give it a tryout and see. Just be praying dat not only will he be an American wannabe but wouldnt leave you for sum1 else, and keep trying in da US 2, try diferent cities/states, gd luck

@ topic

No! Look for someone new!

Fiona,

There is no guarantee that your imported lover will not change to what you mentioned you despise.

And there's is no guarantee that you wont get dumped by the imported lover, so that he too can bring his own imported girlfriend he was dating before he met you.

I still haven't understood the trend of going all the way to Nigeria to get married and later start moving from one embassy to the other for documents. When will you possibly enjoy your union?

dearie this a very sensitive topic. Thread with care . unfortunately the average naija person believes that America is the land of opportunity (great misconception) and will do anything to come over. If he does not start trifling once he gets here or does not run away , he may be frustrated at his inability to achieve his tall dreams.

that said I think the approach of checking out an Ex is good , that way you are sure that at least there were some feelings before the US thing became a factor. In addition make sure you have a good plan for his future if he does come over. a college or masters degree should be considered ( you want a man who adds value)

so choose wisely , a focused , ambitious and sharp man is required here. some one who can be a success wherever he is in the world . Not an idiot who thinks America will solve all his woes.

good luck

I was considering that before.

But the situation won't be that easy, apart from that, the situation is too delicate.

I don't think am up for the challenge

@michelin89. its not about going to bring a man from . its about keeping your options open to include a guy from naija

Pittbaby:

@michelin89. its not about going to bring a man from . its about keeping your options open to include a guy from naija

All the same na risky business be that. That option should be left behind if you aren't planning to move back to Nigeria for good!

@ Michelin

why is that , because long distance relationships don't work abi?? wake up people the world is becoming more and more global . I know a lot of couples who live in separate countries due to work or other circumstances

Pittbaby:

@ Michelin

why is that , because long distance relationships don't work abi?? wake up people the world is becoming more and more global . I know a lot of couples who live in separate countries due to work or other circumstances

Why is it so difficult for you to see?

Anyways keep your tune low. Nor be me dey collect tax money from your salary!

@ Michelin

why is that , because long distance relationships don't work abi?? wake up people the world is becoming more and more global . I know a lot of couples who live in separate countries due to work or other circumstances

Haba, she say she no wan do, you dey criticize her. It's her choice na.

It may sound like a good idea to you, but not ot her.

I understand long distance in same country, but diff continent?

Don't try it. ugh

Ruby_Pearl:

I understand long distance in same country, but diff continent?

Don't try it. ugh

I have never bought the idea of going home to get married or going to the village to get married or going to one particular place to get married. Gosh you've been offered the opportunity of a new land. Make use of it.

LOL! True

michelin89:

I have never bought the idea of going home to get married or going to the village to get married or going to one particular place to get married. Gosh you've been offered the opportunity of a new land. Make use of it.

what if the caliber of girls around you are crap    naija girls over my area here to me are crap.  everyone has sampled one another.

except me . i'm fresh

HCH3COO:

what if the caliber of girls around you are crap naija girls over my area here to me are crap. everyone has sampled one another.

So?

of course you don't care .  vida guerra oshi 

HCH3COO:

of course you don't care . dirty sanchez oshi

I'm not so superficial!

michelin89:

I'm not so superficial!

yeap. just sexist

HCH3COO:

yeap. just sexist

You said I can't be!

Michelin,

are you here to help or what? why are you getting toucy, please let the sista keep her options open. how many naija babes out here in there thirtys with no husband cos they are waiting for the dream yankee- naija man.

Pittbaby:

Michelin,

are you here to help or what? why are you getting toucy, please let the sista keep her options open. how many naija babes out here in there thirtys with no husband because they are waiting for the dream yankee- naija man.

Are you for real? Tell me, Over 30 Nigerian ladies in Nigeria hardly find husbands because of their age. Now tell me why should an over 30 Nigerian woman based abroad have a better chance of finding a spouse? Ah! Is it because she is the road to the dream land?

I think this says everything we need to know about what future that union can eventually have.

awwh, thanx. i see some responce about the possibility of him turning into one of those nig_american guys i'm running from, and also the chance that he could use this opportunity 2 bring one of his ex's or someone new,

does the fact that he is exactly 10yrs older than me count? i mean, do y'all think he would wanna go through the process of dumping me and starting over?

fionaa:

awwh, thanx. i see some responce about the possibility of him turning into one of those nig_american guys i'm running from, and also the chance that he could use this opportunity 2 bring one of his ex's or someone new,

does the fact that he is exactly 10yrs older than me count? i mean, do y'all think he would want to go through the process of dumping me and starting over?

Men have never seen their age as a barrier. Their financial and social status have more impact in whatever decision they make. So if you think that being older won't make him leave, you are being too naive.

lol

yo michelin89, don't u think "naive" is such a harsh word? i'm not being naive. i'm just keeping an open mind about the possibility that his age might be a good excuse 4 us to work out eventually.

Dont do it, . . find someone in the US

fionaa:

awwh, thanx. i see some responce about the possibility of him turning into one of those nig_american guys i'm running from, and also the chance that he could use this opportunity 2 bring one of his ex's or someone new,

does the fact that he is exactly 10yrs older than me count? i mean, do y'all think he would want to go through the process of dumping me and starting over?

yes woman.  there's a possibility the man wouldn't mind going through the process of dumping you.  it's happened many times before.