lesson to all mothers mind the things you say to your children..God help us[i][/i]


A 21-year-old girl identified as Kemi, at the weekend, committed suicide in Isale Asa Ilorin, Kwara State.
According to National Telegraph, the deceased, who was a fashion designer, allegedly took her own life with a locally-made rat poison known as sole lasan following uncomplimentary comments from her mother during a brawl.

A neighbour, who spoke on condition of anonymity, said the girl and her mum had a quarrel on Friday night and in the course of the brawl, Mummy Kemi, as her mom is popularly called, referred to her daughter as “a complete failure and a disgrace to the family”.

The neighbour said the deceased’s mother, who operates a grinding machine nearby, went to her shop and Kemi, who was unhappy with her mother’s comment, went into her room and drank the poison.

“When Mummy Kemi came in about 30 minutes later, she saw that Kemi was writhing in pains. She was said to have raised the alarm,” the source said.
The source said sympathisers, who suspected Kemi might have taken a poisonous substance, quickly rushed her to a nearby hospital for medical attention but the doctors there referred them to the University of Ilorin Teaching Hospital.

She died on her way to the teaching hospital.
Olufemi Fabode, the State’s Police Command’s spokesperson, could not be reached for confirmation as his mobile phone was switched off.

bellong: So the nearby hospital cannot even offer a first aid before referring to teaching hospital that is on the outskirt of town. What a pathetic hospital and medical council still allow such to operate....

smartmom:

They probably knew it was too late for any help and didnt want the stigma of having a patient die in their premises.

chaircover: Typical bullyish behaviour. Even exhibited here on this forum. People think the more caustic tongued they are the better & stronger it makes them look.

People talk anyhow to anybody. Its everywhere with an aim to bring them down . . . on forums, homes, markets, on the road, schools, offices everywhere!!!! They forget that people are different and some people cant just brush things off and they take these things badly. A couple of weeks ago a 14 year old committed suicide over abuse she received on an internet site.

In this case to her own daughter. If a child can’t find comfort and succour in his/her own mother then how much more strangers? If you cant be your kids greatest cheer leader and fan, then who will?

I saw this on someone’s facebook wall this morning and it got me thinking . . . .

“Don’t mix bad words with your bad mood. You will have many opportunities to change your mood, but you will never get an opportunity to change the words you have spoken.”

I hope a lesson or two is learnt from this tragedy.

PS I dont know how a 21 year old girl who is a fashion designer is now a failure in the book of a woman running a grinding machine.

chaircover: Typical bullyish behaviour. Even exhibited here on this forum. People think the more caustic tongued they are the better & stronger it makes them look.

People talk anyhow to anybody. Its everywhere with an aim to bring them down . . . on forums, homes, markets, on the road, schools, offices everywhere!!!! They forget that people are different and some people cant just brush things off and they take these things badly. A couple of weeks ago a 14 year old committed suicide over abuse she received on an internet site.

In this case to her own daughter. If a child can’t find comfort and succour in his/her own mother then how much more strangers? If you cant be your kids greatest cheer leader and fan, then who will?

I saw this on someone’s facebook wall this morning and it got me thinking . . . .

“Don’t mix bad words with your bad mood. You will have many opportunities to change your mood, but you will never get an opportunity to change the words you have spoken.”

I hope a lesson or two is learnt from this tragedy.

PS I dont know how a 21 year old girl who is a fashion designer is now a failure in the book of a woman running a grinding machine.

chaircover: Typical bullyish behaviour. Even exhibited here on this forum. People think the more caustic tongued they are the better & stronger it makes them look.

People talk anyhow to anybody. Its everywhere with an aim to bring them down . . . on forums, homes, markets, on the road, schools, offices everywhere!!!! They forget that people are different and some people cant just brush things off and they take these things badly. A couple of weeks ago a 14 year old committed suicide over abuse she received on an internet site.

In this case to her own daughter. If a child can’t find comfort and succour in his/her own mother then how much more strangers? If you cant be your kids greatest cheer leader and fan, then who will?

I saw this on someone’s facebook wall this morning and it got me thinking . . . .

“Don’t mix bad words with your bad mood. You will have many opportunities to change your mood, but you will never get an opportunity to change the words you have spoken.”

I hope a lesson or two is learnt from this tragedy.

PS I dont know how a 21 year old girl who is a fashion designer is now a failure in the book of a woman running a grinding machine.

chaircover: Typical bullyish behaviour. Even exhibited here on this forum. People think the more caustic tongued they are the better & stronger it makes them look.

People talk anyhow to anybody. Its everywhere with an aim to bring them down . . . on forums, homes, markets, on the road, schools, offices everywhere!!!! They forget that people are different and some people cant just brush things off and they take these things badly. A couple of weeks ago a 14 year old committed suicide over abuse she received on an internet site.

