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|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by sisisioge: 12:08pm On Jan 02, 2021|
Hmmmm...happy new year o
Somehow, I feel like bullying you lot! You guys are terrible to befriend! Your social skill is zero! Your communications skill is non existent! Continue o...continue wearing the "I'm an introvert excuse" like a badge of honour and remain difficult to love. Love, life, promotion usually fly over social recluse fa...change your ways
By the way, I am 51% introvert and 49% extrovert but everyone thinks I'm by far more tilted towards being an extrovert. Try...just try to be less difficult to befriend
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 1:20pm On Jan 02, 2021|
Lol. Aunty, you chose the wrong day to bully introverts o. It's World Introvert Day!
Okay, now to your post, your comments about introverts and "our possible problems" are not very true.
I often wonder why there's so much misconception about introversion that I think it's probably the most misunderstood term of the 21st century.
I am an introvert. I don't give it as an excuse, in fact I never have. My social skills isn't zero as I have friends and colleagues I have relationships with though I hardly hang out in loud and public places. I have excellent communication skills so much so I challenge myself to be better - I was once awarded Student Orator for giving commencement speech at a graduation ceremony.
As for love, I may not be the best lover but I make up for it in various ways - I can be super caring and a great listener though not quite outgoing. I am learning to do the hangout thing by ensuring I pick a relatively quiet place that won't burn me out easily . I am so not difficult to befriend though while some find me uninteresting because I avoid small talk and often enjoy my own company, I have a handful of those who love me for who I am and are glad to be my friend while respecting how I want things - and the last I checked, no one is loved by all, yeah?
I am an introvert. And I am not what many think I am.
I may not speak for all introverts, but I sure speak for a handful of us.
So bully us all you want ma, it makes us stronger and more aware.
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 1:24pm On Jan 02, 2021|
Happy World Introvert Day dear Introverts!
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|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by sisisioge: 1:30pm On Jan 02, 2021|
Darling! You are definitely one of the good ones. So its world introvert day...na wa o. A whole day earmarked for the weirdos . Pardon me, I tried loving one introvert last year and dude almost killed me with quietness. While I love cool people, being cool to the point of not expressing oneself is stressful for those around you. He was everything minus expressive thus making it hard to communicate.
Anyways, it's good that you're trying. My bullying is for those who think its fashionable to be a social recluse. Humans must socialize, we are nocturnal and not islands. Cheers to those trying
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 3:23pm On Jan 02, 2021|
Actually, I can sincerely relate with how you may have felt with the quiet guy. I know a woman who is married to someone like the guy you described and sometimes when she talks to me about her husband's "kind of quiet", I can almost feel the pain in her voice.
See, while I can't deny that the quietness and reclusiveness can be a problem for those in the lives of introverts, I think it is important that the introvert learns to find comfortable ways to engage their extroverted friends, lovers and family. It is also equally important that the extroverts in our lives also learn to understand our nature and help find common grounds to make things work - achieving a win-win situation of sorts.
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by sisisioge: 3:47pm On Jan 02, 2021|
Well said, I hope your people are reading it. When we make an effort to befriend you, listen to you, ask you questions , show interest in your life and just plainly sit with you...biko make an effort too. It could be mentally tasking wondering what's on your mind biko. You know same the way you're internet extroverts? Just make a little efforts to talk to us in real life too .
I have a female colleague that I had to practically stress myself to befriend too, babe will sit with you all day without saying more than three sentence . Anyways, shout out to you guys, keep trying to join the rest of us in minimal socialising. Sense of belonging is a major human need fa.
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 4:15pm On Jan 02, 2021|
Yeah, I agree with you on the need to keep making effort. Truth is, whether introvert or extrovert, we just need to keep improving ourselves. It is the one who keeps learning, unlearning and relearning that makes the most of living.
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by babtoundey(m): 5:30pm On Jan 02, 2021|
You're getting it a little bit wrong sisioge. That introvert friend of yours that wouldn't say more than three sentences no matter how you pushed her would stress life out of you with her troubles and wahala (disturbance) if she felt free and save with you. Some introverts have some kind of conflicting identity. Take for instance, majority of my classmates could bet it with their lives that I am gentle, that I don't talk, while my roommates and even close neighbors would disagree with the notion outright. The more some introverts get familiar with you, the more they unleash their suppressed inner demons.
Aside that, the asocial tendencies of some introverts is ruled by maturity (advancement in age) and, maybe, exposure. One will get to a certain point in life that going out, reaching out to friends, relatives and families will become imperative. In fact, you will be the one leaning towards being sociable while you still cuddle your loneliness at any convenient time.
Seriously, I used to be awfully silent in the midst of strangers. I used to detest being in a large crowd. But now, when occasions calls for my going out, meeting strangers and all that I don't take a u-turn. This could be because I am a little bit wiser and a little bit older.
