IdeyFindWife:


Plus a largely male-dominated governmental power structure.

Look around you, is it the Senate that're saints?, Or the Executive Arm?
Who's gonna legislate such laws? Who wan enforce am? The country has crude social welfare structures too. And there's no separating old-generation mentality policemen from their pepper-soup, bleaching creams and philandering especially with other men's wives which usually produces more divorces and the need for alimony!
The policy making and implementation levels are all populated with men who are staunch polygamists, serial cheats and babymama spawning old mofos but advocacy efforts should be sustained sha.

Everything is wrong with fathering kids and later disconnecting them from your provisional care.

jadyclem:


helpless women in what sense? who said a woman can't av her own dreams and aspirations and work to earn good money for herself? alimony is not helping d American society in any way so it will do more harm Dan good in the African society. you don even check d meaning of alimony sef? child support no bad, but alimony, divorce rate for naija go pass America own d moment Dem implement something like dat

wwwtortoise:
Poor journalism.

Next time you are writing on a subject matter that is quite uncommon, it is advisable to explain the topic in details.

For those of us that don't know what alimony is

'a husband's (or wife's) provision for a spouse after separation or divorce; maintenance' and usually enforceable by law.

soulglo:
Alimony is even more important in Nigeria than here where women have a better chance of reinventing themselves after a divorce. Women in Nigeria give up a heck of a lot if a man decides to just get up and walk away. This goes hand in hand with child support. If people knew that they would pay child support for a child until the age of majority they would think twice about keeping multiple wives and mistresses and having children like rabbits

Beedude:

Our Problem In Nigeria Is More Than Alimony. Enforcing Such Has So Many Disadvtgs. Same Usa That Enforce Alimony Also Legalise Same Sex Marriage. U Think They r Fools Abi ? We Mustnt Always Be Like Dem. We Are Africans

ediemafio:
I agree with u,however,child support should b limited to fit its purpose ONLY.By that,i mean that,it should not be a loophole for women to blackmail men and it shld not be fashioned in consistence with western methods where a mans assests r shared or where he has to leave his house ect,he should maintain the ex and paid the kid's fees act and shld NEVER mean a portion of his value..

jadyclem:
I can't even believe that you even used USA as an example. how has alimony helped to sustain marriages in USA? Bros do ur study well u'll discover day alimony is not helping d us marriage and family system because most women are leaving their marriages for flimsy reasons because of alimony. also, girls are getting pregnant any how because they want to squeeze out moni from men. if u say child support, den no much wahala, but most Nigerian men still take care of their kids o, na d irresponsible ones na Dem dey run away from their responsibilities.

victorian:










I never said all the women in Nigeria are helpless and weak and at the same time there are weak helpless women, also there are strong self reliant women out there.

Am talking about protecting the rights of a weak woman who unfortunately become entangled with a terrible man in sheep clothing in marriage . Such women should be protected if thrown out of their homes or abandoned with children to cater for.

A man cannot just go Scot free, use a weak woman, leave her with children and take another wife. He should be made to make provisions for the kids, they both had together, when the going was good and especially if he earns more than her.

Or if she is just an housewife Immediately they got Married. Whereas she was working somewhere, taking care of her bills single-handedly before this so called knight in shining armour, strolled in with his sweet words. And most annoying part is convincing her to drop her job or close her business to become his wife at home.

Such women must be compensated and their kids provided for by the husband who feels he has seen a better love elsewhere.

Some men can be so convincing in their seemingly sweet promises and innocent smile masking the opposite of what he's putting on, that even the devil will shudder in excitement and wonder .

victorian:










I never said all the women in Nigeria are helpless and weak and at the same time there are weak helpless women, also there are strong self reliant women out there.

Am talking about protecting the rights of a weak woman who unfortunately become entangled with a terrible man in sheep clothing in marriage . Such women should be protected if thrown out of their homes or abandoned with children to cater for.

A man cannot just go Scot free, use a weak woman, leave her with children and take another wife. He should be made to make provisions for the kids, they both had together, when the going was good and especially if he earns more than her.

Or if she is just an housewife Immediately they got Married. Whereas she was working somewhere, taking care of her bills single-handedly before this so called knight in shining armour, strolled in with his sweet words. And most annoying part is convincing her to drop her job or close her business to become his wife at home.

Such women must be compensated and their kids provided for by the husband who feels he has seen a better love elsewhere.

Some men can be so convincing in their seemingly sweet promises and innocent smile masking the opposite of what he's putting on, that even the devil will shudder in excitement and wonder .

ENG1110:


I quite agree with you. Contrary to the OP's opinion, alimony from observation actually promote divorce. When you can get half the man's asset, and still be getting monthly pay, it encourages divorce. However, i am in support of child support. I have a friend whose parents divorced, and both remarried, and the kids were left on their own. Child support would have helped them.

prov1029:
I am a believer that marriage is an institution that should be preserved, however sometimes when you look at the various break ups, you find out the woman and children have a lot to lose. Too many interruptions from family, friends and all this advice of take a second wife to give me grandchildren. So I suggest alimony should be brought to the table. So that when a man either impregnates or leaves his wife or a woman, he must be made to pay child support this way control will be brought to the institution called marriage and children will not have to suffer for the irresponsibility of their parent.
Reason i propose these is that little is done by parents to take care of their children's future. For example, how many parents are willing to take up insurance on their life so that when they get old and pass on their children will become beneficiaries.
I once heard a man who now lives abroad say his child is irrespossibel and he has no business taking care of him (a child he had when he visited nigeria while married). Mind you his elder brother who has five children of his own has been taking care of the child since birth. This man lives overseas and is married with children, do you think he can utter this in the country he resides which happens to be the US.
Hence my concern will correctly say what are parents doing to help their children other than blaming society or federation. What securities are their for the upcoming generation. But when they pass on children are expected to perform during burials to the tune of millions