topup:

Just wondering, are sisters and brothers of a player usually aware that their sibling is breaking hearts? Imagine if your 22 year old brother who is reasonably good looking has never mentioned a girlfriend, yet he parties a lot, drinks and smokes?

topup:

Just wondering, are sisters and brothers of a player usually aware that their sibling is breaking hearts? Imagine if your 22 year old brother who is reasonably good looking has never mentioned a girlfriend, yet he parties a lot, drinks and smokes?

Hannibal:

A player is LESS GUILTY than the chic that got played in ma opinion.

tRoOE:

Birds of the same feathers flocks together.

tRoOE:

Abeg translate jare

topup:

I am surprised by the replies, maybe a lot of Nigerians live secluded from their families, but I knew a guy who was extremely close to his sister, but he was a player, I dumped him when I found out that he was not serious. His sister might think that I wasn't the serious one, but only if she didn't know her brother. I've asked some of my friends and they believe that siblings are aware especially close ones, when a guy who is young and reasonably good-looking who never talks about one girl, but he parties a lot and his friends are the ones who openly talk about 'preys' and 'making a catch tonight'. She must know, she is his best friend, his confidant - he'D told me. She probably turned a blind eye to it all saying that 'boys will be boys'.

I think that usually, the siblings will know if they are close, but maybe the double life may be sustained if the siblings are not close.

n-guage:

I wasn't serious with you because you weren't wifey material. We did all kinds of knky stuffs on that night I picked you up, and you still expected me to be serious. GTFOH

n-guage:

I wasn't serious with you because you weren't wifey material. We did all kinds of knky stuffs on that night I picked you up, and you still expected me to be serious. GTFOH

bigboyslim:

n-guage, can you go a little bit easy on the sister. for all you care she doesn't date New Yorkers so why are you making noise.

Hannibal:

A player is LESS GUILTY than the chic that got played in ma opinion.

Just wondering, are sisters and brothers of a player usually aware that their sibling is breaking hearts? Imagine if your 22 year old brother who is reasonably good looking has never mentioned a girlfriend, yet he parties a lot, drinks and smokes?

n-guage:

I wasn't serious with you because you weren't wifey material. We did all kinds of knky stuffs on that night I picked you up, and you still expected me to be serious. GTFOH

topup:

Explain . . . (before I attack!)

Hannibal:

Players are easy to spot BUT women ignore the alarm bells and still forge ahead to date them.
When u stick your hand in fire and get BURNT, don't complain.

Not always, but they tend to have shadows, areas where you can't quite make sense or understand how the story fits together. Can you give some clues as to how to watch out for players, yes the obvious ones like, where you meet him, and how he picks you up, I need the really hard to detect ones. Sharing is caring, so SHARE!!

Sistawoman I am shocked!! Ok, I guess maybe because I have only witnessed such events from the side of the girl being played who wasn't a player herself I feel a little hurt that a fellow woman can stand back and watch whilst it happens. I shudder to think that my brother's sister is laughing with him when I dumped him, telling him, he wasted his time on me and should move on to the next pray. I shudder, brrrrr.
I was talking to a friend about it and she told me that she didn't know what to do really, the loyalty lies with your sibling, and they have a control on you in which even though what they're doing is wrong, you can almost sympathise with them and see their point of view. Lastly, I always thought if she was so close to her brother why didn't she confront him about it, and she said that it was none of her business. I believe the actual relationships is none of her business, but helping to mould her brother into a more responsible young man is HER business, not her job, but she should at least attempt.

Another point is that what goes around comes around, have you not been played sistawoman? Do you know how badly you wished someone told you, and imagine how dissapointed you would be knowing that the sister of the player, through loyalty, watched you be led into the lion's den and did nothing to warn you.

I understand you led the girls in the 'right' direction, in order to make things less painful and at the same time easier to manage at the same time. That redeems you

topup:

iice, yeah, to be honest, those aren't the ways of knowing if a guy is a player or not, all I mean is that, a girl's outgoing brother, who's friends are players, who attends a lot of parties and has a large group of friends, has never once mentioned a girlfriend, mind you the two of them are really close, he mentions no girl, no relationship, but just by knowing him, you know that he is sexually active. Player or not? She would know right?

Then i'D say my baby bro is a player

topup:

Not always, but they tend to have shadows, areas where you can't quite make sense or understand how the story fits together. Can you give some clues as to how to watch out for players, yes the obvious ones like, where you meet him, and how he picks you up, I need the really hard to detect ones. Sharing is caring, so SHARE!!

sistawoman:

Spotting a player is impossible if their game is tight. Man they will promise you the world and will feed you all the lines. My brothers even got a few from me, asking me what the women wanted to hear. They will build a world in which u will start to believe that he can't be seeing anyone else. Shit one techiquie we used to use is remember to call each girl everyday. he would go through and check them off to be sure he kept up with each girl. I would help him with the details of their lives so that he could act as if he cared. he would be running them at about 10 deep at anyone given time.

sistawoman:

Both my brothers found their wives in the women they were playing. These women stood out from the rest and made him throw in his jersery and give up his card.

Wow, you must have been extremely hurt by that guy, to the point you were able to lose all sympathy for the women 'who deserved to be played' or the women. I don't think it's an excuse to play people because you were once played, I have heard it time and time again, people using it as an excuse, in this case. I believe you are only using it as a reason, the truth behind it.

I don't think it's fair, I think I was played, by my first serious b/f and though I didn't lose anything physically, I lost quite a lot of my heart to it, and I am still trying to restore it, maybe it's different personalities, but my goal is to restore myself to the person I was before I got played, and so I don't intend to change and become a player myself.

Please Sistawoman, you seem to have gone through a lot of heartbreak, please share the things you've learnt with me, with us. . .
I want to know what qualities make a player give up his game.

My theory is that it's not always the woman, it's the time in the player's life, I believe a player who is almost at the top of his game, will not quit no matter what, if his friends are there, cheering him on and he has a rep to hold, but if he has alreayd achieved that title, maybe his friends are getting married or settling down, then the 'fun' in it starts to diminish and he'll slowly start to come around the idea of something meaningful. If lucky, he meets a wonderful girl, and he now is able to go for it again, he has made his point, he can mess with girls, he can boost his ego, but he needs now to fill in the space in his life.

What do you think Sistawoman? How did the women stand out from the rest?

I have seen many guys play my friends, though my friends are well appreciated by many guys, they are great girls and I'm not just saying that, my guy friends constantly try and get with them and they stick to their morals, they don't have flings and have great self-preservation. The girls are smart, ambitious, funny, gorgeous (physically), and yet they have been played.

What is this thing that makes a player stop in his tracks. . .

And man, have I heard that line before 'I knew I'd change once I met the right woman' also , from a player who wasn't in any mind to change but used it to convince my friend to go out with him.