In this case to her own daughter. If a child can’t find comfort and succour in his/her own mother then how much more strangers? If you cant be your kids greatest cheer leader and fan, then who will?

I saw this on someone’s facebook wall this morning and it got me thinking . . . .

“Don’t mix bad words with your bad mood. You will have many opportunities to change your mood, but you will never get an opportunity to change the words you have spoken.”

I hope a lesson or two is learnt from this tragedy.

PS I dont know how a 21 year old girl who is a fashion designer is now a failure in the book of a woman running a grinding machine.

jidegirl12: RIP to the deceased and I pray forgiveness on mom's behalf .. I'm not gonna blame her because we don't know the whole story...

@Bullies , hmmm you can scream and shout until you're blue on the face till tomorrow but get this straight; You don't expect a person at the receiving end ( bullied) to be mute... at the end of the day the person comes across like a bully eventually... that's the sad part of it.

Y'all can dance around the edge all y'all want... And that's what I call FAKE.

How many times have people called my parents names and mocked my background over and over again on this forum? Or am I the only one raised by a single Dad on NL? And you expect me to be mute? Another person that understood the whole family section crap in sequence is @Busybody and I think she's had enough two-face crap and gone too.

Speaking of hypocrites... Now I already see some shady monikers jumped on this thread with their typical holier than thou posts.. am not surprised atall but Jide will talk and nail the bullseye, sebi it's just online where chameleons of sorts are welcomed....

2 families were discussed yesterday on a thread and people with their typical mob/ bully mentality condemned & degraded the other family just cause they chose to live a different way of life... I mean what do you call that? how's that different from from bullying? Do you really have to degrade another family to prove your point? Charity begins at home they say, that's how it starts, when you find so much comfort and joy to ridicule others.

Oh what tha hell sebi WE ARE ALL HAVING FUN!!!

jidegirl12: RIP to the deceased and I pray forgiveness on mom's behalf .. I'm not gonna blame her because we don't know the whole story...

@Bullies , hmmm you can scream and shout until you're blue on the face till tomorrow but get this straight; You don't expect a person at the receiving end ( bullied) to be mute... at the end of the day the person comes across like a bully eventually... that's the sad part of it.

Y'all can dance around the edge all y'all want... And that's what I call FAKE.

How many times have people called my parents names and mocked my background over and over again on this forum? Or am I the only one raised by a single Dad on NL? And you expect me to be mute? Another person that understood the whole family section crap in sequence is @Busybody and I think she's had enough two-face crap and gone too.

Speaking of hypocrites... Now I already see some shady monikers jumped on this thread with their typical holier than thou posts.. am not surprised atall but Jide will talk and nail the bullseye, sebi it's just online where chameleons of sorts are welcomed....

2 families were discussed yesterday on a thread and people with their typical mob/ bully mentality condemned & degraded the other family just cause they chose to live a different way of life... I mean what do you call that? how's that different from from bullying? Do you really have to degrade another family to prove your point? Charity begins at home they say, that's how it starts, when you find so much comfort and joy to ridicule others.

Oh what tha hell sebi WE ARE ALL HAVING FUN!!!

Dont get me wrong, Im not blaming you at all, Im just trying to explain that sometimes it really isnt worth it at all. You can be the bigger person if you choose to

Royal Roy: Tolerance is a keyword to living a peaceful life!!
Although we all have our different threshold & tolerance level....but to resort to name-calling & "gutter language" speaks a lot about each person's lifestyle in the real world!!

I am good with words in the real life.....I take my time to process each word I speak out to people......that's why to some people both ladies & men they call me sugar-coated tongue which in reality is an effort of over 10yrs to always speak with intention to make people smile & not cry!

I get very easily ticked off with words or people with caustic tongues....which led me to learn how to ignore


But ignoring comes with a price too, some see it as a reason to dominate you & ride over you!!




But reality check......only a mad man/woman talks to him/herself alone!!

It takes a lot of discipline to rise above verbal abuse but surely its not rocket science.....it is achievable!!

debrief08: Sorry to say again Jide in this reponse to the post you already used words like "Hypocrites" and "People with holier than thou" attitude to state a point.
That already to someone who is quick to react will escalate the situation and ignore the message you are trying to pass.

To what or whose benefit does using words like that serve?

Again I am sorry if I appear to be telling you how to live but to coexist in peace with others we should minimize words that trigger negative reactions from others.

This is how normal people live not with "perfect hair" "perfect clothes" driving flahsy cars.
With money money money and more money as their focus.
People should seek to be HAPPY first, confident in who they are and share with loved ones the little they have.
No airs, no fakeness, no my range rover is bigger than yours syndrome.

See the social media, I feel so bad for some of our stars, we insult them, ridicule their imperfections etc.