Hey people. I have a relatively close friend who was dating this guy. For a number of reasons, I never really liked her boyfriend and I spoke to some of our friends about it and they felt the same way about it. So we tried to talk to her about him and let her know we don't like him but she read it to mean we were hating on their relationship and wanted to tear them apart.

Gradually, her friendship with the rest of us started to wear out. Soon, we never saw her at any of the events we usually went to together and stuff and the only news we'd hear about her is what others told us. I knew exactly what was going on; she had allowed that dude to control her but I couldn't do anything about it except pray for the best for her. Soon enough as you would guess, he broke up with her after 8 months of their relationship. She called last evening begging me to spend the night. It was awkward because this was someone would I hadn't spoken to for a while.

Anyway, I went there and started consoling her while she went on and on about how stupid she felt and how the guy didn't like us and how she tried to make him happy. I completely understood how she felt until she said she that with all the pain she's feeling inside, she might as well take her life. I was scared for her and did not trust her alone so I moved her to my apartment with some of her stuff and my friends and I have been trying to reason with her and care for her.

So, what exactly can you say to someone who's going through an emotional crisis like this?

It's what you do, not what you say. Just be there for her, that's all. Being there is under-rated.

I would just reason with her that taking her life is selfish.  It is selfish to all those left behind and taking her life is not going to get that man back.

My god i have so been there where she is right now.  When my 5 year relationship ended I thought the world was going to crash in on me (I loved that man more than my ex-husband).  But it gets better, it really does.  What pulled me thru my darkest times were/are my children w/o them i honestly dont know where i would be today.

She will be in my prayers

Sista

crap,

Nothing you can say. Its amazing what time can do. Its hurts so much now but in a few months the pain will lessen.

I would just reason with her that taking her life is selfish.

She is depressed because of rejection and your solution is accusation? That is why I say don't say anything. Most people are not capable of saying anything helpful to a hurting person. That's why we have trained professionals like shrinks. Most of the things you might want to say won't help one bit.

wow, what can i say?

tell her God loves her more and she should cry her tears on his shoulder

she shld take this time to draw closer to God

something tells me she's nt so close to God

I personally dont think suicide is selfish. I think its shocking that someone hits so low they feel they need to kill themselves its truely awful.

Seun:

She is depressed because of rejection and your solution is accusation? That is why I say don't say anything. Most people are not capable of saying anything helpful to a hurting person. That's why we have trained professionals like shrinks. Most of the things you might want to say won't help one bit.

Actully Seun for me that is what has kept me from doing it myself. Thinking of how selfish it would be to my children to do that.

I think the poster needs more thoughts on this because it sounds like a serious issue.

lmao. . .

I love the poster so much that I had to help her revive her topic.

i can feel d love phoenix

me too.nd im sure u knw y i laffed

LadyT:

Nothing you can say. Its amazing what time can do. Its hurts so much now but in a few months the pain will lessen.

Spoken like a true veteran. Poster you better listen to this woman, she is talking from experience. Experience has taught her that time heals all her broken heart (which is like every 6 months anyways ). Lady T, pele.

beauteous:

me too.nd im sure u knw y i laffed

@welli

I knew your mouth will get you into trouble sooner or later and it's good that all sharp tongues gets banned.

and how is she now?

sorry to say, i feel u ppl (her friends) started all this, my own opinion.

^^^ How come? What did her friends do wrong

first they told her the fact that they didnt like her friends (plus she never said y, so am to assume he didnt do anything wrong), if i was in the guy's shoes, i wud break up wit her after a while cos when a gfs friends r against u, u cant go anywhere

kpolli:

first they told her the fact that they didnt like her friends (plus she never said y, so am to assume he didnt do anything wrong), if i was in the guy's shoes, i wud break up wit her after a while cos when a gfs friends r against u, u cant go anywhere

She abandonde her friends because of him. What more could she have done

Just because she didnt go into why they didnt like the guy doesnt mean they didnt have good reasons. As her friends, they owe her the responsibility of telling her these things. They say love is blind, but your friends are your eyes.

Obviously they were right, which explains why after 8months of derailing, she came back to them!

if am dating a girl n i find out all her friends dont like me, even if she leaves all of them, i wud have to free her, but she should tell us why they didnt like him

Tell her that she deserves more.
That the guy is not worthy her tears and stress.
She should thank God for saving her from the Punishment (that Guy).
Therefore she should smile that Jesus loves her.

Rebellious:
Hey people. I have a relatively close friend who was dating this guy. For a number of reasons, I never really liked her boyfriend and I spoke to some of our friends about it and they felt the same way about it. So we tried to talk to her about him and let her know we don't like him but she read it to mean we were hating on their relationship and wanted to tear them apart.

Gradually, her friendship with the rest of us started to wear out. Soon, we never saw her at any of the events we usually went to together and stuff and the only news we'd hear about her is what others told us. I knew exactly what was going on; she had allowed that dude to control her but I couldn't do anything about it except pray for the best for her. Soon enough as you would guess, he broke up with her after 8 months of their relationship. She called last evening begging me to spend the night. It was awkward because this was someone would I hadn't spoken to for a while.

Anyway, I went there and started consoling her while she went on and on about how stupid she felt and how the guy didn't like us and how she tried to make him happy. I completely understood how she felt until she said she that with all the pain she's feeling inside, she might as well take her life. I was scared for her and did not trust her alone so I moved her to my apartment with some of her stuff and my friends and I have been trying to reason with her and care for her.

So, what exactly can you say to someone who's going through an emotional crisis like this?

she should go and fuccckkk herself!