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| Should I Follow Her To The Church? by bamboke(f): 2:53pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
What do I do when my mother-in-law invites me to a church that most people who need children go to? I have no issue yet and we have been married close to 2 years. I need your thoughts, please no insults. |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Fhemmmy: 2:56pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
As long as you know they are not doing voodoo there, why not . . . be happy you have a mother in law willing to be behind you and not telling the son to go and marry another woman 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by coogar: 2:59pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
bamboke: What do I do when my mother-in-law invites me to a church that most people who need children go to? as long as you don't have to take weird spiritual water or sleep wïth the spiritualist, then you should be fine. 2 years? way too short to press the panic buttons. 3 Likes |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Fhemmmy: 3:07pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
coogar: That freaks me out just reading it |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by bamboke(f): 3:07pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: As long as you know they are not doing voodoo there, why not . . . be happy you have a mother in law willing to be behind you and not telling the son to go and marry another woman I don't even know the church myself but she said people with issues go there and they pray into oil for you. I am so skeptical. Though I had dreamt about her coming to tell me about this and also about looking for how to send me out of her son's home and now she has asked me to go to the church. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Nobody: 3:14pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Sounds suspect |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Fhemmmy: 3:19pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
bamboke: I will say go, but be cautious . . . Good luck BTW, it is your home and not her son's home |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by coogar: 3:26pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: well - religion is the opium of the nigerian masses and when a group of people are too obsessed with religion, they usually lack common sense. maybe the husband is the one firing blanks - but in nigeria, the woman gets the blame. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Nobody: 3:27pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
coogar:couldn't have said it better myself 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Fhemmmy: 3:29pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
coogar: And till the woman start to turn back and let the people know that it is a 2 way street, it will continue. |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by coogar: 3:32pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: if she speaks out, she's a marine spirit, a witch, a sorceress or any other demonic terminology. if you ask the OP if she's even tried to go for medical tests, she would say no - or at best, the husband has refused to follow her. |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by ladygogo: 3:55pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Just two years. Goodness gracious.  Why are you the only one going? Why not the both of you? WHat makes you think you are the one with the problem?1 Like |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Fhemmmy: 4:09pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
coogar: Na wa oh, they are really dulling my hands oh . . . Well, one day, we will have a better nation in Nigeria |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Glamglam(f): 4:11pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Do not mean to sound insulting... But is your husband following you to the so-called spiritual-oil-praying church? Or has it been proven that the fault lies with you? Tell hubby to follow you too armed with his own bottle of special oil!! 4 Likes |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Fhemmmy: 4:13pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
^^^ That is a nice one, cos her son could be the wahala. |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Nobody: 4:32pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
No need to over-react and point fingers as to who has problem and who is to blame. Your MIL invited you to a church, end of story. I will advice you to make sure you know exactly what they do in that church. I do not believe in people praying into oil and rubbing you and some of those rather "spiritual" things people do. So you need to make sure you understand what they do in that church before agreeing to go. Before you go at all, please tell your husband. Make sure he agrees and sanctions it. Explain in detail the kind of things they do in the church and make sure your husband agrees that you follow his mother. Your husband is your spiritual head and not your mother in law. I guess you are already trying for children and 2 years is not enough time to start panicking. Your children will come in God's time. But please avoid going to places you do not understand what they do. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Fhemmmy: 4:35pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
