babylolaroy: Ama woman o buh lemme rush and defend the men
Sometimes a married man means well and wud love to love his wife forever. Buh it comes like when 'bukata' enters and dey start making kids who need money for this and that, the man gets frustrated and feels like the whole responsibilty is heavily upon him. What men of nowadays dont know is that they are richer than most of the sahabas of the prophet and even MUHAMMAD s.a.w himself. was there not a sahaba who had nothing as dowry for his wife except some verses of the quran?
were there not days when the prophet tied stones around his tummy to make him feel weighty against the pangs of hunger?
so many instances. if our men now can manage any condition. Give it when yu av it and be polite to ur wife when you dont. That way she will also learn to trust and pray for you and accept whteva yu give ha

Now to we ladies..We let men think all we want is money. They think a woman can marry a sill.y man if hez rich..lets rewrite that story because it shouldnt be.
lets be like our mother Aisha who was the poor prophet's wife
lets think of our mother Fatimah who was his daughter. they all went hungry togeda. Even i think av read somewhere that there was when fatimah had just one cloth..subhanallah! And she happily stayed with ha husband Alli without complains.

So Akhis wa ukhtis, if we learn to accept all situations together and making the best of our marriages, we will love our partners more. i believe it is money issue that causes bitterness which then remove the love in marriage

play a game together. the prophet did horse riding togeda. if however yu r one rich family den do this togeda. for instance if yu av swimming pool in ur house, swim togeda to see who reaches d edge of the pool first. etc
the bone of contention sha is that love ur wife genuinely and wives, love ur husband unconditionally

may Allah make the brothers here husbands like Muhammad and may Allah make we sisters here wives like Aisha or Khadijah

harmeenart: Wait o...But I think if he can afford it,then its not too much to ask,and he can top it wit a hajj ticket and recitation of some verses of the quran.

dyfatai: come to think of it, u sisters are claiming the men aren't as poor as d sohabas and therefore shouldn't use poverty as an excuse yet u still want private jet and hajj ticket 4 sadaq. Isn't d@ double standardly.

harmeenart:
Seems u missed the sacarsm in my post.
But seriously, come to think of it,if he can afford it,its not too much to ask.And please ,kindly explain what u mean by double starndard? I don't understand.

dyfatai: as to ur first point, i also posed my question in a friendly (sarcasm induced) tone.

To ur question, i guess i was 2 busy trying 2 make a point d@ i didn't bother minding d words i imported.

Sir sijo: Ameen to all the prayers... and Jumaat Kareem to ya'll. my own point of view about ths generation marriages are;
1. we try to involve too much of the "love stories" we watch in movies,
2. we believe money is love,
3. we care more about the wedding events, which lasts for not more than a week and forget the marriage which is expected to last forever,
4. we forget to follow how the prophet (SAW) lived his own life. (which i thank the OP now for reminding some of us about some of the romantic moments the Prophet SAW had with Aisha RA).


May we Love our dear family and the ummah as a whole.
and Blessings be with prophet and his family ameen.

Yankelaptops: @ tbaba... I understand where you are coming from, but it still not settling with my system. I understand the equality in time spent and providing among multiple wives. But every woman wants to be the one that capture the heart of her significant other. How will I feel if I know our husband is "just" with us when it comes to (money, clothing, providing, etc) but I know am not his favorites when it comes to love and affectionate. I don't know if I can deal with that. The one that have the most love and affection will get away with a lot of things because it comes natural, the chemistry is very strong. While unknowingly if the wife that is the less fav does exactly the same thing, they'll not get the exact same treatment. Please help me out...

dyfatai: Anytime i think of a wife 2 marry, i can't but think of one d@ has proper understanding of d deen like u. I've never met u, but u'll make a very wonderful wife to any man who is blessed 2 marry u. Salam

babylolaroy:
wa alayka salam. thanx ....was that a proposal or a compliment

dyfatai: Anytime i think of a wife 2 marry, i can't but think of one d@ has proper understanding of d deen like u. I've never met u, but u'll make a very wonderful wife to any man who is blessed 2 marry u. Salam

dyfatai: its more of a compliment. Wot kinda man proposes on a social neywork? Well, not d kind d@ wants a wife d@'ll train his children 2 memorize d quran by TEN, sahih bukhari nd muslim by FIFTEEN.

