but yet i don't want to seem ungrateful. My friends have told me not to try it.

Now i am not stingy, i buy her gifts and take her on expensive dinners. But why does she want those details and do you think i should trust her and give her?

guy dont try it oh.dont let her to also teach you how to spend your money.

guy, dnt try it. its nt going to work out well for both of u if u do. tell her if she loves u she should nt force u to give her those details dat all she needs to do is trust u dat wit tym u would give her d details but dat she should nt force u into it, afta dat she may cool down and wait for u but still do not give her d details.

Symphony007: Hey guys. My girlfriend and i have been dating for a while and we are in the university. She is a genius, i'm not dull but slightly lazy and rhusty in some courses. Since we started dating. She took it upon herself to tutor me. Force me to go to night classes and read, supervise all my assignments. And surprisinly i improved greatly and i sat for NLNG and SHELL scholarship, at the end shockingly. My name came out and today i am getting 300 thousand from LNG per session and 200,000 from shell. So plus the money i get from my parents. My account is chilling but now my girlfriend is asking me to share all my financial data with her, from ATM pins to account details and investments. It's really bothering me cause i don't think it's right but yet i don't want to seem ungratefull...my friends have told me not to try it. Now i am not stingy, i buy her gifts and take her on expensive dinners. But why does she want those details and do you think i should trust her and give her?

Really? Which school are you in? One of my guy's babe who is in another school told him her mugu don get scholarship allowee and she will be boxing him soon.

Run for your life!!

She wants some cash as regular allowance? Yes.
She wants your atm pin and all of those? No!
Just in case you did not understand... Its the N and the O= NO.
Dont be a dumb guy!

[size=14pt]lol. bro give it to her now. so that when she finishes the money then she would teach you again and you can write another scholarship exam and pass. No biggie na abi? Shaking my head in despair*[/size]

One of the reason she gave for wanting the details is that she wants to monitor how i spend the money and advice me on how to invest the money for future purposes. Because after graduation. Jobs won't be waiting with open arms so i need some money to hold on to. It sounds sensible and caring but i'm still skeptical.

OP normally I'd say don't try that at all but then given your story and how much she has helped put you on the right track, sounds like she is a good girl with a good head on her shoulder so I say...

Are you sure she's not asking for all that cos you are a reckless spender?

She's your girl and you should know the kind of person she is, if she's not the kind of girl who cares so much about your welfare(which isn't what your story indicates)then run very far from her but if she is, then look for a way to reach a compromise. Its very important that you understand why she asked for all that before concluding.

Symphony007: One of the reason she gave for wanting the details is that she wants to monitor how i spend the money and advice me on how to invest the money for future purposes. Because after graduation. Jobs won't be waiting with open arms so i need some money to hold on to. It sounds sensible and caring but i'm still skeptical.

I didn't even see this post before giving my advice so you see, I had a feeling this is what her reason could be.

I felt like that cos its something I would do but only if I'm sure the man I'm with isn't good with spending money.

OP I understand your skepticism cos tbh it takes a whole lot to trust someone with all you have but then, you should be able to make this decision based on how far you've come with this girl, is she the type who would stay with you through thick and thin? Has money always been an issue with you two? Does she have some money of her own and doesn't expect you to shoulder all her responsibilities? Is she materialistic? Am I handling money the right way? Do I give her a reason to feel I'm not my best when it comes to money issues?

Questions like the above are what you should ask yourself before reaching a conclusion.

Op, this girl is a jewel in your life, give her what she ask for and you will be blessed the more.

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Symphony007: One of the reason she gave for wanting the details is that she wants to monitor how i spend the money and advice me on how to invest the money for future purposes. Because after graduation. Jobs won't be waiting with open arms so i need some money to hold on to. It sounds sensible and caring but i'm still skeptical.

she is going to monitor you by collecting your atm pin. Smh!

Arosa: Op, this girl is a jewel in your life, give her what she ask for and you will be blessed the more.

Symphony007: One of the reason she gave for wanting the details is that she wants to monitor how i spend the money and advice me on how to invest the money for future purposes. Because after graduation. Jobs won't be waiting with open arms so i need some money to hold on to. It sounds sensible and caring but i'm still skeptical.

she is going to monitor you by collecting your atm pin. Smh!

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she is going to monitor you by collecting your atm pin. Smh!
she is going to monitor you by collecting your atm pin. Smh!

exactly...what a delima.

I think freecocoa has a point.
It depends on how far you guy's relationship has gone and the kind of lady she is.
If deep down in you, you don't trust her enough, bros, no try am, abeg of you but if you would trust her with your life, then, she probably might help put the money to better use. Read freecocoa's posts again and digest it, that is all you need on this thread.

First, congratulations on your scholarship. While your girlfriend's request might not be appropriate, on second thought I think you should oblige her request but you must take out time to study her and see if she's worth sharing such vital info with.
Caveat: She's still a girl friend not your wife.

hmmm....
Personally i don't believe in sharing financial details except of course when married, which in my opinion is not necessary but a matter of personal choice.
I really don't think you should. My reason is this: you are really not married to this lady, you are still in school and mind you not all relationships during school days, last afterwards. So how about if you give her everything, then she betrays you at the end? Or becomes a pain in the butt? Or how about you suddenly don't like her anymore and you want to leave, how easy do you think you would be able to do so?

