My 7 week pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I know the docs say that it wasn't my fault and there was nothing to do to stop it. I just cant help but to feel bad. I was attached to it. Well anyone know anything that will help me get over the loss?

Akinagirl (f)
IN YOUR DADDYS BED
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until you get out of that bed of fornication as indicated under your name,you ain't getting any advise from this counsellor

my sincere sympathies. If you stay on NL long enough you'll laugh so hard you wont even remember your troubles again. Works for me.

thanks Daviddylan*
Um, homegirl. I don't come around disrespecting you, so please do not disrespect me. If you don't have anything positive to say, then shut the hell up. And by the way, my quote on my profile has nothing to do with my personality. But since you are so holy and without sin, go fk yourself. I need sincere, and respectful advice, this is a hard time for me because my fiance and I sincerely wanted this baby.
Thank you.

Seriously, your location. . . . anywayz.

To get over a baby loss, visit the nearest children's hospital. Volunteer for a while, look after the kids, etc.
Trying to avoid babies is not the best way to get over your baby's lost.
Come to terms with reality

Lmao Osisi you have killed me

AkinGirl, the funny thing is the girl you just cursed out is the one that is an expert in the field. She's pretty mcuh saying how can you be taken seriously if you have such an immature title. Just letting you now

Really though sorry about your loss. Talk to yourb doctors and see what went wrong so it wont happen again

Akinagirl:

thanks Daviddylan*
Um, homegirl. I don't come around disrespecting you, so please do not disrespect me. If you don't have anything positive to say, then shut the hell up. And by the way, my quote on my profile has nothing to do with my personality. But since you are so holy and without sin, go fk yourself. I need sincere, and respectful advice, this is a hard time for me because my fiance and I sincerely wanted this baby.
Thank you.

For a woman who desires a child your mouth is a little filthy
don't you think ?
Maybe if you change your attitude a lirrle and marry your fiancee , you may actually pray and get your prayers heard rather than fornicating around hoping to nab a man.
gerraway!
no decent person would start such a thread on this sensitive subject telling us her location is in someone's fathers bed
That tells me the kind of person you are.
7 week pregnancy ko,9 month tumor ni

Alright already. The location has nothing to do with the kind of person I am. Was just being stupid when I did that. I'm in a very serious relationship, hence my fiance. And this is my first pregnancy. Queen, I took offence, b/c you were just bad mouthing and being insultive instead of answering the question that I asked. So lets focus on the question that I asked and less on the location. I'm sorry I cursed you out, my apologies, was feeling a little overwhelmed and your post didn't help much. If you are indeed an expert Queen, then I think you should know how to talk to people professionally without putting your personal views in it. Whether I am a fornicator or not does not have to do wit the topic at hand. But thank you all for your replies anyway.
Cheers.

Ruby, I honestly do feel that withdraw from babies. And sometimes I get a little jealous of other women who is having or has had a successful pregnancy. Is that normal?

Wait 6 months and try again !or maybe less, talk to your doctor.
Is not the end of the world.
It happen with a lot of women, is normal, mainly at the first pregnancy
Why dont y marry before get pregnancy ?

Plus Queen is not a nice person period. Someone is grieving but she is more interested in pointing out silly things. She needs to counsel herself first. Expert my butt.

Sorry about the loss.
Toyin No Ruby gave you a good advice.Visit the childrens' ward or an orphanage home and play with kids.
If you are in lagos try little saints Orphanage Palmgroove and Akowonjo.
More babies wud come,u did not lose your womb

sorry lady,  .  . get better soon. get a book to read, something to make you laugh NL is a funny place too.
cheer up

Akinagirl:

Alright already. The location has nothing to do with the kind of person I am. Was just being stupid when I did that. I'm in a very serious relationship, hence my fiance. And this is my first pregnancy. Queen, I took offence, b/c you were just bad mouthing and being insultive instead of answering the question that I asked. So lets focus on the question that I asked and less on the location. I'm sorry I cursed you out, my apologies, was feeling a little overwhelmed and your post didn't help much. If you are indeed an expert Queen, then I think you should know how to talk to people professionally without putting your personal views in it. Whether I am a fornicator or not does not have to do wit the topic at hand. But thank you all for your replies anyway.
Cheers.

