We have heard the saying “It is better to be alone than in bad company”; it is great to be married, but I believe it is better to besinglethan to be in a marriage where you feel trapped and dead on the inside.
A broken relationship is better than a broken home, so if there are signs of an unhappy marriage already showing in your relationship, please have the courage to walkaway. It is better to let go of the’ good’, so the ‘best’ can come. if you aren’t in a relationship, the good thing is that you can make the most of being single by building and preparing yourself to be a great partner and spouse when you do get hitched…How do you maximise singlehood? What should you do while ‘waiting’ – or looking for Mr or Mrs Right?
1.Open your eyes:
Don’t shut yourself off from the world, be accessible. You may not have a very active social life when you’re married because of increased responsibilities, so this is your chance to build friendships that will stand the test of time. Besides, how will you meet apotentialspouse if you don’t give yourself the chance? Rebecca in the bible got a husband because she went to the ‘well’. The well was a social meeting
point forshepherdsand maidens because it was the major source of water in the area and almost everyone had to come there. It was a good place to exchange greetings and chat while you waited your turn to fetch water and since it was doneevery day, it was a good spot for the beginning of many‘promising’ friendships.
Join a gym, a department in church, a club orstart anew hobby where you get to meet people. The idea is to make friends and get to know them –without an agenda.
When you know people in a relaxed atmosphere, they also get to know you and potential ‘courtship’
relationships can begin…I must say this, where you go determines the kind of people you’d meet. Anyone one you meet in a brothel, a night club or a friend’sbachelor partymay not have the same values as you and may be the cause of ‘regret-worthy’ one night stands and unwanted pregnancies waiting to happen to an unfortunate victim; so choose your social activities wisely!
2. Look inside:
To be good company, you must learn how to successfully stand alone. You can’t support your future spouse and be a backbone when you haven’t learnt how to support yourself emotionally and otherwise. A successful marriage is the coming together of two ‘whole’ people not two ‘halves’.
That’s why the seemingly romantic line “You complete me” is like a fallacy, because no human being can ‘complete’another person because they are not God. Yes you may feel better around someone and you
may fit together like two peas in a pod, ‘5’and ‘6’…. and all the ‘perfect pair’synonyms, but you need to discover yourself, your likes,your purpose, your passion and what you want out of life. Focus on YOU, focus on building your career, on building your character and building your dreams; that way when he or she comes along, they will be proud and feel so lucky to be with someone like you.
3. Be patient:
I know this seems cliché or maybe crazy if you’re way past your 30s and under pressure to settle down, but the most mistakes in life are made when you’re in a hurry. Count the cost of getting married and be sure that you are ready. Don’t get married for your mother, or for society,do it for yourself. You will be the only one in the marriage with someone else, so why shouldn’t you be allowed to make sure you’re ready?
Desperate choices bring desperate mistakes so take your time in getting to know people and getting to know
yourself, your future spouse will appreciate you more. Besides, your attractiveness drops when you’re too eager to get hitched, haven’t you noticed thatpeople whoseem to not be looking for a relationship always seem to have ‘chasers’? Maybe waiting a little before you commit to a relationship will save you from avoidable heartbreaks, bankruptcy and abuse.
4. Grow, improve, but don’t change:
I’ve seen cases where people lower their standards, pretend to be who they are not, and disregard their values only to be heartbroken in the end. If anyone cannot love you for whom you are, then you are better off without them. Be the best version of yourself,but by all means never try to be someone you’re not to gain acceptance.A lot of marriages have suffered from great shock when during years of dating the man was a romantic gentleman withsuaveand manners, and when he gets married he reveals the ‘cave man’ inside; and turns a wonderful wife into a bitter and disappointed woman. A lady who hates the ‘heat’ of the kitchen pretends to be a domestic goddess to attract a husband and turns into slob after marriage, much to the disappointment of her husband. Please be open minded and willing to change, but don’t make up a fantasy of perfection in order to trap someone. You were created wonderful, you are beautiful inside and
out. Work on getting the beauty within and without to shine through. Anyone who cant see and appreciate the unique and wonderful person you are doesnt deserve to be with you. Any love you are not secure, confident and feel peace about, will not changed by marriage. I see a wedding coming up that will be the beginning of a wonderful marriage and its got your name on it!
Cheers!

Consolation for the lonely and miserable!

That’s why the seemingly romantic line “You complete me” is like a fallacy, because no human being can ‘complete’another person because they are not God

true talk.

it IS a fallacy.

Ok ooo

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Seriously that No.4 is absolutely correct. Marriage is a life time imprisonment,study ur inmate and sentence urself wisely! Love cannot be found where it doesn't exist. Don't pretend to love someone when ur heart belongs to someone else. If u don't love a man,Y then will u think of getting married to him? People u hangout with may influence ur life. Sometimes U have to block negativity,You don't have to endure Nonsense,confront it and remove it from Ur life;own ur happiness and don't put it 4 auction.


Nice Thread @OP!!

Rush enter and rush come out.....marriage no be bread and beans o

Na by force to marry

Sequel to the advice given above to take action, I have decided to take heed.



*kneels down and brought out a DIAMOND ring, bends face and fake smiles*

Justi4jesu My love , * she smiles *, will you marry me?

*She faints*

Lovely piece

summary?

True talk,

Nice one

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So going to the well those days in Jesus time is like going online and register with Match.com? Lol

Wait a bit longer.

owkay

Ajiswaggs: summary?

Learn to read.. Lazy bone.

are there really still ladies waiting for Mr right, wen d bible already told ya dat "in end tym days, husbands shall be a scarce individual..
intact, most of them r not really waiting for any Mr right, they r jst waiting for one Mr rich Asx nigga...

Good one. In addition, I think people esp women need to be educated and know that marriage is not the ultimate. U have a certificate and have clock 25th is not a sign that marriage is d next thing by force by fire. Women too can have a career. Women too can build a house and have a car before they get married. Its not a boy thing anymore.

Haven't digest the above article, I'v decided to stop looking for Mrs Right...Any female nairalander avaiable should buzz me so we can continue from here....No time to check time

This post is for them ladies,they are just too choosy. They want a hard working man,but won't accept relationship proposal from a bricklayer. Why. Isn't that double standard?

Most people are busy looking for who they want(Mr/Mrs Right) that they forget to develop who they are.

Just like Jim Johnson would say when Ibrahmovich balloons the ball way over the post in PES 2012...
''How many times do we see this?

Truth be told.. There are no ready-made relationships or even marriages... You make it work. None is even close to perfect...

I'm already taken

This piece dey make me bashful

Be prepared. You cant give what you dont have.

If you are not right, dont expect Mr/Mrs Right.

noted.

i hear