Well if you still even want to reveal anything. Test her a little. The outcome, will actually help you make up your mind.
Also, if you do decide to reveal everything, also make sure you have all her financial details as well, don't let it be a one-sided thing.

U neva cried to us when she was forcin u to attend lectures n read your books..now that it has come to money matters,u no fit hold am but tel us ur story..GUY,e get as e be for u o.

Symphony007: Hey guys. My girlfriend and i have been dating for a while and we are in the university. She is a genius, i'm not dull but slightly lazy and rhusty in some courses. Since we started dating. She took it upon herself to tutor me. Force me to go to night classes and read, supervise all my assignments. And surprisinly i improved greatly and i sat for NLNG and SHELL scholarship, at the end shockingly. My name came out and today i am getting 300 thousand from LNG per session and 200,000 from shell. So plus the money i get from my parents. My account is chilling but now my girlfriend is asking me to share all my financial data with her, from ATM pins to account details and investments. It's really bothering me cause i don't think it's right but yet i don't want to seem ungratefull...my friends have told me not to try it. Now i am not stingy, i buy her gifts and take her on expensive dinners. But why does she want those details and do you think i should trust her and give her?

she is ur god, do it or she will bring u down!

Well, that was a joke...the girl is an id!ot!

Allwility: First, congratulations on your scholarship. While your girlfriend's request might not be appropriate, on second thought I think you should oblige her request but you must take out time to study her and see if she's worth sharing such vital info with.
Caveat: She's still a girl friend not your wife.

thanks for your congratulations...how thoughfull of you.

Why should you give her any money, was that part of the agreement?

@OP look this world is a very tough place, survival of fittest, learn to back-stab anyone, don't be afraid to hurt anyone's feelings as far as you get what you want, the end justifies the means.

50calibre: Why should you give her any money, was that part of the agreement?

@OP look this world is a very tough place, survival of fittest, learn to back-stab anyone, don't be afraid to hurt anyone's feelings as far as you get what you want, the end justifies the means.

, nice reverse psychology. But I know that was not your intention.

50calibre: Why should you give her any money, was that part of the agreement?

@OP look this world is a very tough place, survival of fittest, learn to back-stab anyone, don't be afraid to hurt anyone's feelings as far as you get what you want, the end justifies the means.

now when is involved my dear.

Symphony007: One of the reason she gave for wanting the details is that she wants to monitor how i spend the money and advice me on how to invest the money for future purposes. Because after graduation. Jobs won't be waiting with open arms so i need some money to hold on to. It sounds sensible and caring but i'm still skeptical.

Are you not a man? So at your age you are not yet able to spend your money wisely huh? Now a Nigerian girl is doing it for you. Probably if you succeed in marrying her, she would be telling you how to spend your money and what to spend them on. I smh@u

maxwello.yg:

Are you not a man? So at your age you are not yet able to spend your money wisely huh? Now a Nigerian girl is doing it for you. Probably if you succeed in marrying her, she would be telling you how to spend your money and what to spend them on. I smh@u

In your mind you are smarter than all women right?

alutacontinua: I think freecocoa has a point.
It depends on how far you guy's relationship has gone and the kind of lady she is.
If deep down in you, you don't trust her enough, bros, no try am, abeg of you but if you would trust her with your life, then, she probably might help put the money to better use. Read freecocoa's posts again and digest it, that is all you need on this thread.

My own advice nkor?

Arosa:

In your mind you are smarter than all women right?

So that was all you could understand from that comment? You are wasted!

maxwello.yg:

So that was all you could understand from that comment? You are wasted!

You are a deluded man.

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you probably were bragging to the world about how much you got just like you wrote it on here with no one asking. If your GF is all about money, now she knows what you have. You better grow some balls and tell her no. she helped you yes but what ever happened to people doing things for others because they actually care about you

if she is such a genius, how come she didn't apply or win the scholarships? And if you are as smart as you say, you will save most of that money even if your account is chilling as you say because who knows how long it will take you to get a job when you graduate (praying you get a job fast)

maxwello.yg:

Are you not a man? So at your age you are not yet able to spend your money wisely huh? Now a Nigerian girl is doing it for you. Probably if you succeed in marrying her, she would be telling you how to spend your money and what to spend them on. I smh@u

i am a very frugal person. Some girl i dated broke up with me because they claim i'm a "cheapskate" that is why i said i am skepticall when she says he wants to help me manage my money.

25omega: poster

you probably were bragging to the world about how much you got just like you wrote it on here with no one asking. If your GF is all about money, now she knows what you have. You better grow some balls and tell her no. she helped you yes but what ever happened to people doing things for others because they actually care about you

if she is such a genius, how come she didn't apply or win the scholarships? And if you are as smart as you say, you will save most of that money even if your account is chilling as you say because who knows how long it will take you to get a job when you graduate (praying you get a job fast)

the scholarship was exclusive for natives of NLNG and shell host communities. And she not from any. I am.