My apologies too sweetie.
I'm not an expert really at least not in field of grief counselling
I'm just a woman who believes in the sanctity of marriage and family.
I've never had a miscarriage so personally,I don't know what it feels like but I've had other losses in my life so I know what it is to hurt.
I am sorry for your loss.
and your doctor is right,it was not your fault.
a significant number of pregnancies,maybe a little under a third of all pregnancies undergo spontaneous abortions and most are due to some genetic defect in the fetus.
Majority of women who have had miscarriages go on to have healthy babies.
So medically the odds are in your favour.

Are you a Christian?
The only encouragement I can give is from the word of God.
"with God all things are possible"
If you live here in the USA there could be support groups in your area,check the phone book.Don't be ashamed to join.
Your doctor's office or insurance company could also help arrange for you to see a counsellor, don't be ahamed to use those services,that's what they are there for.
You'll learn ways to cope with such tragedies and have listening ears that'll hear you out.
I wish I had counselling available to deal with a traumatic issue I had,it would have saved me years of deep seated pain but thank God I found my husband who acted as a counsellor in that area.
I'm glad you're sharing this on this forum,that is therapy in itself because when we bottle things in and act like we're OK,sometimes we really aren't
And we end up causing ourselves years of emotional harm without meaning to.

I'll still advise that you marry your fiance before you try again,that way you'll be doing it right in the sight of God and also perhaps your parents.
Take care and God bless.

so sorry to hear of your loss. may God heal you and your womb. seriously i would consider this advice and work on it.

I'll still advise that you marry your fiance before you try again,that way you'll be doing it right in the sight of God and also perhaps your parents.

God bless

Thank you all so much for your advice, Queen, Karma, all of you guys God bless. I do plan on getting married to him and getting more settled before trying again. This pregnancy was not planned, but as soon as I found out and the anxiety was over, I started getting attached, and that is why i feel a great loss. Thank you all so much for encouraging me. I am in the USA, and I didn't know they actually had counseling for that. So thanks for that advice too,
Love you all.

Yes there's counselling for it.
Look up your insurance benefits.They list it all under mental health?substance abuse
It doesn't mean you're crazy or a druggie.
Those are just the commonest headings they fall under.

Thanks Queen and to everyone that contribute, thank you. I do feel better.

@Akinagirl

sorry to hear that,

my cousin had a a 7wk preg miscarriage last year,and it was her first baby too

and she felt really downcasted , moody ,sad everything but happy

until my mom said something to her that really changed everything

this was what she told her.

HE/SHE(the baby)was not ready to be concieved at that point in time
and the baby was trying to give the parents time to be prepared for its arrival,since it was her first.
she(my mom) also had 3 miscarriages in the space of 1 year before she had my brothers and i

now my cousin has a 6month old baby boy who arrived miraculously like my mom had said.
and is being welcomed into a beautiful home where he is loved by his parents.

sometimes we think we're ready for kids but the truth is we're not.

so take easy ,and be happy more pregnancies are on thier way ,i hope this helps.

It really does Uzoo, thank you so much. I do feel better now, and have accepted the fact that it was not time. And who knows, when it is time, circumstances will be far better. Again, thank you all very much for your advice.

I hope you don born pikin reach 3 now?

Since someone recently replied to this very old topic, I will give some updates. My fiance and I are now married and we have a lovely healthy baby boy. He will be 3 in Feb. So you see God is good. He has blessed us with the joy of our lives. Hes so smart and athletic. All around great kid. So my tears have been wiped away.

Happy for U n I just loved the way U handled PlusQueen initial approach. Very few people r blessed with these gifts: humility n maturity.