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Good Old days by Nobody: 5:03pm On Nov 19, 2013
Jungle don mature
Re: Good Old days by Danhumprey: 5:18pm On Nov 19, 2013
I understand your pain,bro. But you have to understand that you have to work on building your confidence. Doing so may not be easy at first,but if you can work on your confidence,that would be a great step toward aproaching a lady. You should be ready to take whatever answer the lady would throw at you. The least she can do is to say "NO",and that won't kill you. It would only give you more confidence in approaching another lady. Just work on your confidence,learn to associate with people,don't just hide yourself in your shell.
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 5:50pm On Nov 19, 2013
Danhumprey: I understand your pain,bro. But you have to understand that you have to work on building your confidence. Doing so may not be easy at first,but if you can work on your confidence,that would be a great step toward aproaching a lady. You should be ready to take whatever answer the lady would throw at you. The least she can do is to say "NO",and that won't kill you. It would only give you more confidence in approaching another lady. Just work on your confidence,learn to associate with people,don't just hide yourself in your shell.
really wat am afraid of is her saying "NO"...her saying no would really affect me..i.e d little courage i had to tok 2her would b completely lost..
Re: Good Old days by StPete: 6:19pm On Nov 19, 2013
Re: Good Old days by StPete: 6:19pm On Nov 19, 2013
Girls are humans and not spirits. Build your confidence because no one will do it for u. If a girl says no, it's not the end of the world. U either remain a single shy guy till old age or u summon up some courage and walk up to them and become that confident man any lady is proud of. Been shy doesn't bring u anything, every lady wants a confident and funny guy. Or better still, wait until u have made some money and then courage might just luckily creep in for u. Goodluck!
Re: Good Old days by selebobo: 7:02pm On Nov 19, 2013
Guy u beta try n high ur mola ooo...na ur sef u dy hurt o
Re: Good Old days by Dubemkelly(m): 8:17pm On Nov 19, 2013
Shy shy bobo ....Star,u never get n u talking of being shy 4 intimacy? 1st thing 1st nah, u hv low self esteem,come out of yhu comfort zone n chilax with people n sto watching too much bollywood movies,Priya in reality is differnt 4rm Priya in indian movies
Re: Good Old days by prospero5(m): 9:01pm On Nov 19, 2013
let ur shy nature be a plus to u. thank goodness! why not stay d way u are.
Re: Good Old days by borie4u(m): 9:50pm On Nov 19, 2013
olatunji21: I tink am d mst shy human being ever created... frm being shy to speak wit my dad, to been shy to mingle with frds.which in turn makes me feel lonely(wich ultimately made my fone my bstfrd)....i dnt have d confidence to talk to a grl...i could admire a grl for years bt i have never really gotten d nerves to walk up to dem....d only grl i wooed made jest of me(i.e whenever i pass where she & her frds are sitted, dere eyes are always fussed on me wich made me feel very uneasy)...
ever since den i gave up on her...and ever since av never really had d gut to tok to a grl..
Pls i need advice on aw to solve dis ?..
@20 i aren't gettin younger ,i should b able to call a grl mine...

Just like Danhumphrey said getting a No from any gal doesnt take away anything from u. U need to understand that. I was very much shy as a teen even than u but with time you will get over it. In life u can never be getting YES all the time so go on and ask any gal out that catches ur fancy.
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 9:54pm On Nov 19, 2013
Odikwa very serious
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 9:55pm On Nov 19, 2013
Guy, i think u're in D wrong place seeking advice. Sadly i can't help you becos i'm in ur shoes, same age, same character and same situation.
Re: Good Old days by striker9(m): 10:24pm On Nov 19, 2013
You need to start making friends,there are stuffs you can learn from friends easily,you can also ask a girl out online or mobile,its works.
Re: Good Old days by pomporiking: 11:10pm On Nov 19, 2013
Nigga just make your money and see who will start doing the toasting
Re: Good Old days by Prymestrr(m): 12:28am On Nov 20, 2013
Odedoyin25: Guy, i think u're in D wrong place seeking advice. Sadly i can't help you becos i'm in ur shoes, same age, same character and same situation.
Hahahahahahahahahaha... Na AGE SYNDROME e be... U guys should form an association on NL titled "20 years old shy & highly DIFFIDENT boys association"... I ll volunteer 2 be ur FINANCIAL SECRETARYgrin
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 12:32am On Nov 20, 2013
Well yours is a severe case. But all I can tell you is, try and be good friends with the girl you want to woo, as time goes on, make her happy. Be there for her. Hang out with her and subtly show her you do care about her. With these moves, you'd gain a lil confidence to approach and when you do and get disappointed, you won't feel so much bad than just walking up to a lady and getting rejected.
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 6:04am On Nov 20, 2013
Pryme-st*rr:

Hahahahahahahahahaha... Na AGE SYNDROME e be... U guys should form an association on NL titled "20 years old shy & highly DIFFIDENT boys association"... I ll volunteer 2 be ur FINANCIAL SECRETARYgrin
bros u no crious oooo...
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 8:44am On Nov 20, 2013
Before you can overcome your shyness, you need to ask yourself: why am I shy in the first place?? Re u disabled or smetn? Too short? Etc, wheb you know why you re shy, you can den find a way out.
Re: Good Old days by nkwachiabel(m): 9:51am On Nov 20, 2013
Pryme-st*rr:

