Pretending or being yourself in relationship which is the best?
I have a challenge.

Be urself

Don't live a lie. So that if the guy manages to fall in luv with you, u would know he is in luv with YOU and not some person u are pretending to be.

But unless u are looking for something else and not a real relationship.

You can only pretend for so long. . . then what?

Be yourself.

Seriously . . .how do someone pretend in a relationship? ? ?

Be yourself.

be yourself
hate it or love it

Nautillus:

Seriously . . .how do someone pretend in a relationship? ? ?

watch nigerian movie and youwill see what babes could do, and even guys too.

i hate pretenders!!
theres this girl who used to pretend dat she cud do without me so anytime thers misunderstandin i wud be beggin her.the day i got soo pissd off i told her to get out and neva cum, she hissed and went, after 1wk and no appologies from me she started beggin screw her i neva wan2 see her ^{ladies neva pretend pls}

But have come to know that many guys likes girls that are pretents, they double date, full of lies.

What is your definition of pretention? What does lying and double-dating got to do with pretending?

You see, you can be yourself and still double-date, lies. You can also pretend and tell the truth, and remain faithful to your partner. It is relative.

Whether you pretend or not, your real nature would eventually come out.

Sometime, I think it is good to pretend when you are investigating someone. It depends on the circumstance. However, I hate chamelons!

@ Topic,

I think one can only pretend for so long, . . . . . . . .

It's best to be youself. . . . . . .

pretencious people would always end up losing!

Why laugh, iice? You know, given an option between a Chamelon and a Pretender, I would honestly choose a pretender. Why? Because you will always find a pretender out if you are smart enough. But a chamellon? You must be extra-careful!

I am not supporting pretenders, but our world is full of chamelons, dangerous chamelons, more than the pretenders. Most of the harms that had been reported in relationship emanated from chamelons. They are saints and full of live. They are pleasant to us. They are angels who swept us off our feet at once. But once they found another "prey", we would be abandoned and their nature change to the new environment. Leaving us empty, foolish, cheated and used.

Who are the chamelons? The men and women who can be whatever their target want them to be and still retain their own nature! They blend easily. Love easily. Quick on the edge. Chamelons are dangerous because you may never find them out until it is too late. Chamelons don't pretend. It is just that while they are with us, they adapt to us. But once they are through with us, they change colours! They don't pretend. It is their nature to manipulate other people and still achieve their goals. I think this is why they are dangerous.

Pretenders on the other hand are just lying. A simple lie test would expose them.

it all depends on the type of guy u dealt with.
if a lady is straightforward with a guy, he bends
if she pretends, he likes her

so some like pretentious ladies
some like the ones that being themselves.

so girls, if u meet a guy dat likes any of it, give it to him!

Brash!
Pretenders don't always lose! Pretenders can tell you the truth and still hurt you. Every pretenders do it for a purpose. I think good men also pretend,

Unless you limit pretenders to the bad ones.

I believe we all pretend at 1 point or another. There's usually a reason. Just depends on if its Noble or Not.

Pretense is usually at the beginning of the relationship from thence further pretense is just sinister

Pretense is usually at the beginning of the relationship from thence further pretense is just sinister @ per lol but is not the best

u dont honestly expect anyone to come out here and say pretence is their style, but it happens everyday. In a woman's case, pretence is bad as it is usually used to hide the bad aspects of behaviour. . . However, in a man, it depends on either good or bad. . . A very rich man may choose to marry someone who doesnt love him for his money therefore he may pretend to be a palm wine tapper
But if he uses it to hide his evil side, then it should also be discouraged.

being yourself ofcourse no matter
how you pretend, one day the real you
will show

pretend small at first,

then be yourself. (u can't hide the truth for long unless the other person involved is dumb)

Persona,
I think you are right there. Most of us pretend at the begining of r/ship. But many people don't see their own back until someone show them.

whitelexi,
rightly said.

Some guys pretend they are perfect when they meet a lady. Ladies are the greatest pretenders. Some wear make up that make the look beautiful. Once the make up are removed, one see a shadow of ugliness! Men pretend by buying gifts they know they can't afford, just to impress the ladies. Some brutes pretend to be complete gentlemen only to marry and become terror.

People said "Be yourself". But we know that many of us could not find it easy to do.

It takes courage to Be oneself. People who can do that are often unnoticed. That is why many young men and women pretend alot.

Be yourself jare

nothing could b hidden under the sun. ur pretence will definitely come to lamp light some days when u least expect it. b urself.

AVOID PRETENCE! dats my advice ppl. Be Your self, coz someday ur d real person in u wil definitely show nomatter how u try 2 hide them,

LEt me shar wit u my own story, I waz in a 3-month relationship with a lady, She pretended 2 b caring , loving n understanding, dat hapened when i was in schl in abk, but when i gt 2 Lagos i found out so much bout her, i mean her true self, she lied 2 me, she pretended 2 b what she's nt, U LADIES R SOO WICKED. ALL U CARE ABOUT IS THE PRESENT.

Avoid Pretense!!!! Forget that thing. If you make urself an open book, U'd be ridden upon. TRUST ME, I KNOW.

Even Chris Rock said it. When u meet some1, that person meets the representative of us. Basically the best we can offer. weather u like it or not u pretend. Its kinda hypocritical to think otherwise.

The problem is when people take it to a whole new level, I seen it. It works (sometimes) believe me. The truth will come out. So? It might just have been an exaggeration. Lies are different but really I must say necessary sometimes (as I've come to learn). Not the best but also not the best policy to always be truthful.

You are human. It is inherent that u pretend. Ask any1 They'll tell you I'm the most trustworthy and truthful person U'll ever meet. In truth, Na me lie pass. Brings me back to the Truth is not always ur best policy.

@Persona82

So whats the poiint man?

Pretense is as much a part of you as breathing.

Better used to protect yourself than to mislead others for selfish reaons