It's a great feeling being an introvert but learning to moderate it gives a greater feeling.
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|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 11:22am On Jan 03, 2021|
kalu61:try do better , ur mum might understand but ur girlfriend won’t , lol
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by kalu61(m): 11:26am On Jan 03, 2021|
Liliantalks:I don't do girl friend stuff.
l hope whoever l will marry will not this part of me and she can cope with it, it all fine.
I find it engaging with female friends who are intellectually engaging than those asking me what l prepared or have eaten.
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 11:32am On Jan 03, 2021|
Being single as an introvert is very depressing , cause u know ur problem , which is networking , u don’t go out, even if u do ones in a blue moon because u are a naturally shy person u can’t go alone, u need friends around but of course if u want to met a potential partner, all YouTube Channels advices u learn how to go out alone , this phone generation is the worst cause ur phone is a enough company that b4 u know it the day is gone and u are home all day. Online dating is scary cause there r a lot of liars, and the men expect you to do the traveling *eyesrolled* and I’m like” what if u are a kidnapper?” . Of course they are ready to send u ur Tfare but I’m i ready to risk my life ? Not at all .
What do u all think ?
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 11:38am On Jan 03, 2021|
kalu61:she won’t cope with it in the beginning tho. What’s wrong with someone asking you what u hv eaten ? It’s a sign of care , that doesn’t mean she isn’t intellectually engaging, okay u want someone who would be talking about books all days but careless about ur well-being?
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Theundertaker(m): 11:46am On Jan 03, 2021|
Liliantalks:I know right, I can relate. I am single to stupor and I know the reason is cause I don’t mingle. If a girl doesn’t come close to me, u can never see me chasing girls. Very depressing especially with my high libido
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by kalu61(m): 11:48am On Jan 03, 2021|
I don't know how to explain it but l am attracted to intelligent girls who gives me good run for logical analysis or differ in opinion with logical reasons.
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Uniquisite(m): 11:49am On Jan 03, 2021|
High libido kills oo.. Make una find solution
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 11:50am On Jan 03, 2021|
kalu61:I understand .
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Uniquisite(m): 11:52am On Jan 03, 2021|
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by kalu61(m): 11:56am On Jan 03, 2021|
Uniquisite:You have your definition of companionship.
l'm emotionally connected when l discuss or argue with like minds than those who always agree with me. That's shows you are not even sure of what you are saying.
l prefer criticizism to praise. l love it when am shown my errors than praising. l don't even get angry at it even.
That's me o
Have you seen an igbo smoker bonding well with fellows female igbo smoker?
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by kalu61(m): 11:58am On Jan 03, 2021|
Theundertaker:It means you are broke but being depressed but if aren't depressed, then you are disciplined or it's your nature.
Make money, girls go pursue tire
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Theundertaker(m): 12:43pm On Jan 03, 2021|
Uniquisite:my brother lol, no be small thing
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Theundertaker(m): 12:45pm On Jan 03, 2021|
kalu61:first of all , lol I’m not broke. Girls will pursue me if they see me , U get ?
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Theundertaker(m): 12:51pm On Jan 03, 2021|
kalu61:yes o , na them bond pass self .
Relationship is for companionship , cuddle, aproko , outings and . Argument Issa no no for me . I don’t like women that argue too much .
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Uniquisite(m): 1:03pm On Jan 03, 2021|
Haha! Different story for different folks
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 2:55pm On Jan 03, 2021|
Theundertaker:lol , Na God go help us
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by IMAliyu(m): 4:21am On Jan 04, 2021|
Liliantalks:I find myself in the problematic territory of not even caring to try these days. I was shy when younger, not so much now.
Just a few weeks ago a friend of mine was going out on a date(?) with this girl, but the girl insisted on bringing a friend and in turn he asked me to come with him to balance things out. I agreed.
We went and picked them up and went to an ice cream and small chops place.
At the beginning I put in effort and tried to entertain the girl's friend, talking to her, asking questions, but Midway I lost all motivation and just stopped. Not because the friend necessarily did anything wrong, but something inside me just wasn't feeling the situation. And I was just sitting there dead silent put on my earphones and couldn't even be bothered to say a word for the rest of the evening.
Maybe I just wasn't getting enough feedback from the girl, IDK, but sometimes I think I'm dead inside when it comes to romance.
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by kalu61(m): 7:14am On Jan 04, 2021|
Theundertaker:I don't mean useless argument. I mean women that put me on toes in reasoning.
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 7:59am On Jan 04, 2021|
|Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Tonnyray: 10:44am On Jan 05, 2021|
Hmmm.. introverts lounge.
This is home.
Hope I'm welcome.
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