Hahahahahahahahahaha... Na AGE SYNDROME e be... U guys should form an association on NL titled "20 years old shy & highly DIFFIDENT boys association"... I ll volunteer 2 be ur FINANCIAL SECRETARYgrin
Abeg o!!!! No be age syndrome. Everybody ws shy @ one age or anoda. Sumtyms it dpnds on d way dey were groomed frm d hauz. If u cnt b open @ hme, where else can u be free? @ OP grow some nerves bro.... I'm 20 buh I'm no more shy... My parents are authoritative buh I tink being a bit rebellious nd able 2 stand up 2 dem made me a bit confident.....
Re: Good Old days by Ollybarbie219(f): 10:24am On Nov 20, 2013
leavestory: Odikwa very serious
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 10:26am On Nov 20, 2013
Pryme-st*rr:

Hahahahahahahahahaha... Na AGE SYNDROME e be... U guys should form an association on NL titled "20 years old shy & highly DIFFIDENT boys association"... I ll volunteer 2 be ur FINANCIAL SECRETARYgrin
i'm not diffident niccur!!! Okay, maybe a lil bit, but my own problem seems to be in conversation, heck, i can't discuss with a lady for a minute.
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 10:27am On Nov 20, 2013
[quote author=Olly barbie219][/quote]
den kan u b d sugar in my tea??
Re: Good Old days by Ollybarbie219(f): 10:30am On Nov 20, 2013
olatunji21:
den kan u b d sugar in my tea??
id rather be the mosquitoe in ur net *winks*
Re: Good Old days by nkwachiabel(m): 10:31am On Nov 20, 2013
Odedoyin25: i'm not diffident niccur!!! Okay, maybe a lil bit, but my own problem seems to be in conversation, heck, i can't discuss with a lady for a minute.
but you can have sex for more than a minute abi? Foul
Re: Good Old days by Vicjay1(m): 10:47am On Nov 20, 2013
Simple problem. One thing u should know about most feminine folks is that they like guys with confidence. They may also like u but want you to make the first move. The girls you are afraid of will be the ones that would be easier for you(this works perfectly for me, dnt know about others). Even if they resist at first, persist. dem no go kill u. Some of the girls you are afraid of are dying inside waiting for guys to walk up to them esp the very beautiful ones.
Re: Good Old days by Waladade4luv(m): 11:00am On Nov 20, 2013
May b u should try a bottle of alomo bitters. . . D shyness in u go vanish
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 11:22am On Nov 20, 2013
Olly barbie219: id rather be the mosquitoe in ur net *winks*
mosquitoe, Sugar all join...deal?
Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 11:25am On Nov 20, 2013
nkwachiabel: but you can have sex for more than a minute abi? Foul
his level is still conversation, u dn dy tok of sex..na waa 4u ooo
Re: Good Old days by Prymestrr(m): 11:31am On Nov 20, 2013
Odedoyin25: i'm not diffident niccur!!! Okay, maybe a lil bit, but my own problem seems to be in conversation, heck, i can't discuss with a lady for a minute.
Gush!... Is it dt u can't possibly come up with a nice pick up line or dt u can't tease a lady.
Ask any female *try asking ur sisters*, dey like it wen a guy can tease dem humorously. Makes dem feel relaxed n safe from boredom wen dey r with d guy. Try it somtims... It works 1das!!!
Re: Good Old days by slimfit2(m): 11:37am On Nov 20, 2013
Odedoyin25: Guy, i think u're in D wrong place seeking advice. Sadly i can't help you becos i'm in ur shoes, same age, same character and same situation.
laffing and seriously rolling on d floor.Guy I lyk ur courage of saying d truth.you guys just need a little work on ur self esteem and b4 u know it all d gals in ur street/ skul Don enta trouble. And to b frank I used to b shy ( am even still) but now have made some brkthru in relating with d opposite sex, I guess it was my stubbornness( agidi Ekiti) dat helped me up till dis point.
Likewise you guys just know what u want and b a lil tactful, approach her and am sure she won't bite and b4 u know it u ar at d 99p.cent confidence level..lobatan
Re: Good Old days by Tinkybabe(f): 11:58am On Nov 20, 2013
Op you lack confidence because you are scared of rejection.
One thing you should know is that rejection is almost inevitable.The world's most successful people have at one point in their lives faced rejection but why they have risen to the height they are now is because they didn't allow the rejection or fall to deter them.They kept trying and used these rejections to their advantage.

About women,first of,women are human beings and are not superior to you.The worst a girl can say to you is no.One thing you should have at the back of your mind when walking up to a girl is that it could be a win or lose situation.

Now on approaching girls,try to make friends with them first-don't come on too strong.In fact try not to make a romantic relationship your priority...Just come on as a basic friend.

Engage them in general and sensible convos,be humorous whilst being yourself and just endeavour to socialise generally-with the right company of course..


Build that confidence not in a bid to get a girl but to make yourself a better and stronger person overall.

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Re: Good Old days by Nobody: 12:35pm On Nov 20, 2013
this kain topic no dey ever end for nairaland. Like i would always advise grow some balls. If u like sef, smoke weed. angry
Re: Good Old days by ChiSun27(m): 1:09pm On Nov 20, 2013
Danhumprey: I understand your pain,bro. But you have to understand that you have to work on building your confidence. Doing so may not be easy at first,but if you can work on your confidence,that would be a great step toward aproaching a lady. You should be ready to take whatever answer the lady would throw at you. The least she can do is to say "NO",and that won't kill you. It would only give you more confidence in approaching another lady. Just work on your confidence,learn to associate with people,don't just hide yourself in your shell.

You've said it all...no more comment.

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