Esji80:

Bro. dyfatai it can start frm here o...In Q24:26 Allah s.w.t says GOOD MEN ARE FOR GOOD WOMEN and vice versa...

babylolaroy: Ama woman o buh lemme rush and defend the men
Sometimes a married man means well and wud love to love his wife forever. Buh it comes like when 'bukata' enters and dey start making kids who need money for this and that, the man gets frustrated and feels like the whole responsibilty is heavily upon him. What men of nowadays dont know is that they are richer than most of the sahabas of the prophet and even MUHAMMAD s.a.w himself. was there not a sahaba who had nothing as dowry for his wife except some verses of the quran?
were there not days when the prophet tied stones around his tummy to make him feel weighty against the pangs of hunger?
so many instances. if our men now can manage any condition. Give it when yu av it and be polite to ur wife when you dont. That way she will also learn to trust and pray for you and accept whteva yu give ha

Now to we ladies..We let men think all we want is money. They think a woman can marry a sill.y man if hez rich..lets rewrite that story because it shouldnt be.
lets be like our mother Aisha who was the poor prophet's wife
lets think of our mother Fatimah who was his daughter. they all went hungry togeda. Even i think av read somewhere that there was when fatimah had just one cloth..subhanallah! And she happily stayed with ha husband Alli without complains.

So Akhis wa ukhtis, if we learn to accept all situations together and making the best of our marriages, we will love our partners more. i believe it is money issue that causes bitterness which then remove the love in marriage

play a game together. the prophet did horse riding togeda. if however yu r one rich family den do this togeda. for instance if yu av swimming pool in ur house, swim togeda to see who reaches d edge of the pool first. etc
the bone of contention sha is that love ur wife genuinely and wives, love ur husband unconditionally

may Allah make the brothers here husbands like Muhammad and may Allah make we sisters here wives like Aisha or Khadijah

Sissie: @harmeenat I have read it, good book.

@ameerah it's so heart breaking, it makes you ask where's the love?

am33rah: I really wish this kind of love still exists amongst us. it breaks my heart to see how marriages these days are; most times you feel the distance between the couple from afar. when you ask the brothers, they will say they want wives as pious as Aisha radiy Allahu Anha,yet they can't emulate the prophet Sallallahu Alayhi wasallam. I pray that Allah grant me,and my sisters here pious and loving husbands,Amin.

babylolaroy: @ifyjemila..wa iyyak
@broda Esji and dyfatai...thanx. mashaaAllah. Broda fatai wants to HIS WIFE to be the trainer of kids to learn the sahihs and the quran..mashaaAllah!!. i love that buh lets face one truth here...am just being objective o...in our nigeria of today, a woman cant proudly say it in public that she wnts to be the full house type. people will discourage her nd some will even abuse her.

Don't get it twisted muslimah, i just reread my post and i don't c nothing like house wife dere. Pious cld hav different translations, but house wife isnt one of dem.

Now the same woman is to be the COOK, THE LAUNDRY PERSON, THE WIFE, THE MOTHER, THE TEACHER (to d kids) and @ her place of work too, THE WORKER!!!!


U blow dis out of proportion. As u r nw, aren't u a DAUGHTER, STUDENT OF KNOWLEDGE, SISTER, NAIRALANDER (+ others i dunno)........with none of dis roles interfering

Allahu Akbar.. and what happens?..The husband doesnt know all of that...he only knows the cook nd 'wife' in her. The kids den love dia mum and daddies grow JEALOUS of dia own kids!


Are u for real?? U just painted everybody wit d same brush dere. U mean dis is wot is happening every single muslim family?? Its definitely nt happening in mine, and propably nt in urs even though our parents are combining d roles effectively.

babylolaroy: @ifyjemila..wa iyyak
@broda Esji and dyfatai...thanx. mashaaAllah. Broda fatai wants to HIS WIFE to be the trainer of kids to learn the sahihs and the quran..mashaaAllah!!. i love that buh lets face one truth here...am just being objective o...in our nigeria of today, a woman cant proudly say it in public that she wnts to be the full house type. people will discourage her nd some will even abuse her.

babylolaroy: @ifyjemila..wa iyyak
@broda Esji and dyfatai...thanx. mashaaAllah. Broda fatai wants to HIS WIFE to be the trainer of kids to learn the sahihs and the quran..mashaaAllah!!. i love that buh lets face one truth here...am just being objective o...in our nigeria of today, a woman cant proudly say it in public that she wnts to be the full house type. people will discourage her nd some will even abuse her.

babylolaroy: Now the same woman is to be the COOK, THE LAUNDRY PERSON, THE WIFE, THE MOTHER, THE TEACHER (to d kids) and @ her place of work too, THE WORKER!!!!

babylolaroy: Allahu Akbar.. and what happens?..The husband doesnt know all of that...he only knows the cook nd 'wife' in her. The kids den love dia mum and daddies grow JEALOUS of dia own kids!