And what is the objective?? Like poles should repel! Boxing urselves in a room won't solve it! One more thing, why should humans label themselves? Hey! I'm feminist, no ur an extrovert, yahh! I am racist, blahhh , u are gay, hooo, he's a chauvinist... Come on, quit labelling urselves! Just be u and live ur life! YOLO!

Am an intovert. I have few friends, can start a conversation but dunno how to maintain it. I also keep to myself a lot. People usually think am a very proud person but am not. I am d quiet type

sisiafrika: And what is the objective?? Like poles should repel! Boxing urselves in a room won't solve it! One more thing, why should humans label themselves? Hey! I'm feminist, no ur an extrovert, yahh! I am racist, blahhh , u are gay, hooo, he's a chauvinist... Come on, quit labelling urselves! Just be u and live ur life! YOLO!

Madam,kindly do all of us a favour by fu.ccking off this thread.Ain't nobody gat time for your bullsh.it

ladycomfort: Am an intovert. I have few friends, can start a conversation but dunno how to maintain it. I also keep to myself a lot. People usually think am a very proud person but am not. I am d quiet type

The average Nigerian is noisy so they never really understand quiet people

Krasid: I am very friendly, but sometimes people take it for granted.

Never ever be too friendly with Nigerians.They'll just believe you're foolish and try to take advantage of you.I used to be shy,self-conscious and introverted in my teen years until I realized I was quite good at everything I did.Infact,better than everyone sef.Then I started feeling better about myself(confidence).Today,those days are nothing but a memory

traware: Never ever be too friendly with Nigerians.They'll just believe you're foolish and try to take advantage of you.I used to be shy,self-conscious and introverted in my teen years until I realized I was quite good at everything I did.Infact,better than everyone sef.Then I started feeling better about myself.Today,those days are nothing but a memory

Thanks for the advice.

traware: Madam,kindly do all of us a favour by fu.ccking off this thread.Ain't nobody gat time for your bullsh.it

u sound familiar, would I say ur stalking me? I hope not

traware: The average Nigerian is noisy so they never really understand quiet people

True that.

Olarewajub: @ Liamm . Do you have hard time starting a conversation with strangers and askingaboutstions?

This is true about me, mine is not even strangers alone.

Sometimes I might go to a place like the barbing saloon or inside a bus where a topic l know every detail about is being discussed, and then someone is giving d wrong detail about such topic, inside l would like to correct d person but I can't cos I feel I'm not called upon to do so.

Even when I'm called, I'll simply concur to what d person is cos I don't want to go into any unnecessary argument or so

Chrisdmeek:
This is true about me, mine is not even strangers alone.

Sometimes I might go to a place like the barbing saloon or inside a bus where a topic l know every detail about is being discussed, and then someone is giving d wrong detail about such topic, inside l would like to correct d person but I can't cos I feel I'm not called upon to do so.

Even when I'm called, I'll simply concur to what d person is cos I don't want to go into any unnecessary argument or so

So true. And your process of agreeing is by nodding your head.

Olarewajub: So true. And your process of agreeing is by nodding your head.

100% true, thought I was alone

Maintaining a converstaion, especially with a girl has always been my problem.....less I forget, "Proudness" is my middlename in my street.

adebasket97: Maintaining a converstaion, especially with a girl has always been my problem.....less I forget, "Proudness" is my middlename in my street.

That's because you appear to be and inside of you, humility is your watchword.

ladycomfort: Am an intovert. I have few friends, can start a conversation but dunno how to maintain it. I also keep to myself a lot. People usually think am a very proud person but am not. I am d quiet type

Same here at first but i got interested in sports,politics,international relationa and music...so when the discussions cum up......i found out some thing....An extrovert must be very intelligent to hold dicussions with an introvert. We have more depth.

And there we all go,virtually everybody described me completely. Let talk about been shy, I had received my fair share too, I rarely talk, Iove to talk to myself.. Talk alone, live alone read alone, think loud,I find solace been Lone, except of course if I can EXTRA happy that I can talk.my whaspp, bbm contact think am one proud fella that don't reply message but an always not in the mood. Let say about talks. Am a good talker inside but talking to a group of people can suffocate me. The one that broke the camel back was the day my pastor said I should pray. My People, I was so tensed that I forgot to remember maybe I should start with the grace or just recite hymn for good 5 minutes I was praying god in his mercy should shallow me they. Through been an introvert is very good because we have a planned life. Am definitely sure most of us planned owning our business. And lastly I don't know maybe this is a curse or something; Whenever am with a pretty lady, I will just be swallowing split like agama...very awkward....Good to know we are introvert and I must say been an introvert pays