lady gogo: Just two years. Goodness gracious. better to start early than wait till so late oh . . . Just my own take on why panicking so early |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by biolabee(m): 4:51pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Glamglam: Do not mean to sound insulting... But is your husband following you to the so-called spiritual-oil-praying church? Or has it been proven that the fault lies with you? Tell hubby to follow you too armed with his own bottle of special oil!! I support this opinion |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by ladygogo: 4:56pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: Hmmmmmm...... Na wa o. Ok so Mother-in-law just automatically assumes you are the one with fertility issues hence her telling you to go to some church with her. Why not just go with your husband? Are two heads not better than one anymore? You shouldnt be the one praying, fasting and rubbing yourself with all sorts just because you want a child. Are you the only one looking for a child? Maybe married men dont want kids anymore in Nigeria. And Nigerians too will come out when educated people are called. smh |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by ladygogo: 4:59pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
coogar: Its not impossible. No be my Naija people again?  |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by dayokanu(m): 6:25pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Which kind of church |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by bellong: 6:50pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
I want to assume you understand the doctrines of Christ. If the church does not conform to the teachings of Christ, forget it. However, to give unto Ceaser his due, in cooperation with your husband, you can follow her. I will implore you and your husband to know that the miracle you seek is right with you. Have you done all the necessary medical tests to ascertain a clean bill of health. If you have done it, do not panic babies will come soon. Children are the heritage of God and He gives them in His own time. |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Kanwulia: 8:03pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Is there any harm in what she has suggested?  Just go with an open mind but be VIGILANT ALWAYS! Hope she ain't the PATIENCE OZOKWOR type of MGBEKE MIL ooooooooooh?  Then RRRRRRRRUN for your dear life! |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by DJDOLA(m): 8:19pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Pls before u go try and consult OKIJA JUJU for spiritual protection |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by slimyem: 8:33pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
If you are not comfortable with going,tell her nicely. Tell her to go and intercede on your behalf and use herself as a point of contact for you. Tell her the prayers can get to you that way. You can reason with her without being stubborn,disrespectful or insulting.  |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by dayokanu(m): 8:47pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
Kanwulia: Is there any harm in what she has suggested? When is your party date? And dont forget my invite I went to the restaurant last week and their stew was sweet going there again soon |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Nobody: 9:20pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
slimyem: If you are not comfortable with going,tell her nicely. Kanwulia: Is there any harm in what she has suggested? God bless you both. Strange to see people suggesting the mother in law thinks the wife is the problem. She might not even think so. It's even possible mama discussed going with the son and he refused politely and now she is trying with wife. She might just be trying to help and not suggesting anything. However, if you are not comfortable with going, politely refuse. And be sure you know what goes on in the church before going there and please make sure you tell your husband. Dont let anyone pollute your mind about your MIL thinking you are the problem. She may just be trying to help the way she can but if you feel uncomfortable, then dont go! |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Nobody: 11:18pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
MILs will always be MILs. No harm intended.maybe she had seen pple go to the said church and children comot.All she want is grandchildren and she didn't do anything bad. If I'm a MIL,I will be worried at 2 yrs. Wifey,join her faith with urs. Even if the place is suspicious, unless u don't know ur God,nothing will happen to u. I will suggest u visit health section of nairaland cos u will learn so much there. Wish u favour. |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by EfemenaXY: 11:59pm On Aug 07, 2013 |
bamboke: What do I do when my mother-in-law invites me to a church that most people who need children go to? Well, it's up to you, really. If you want to go, then go. If you aren't comfortable with it, then politely decline the suggestion. Personally, I won't be caught dead in such an environment. There's usually a very thin line between what they call Christianity and feitishness. Before you know it, you'll be asked to kneel n@ked on the sands of Lagos beach at midnight, and bury a pot full of red and white candles. Have you sought medical help / fertility treatments yet?? |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Nobody: 12:08am On Aug 08, 2013 |
Efemena_xy:Haba madam Efe! How can they tell her to do that? She should use her brain naw. Benjohnson no dey again? 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by Nobody: 5:54am On Aug 08, 2013 |
| Re: Should I Follow Her To The Church? by vanitty: 6:11am On Aug 08, 2013 |
Please follow her It will save a lot of hassles If you can get your husband to tag along, even better However, please be very alert and cautious. Once you feel something diabolical is about to happen, get away from there. Come to think of it, it will be best if you go with your husband. Try and persuade hubby to tag along. Good luck |
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