chuqudy: I want answers from good christian believers. If I look at my wedded wife lustfully have I sinned?

striktlymi:

It depends!

No couple can lay claim to marriage if they are yet to consumate their union through s*xual intercourse; and for a couple to enoy this s*xual experience, it is necessary that they are attracted to each other s*xually.

The greater the controlled attraction for each other, the happier will be the s*xual life of the couple which can also contribute to the couple's marital bliss. This is healthy and good from the standpoint of Christianity.

Lust is the inordinate desire or indulgence in the carnal pleasures e.g sex. So for a married couple to commit the sin of lust via a s*xual desire for each other, that desire MUST be wrong in itself.

For example, sodomy is regarded as a sin, hence this is wrong in itself. If a married person desires to commit the sin of sodomy with his/her partner then that married person has committed the sin of lust if and only if, the desire is voluntary, fully deliberate and the person intends to act on that thought.

chuqudy: I want answers from good christian believers. If I look at my wedded wife lustfully have I sinned?

okeyxyz:

This is evidence to show that lust does not mean se.xual urge. This word has been misused and passed down to us through the ages. The true meaning of lust is the desire to posses something for yourself only, without sharing.

chuqudy:

Are u suggesting that one should share his wife?

okeyxyz:

It is not a sin to share your wife. It is within your right if you want to. God has mandated you guys to use yourselves sexually(& naturally) as you see fit. The Corinthians were sharing before Paul banned it because they were abusing that se.xual liberty. I explain
briefly 1 corinthians 7:

1Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman

To touch, as used here does not mean- to touch a woman sexually, rather it means to cling to, or fasten to. In other words, to posses for yourself only.

2But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.

Now Paul says each man should henceforth have(engage, continue with) only with his wife and each wife should have(engage, continue with) only with her husband... So the question is: Why would Paul give this command if not that sharing was allowed in the first place?, but he banned this practice because of the abuse of this principle of sharing. That is because of immoralities(fornication). This brings to another misuse of words here. "Fornication" has been misused and passed down to us to mean having se.x with somebody you are not married to. This is wrong definition and going back to the law of Moses. Fornication simply means unlawful(without consent) or unnatural sex.

chuqudy: If I look at my wedded wife lustfully have I sinned?

tpia@:
@ okeyxyz

straighten yourself out plz, unless you are in a cult.

chuqudy:

What is sodomy and how can one commit the sin of sodomy with his wife involuntarily?

okeyxyz:

It is not a sin to share your wife. It is within your right if you want to. God has mandated you guys to use yourselves sexually(& naturally) as you see fit. The Corinthians were sharing before Paul banned it because they were abusing that se.xual liberty. I explain
briefly 1 corinthians 7:

1Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman

To touch, as used here does not mean- to touch a woman sexually, rather it means to cling to, or fasten to. In other words, to posses for yourself only.

2But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.

Now Paul says each man should henceforth have(engage, continue with) only with his wife and each wife should have(engage, continue with) only with her husband... So the question is: Why would Paul give this command if not that sharing was allowed in the first place?, but he banned this practice because of the abuse of this principle of sharing. That is because of immoralities(fornication). This brings to another misuse of words here. "Fornication" has been misused and passed down to us to mean having se.x with somebody you are not married to. This is wrong definition and going back to the law of Moses. Fornication simply means unlawful(without consent) or unnatural sex.

Trueyarn: u hav'nt commited any sin, infact if u dont look at your spouse lustfully that might lead you to sin as u may be looking at some other person in a lustful manner...

It is very healthy to look and think of ur spouse lustfully, it keeps the fire burning!