fflamingo: And there we all go,virtually everybody described me completely. Let talk about been shy, I had received my fair share too, I rarely talk, Iove to talk to myself.. Talk alone, live alone read alone, think loud,I find solace been Lone, except of course if I can EXTRA happy that I can talk.my whaspp, bbm contact think am one proud fella that don't reply message but an always not in the mood. Let say about talks. Am a good talker inside but talking to a group of people can suffocate me. The one that broke the camel back was the day my pastor said I should pray. My People, I was so tensed that I forgot to remember maybe I should start with the grace or just recite hymn for good 5 minutes I was praying god in his mercy should shallow me they. Through been an introvert is very good because we have a planned life. Am definitely sure most of us planned owning our business. And lastly I don't know maybe this is a curse or something; Whenever am with a pretty lady, I will just be swallowing split like agama...very awkward....Good to know we are introvert and I must say been an introvert pays

You are welcome here. How was your day? That moment when the pastor says Emeka pray for the offering and Emeka will be fidgeting and with an average heartbeat of 215 per minute. Emeka might end up repeating same word over and over again.

This was an interesting read.
I can't relate to anything here but I understand that people are different
I have met introverted people ,those of us who socialize easily seem to empathize with introverts but I don't think it calls for empathy
We are all different
I could start a conversation and carry it on for an hour with a total stranger
I could chat up a cashier at the grocery store,someone waiting in a room with me
I can talk to anyone
I have been at a gathering and was asked to MC the occasion and I would do it in a flash,before an unfamiliar audience and do a good job
I don't consider myself an extrovert however
There is a middle ground between introverts and extroverts where I seem to belong
In some settings,I could appear introverted and withdrawn and rarely speak
But generally speaking I socialize very easily

Lots of introverts here.....thought I was a weirdo at some point in my life, I have very few friends, I love keeping to myself, being indoors, alone, not too good at math but i calculate every movement n event around me(very careful n observant) can't start a conversation without saying " pls excuse me" cos I really don't wanna offend anyone or get into trouble, hate crowd and nosy people,find it difficult to look a person in d eye, when I met a group of people for d 1st time I don't utter much words n as conversations r going on, I just smile n take notes about them in my head, if I don't like d conversation, I shut dem out in my head but give them d impression that they've got my attention(I do this to talkatives). Lots of people say "she's really quiet, she feels big, she's a snub but I really don't care what any1 thinks....cos...#if any1 can't stand my heat, I suggest they leave my kitchen#

novia22: Lots of introverts here.....thought I was a weirdo at some point in my life, I have very few friends, I love keeping to myself, being indoors, alone, not too good at math but i calculate every movement n event around me(very careful n observant) can't start a conversation without saying " pls excuse me" cos I really don't wanna offend anyone or get into trouble, hate crowd and nosy people,find it difficult to look a person in d eye, when I met a group of people for d 1st time I don't utter much words n as conversations r going on, I just smile n take notes about them in my head, if I don't like d conversation, I shut dem out in my head but give them d impression that they've got my attention(I do this to talkatives). Lots of people say "she's really quiet, she feels big, she's a snub but I really don't care what any1 thinks....cos...#if any1 can't stand my heat, I suggest they leave my kitchen#

Did you do boarding school?
How did you cope?

sheniqua:

Did you do boarding school?
How did you cope?

Funny enough I attended a boarding school for 6years... I wasn't happy there cos u always have people in your space...begged my parents to mk me a day student but they wouldn't listen so I had no choice....I found a way of doing most of my stuff before others ( woke up earlier 2 tk my bath so that I don't hv to argue with any1, always made sure I wasn't lacking anything so that I wouldn't have to ask any1 and stuff like that...)
I guess I coped by carving out a niche for myself out of d space they were always trying to occupy......

novia22:

Funny enough I attended a boarding school for 6years... I wasn't happy there cos u always have people in your space...begged my parents to mk me a day student but they wouldn't listen so I had no choice....I found a way of doing most of my stuff before others ( woke up earlier 2 tk my bath so that I don't hv to argue with any1, always made sure I wasn't lacking anything so that I wouldn't have to ask any1 and stuff like that...)
I guess I coped by carving out a niche for myself out of d space they were always trying to occupy......

I think that is the key
Even for introverts there is always a group you can feel comfortable in,you find that group and hang with that group and that becomes your social group
We all need to socialize,that is human nature
For some that group is amongst their church members,for others people from their same background or culture or profession

The strange thing in life is that most introverts end up marrying very extroverted people
It is always fun to watch a couple where the man is so quiet and reserved and his wife is the life of the party and vice versa
I think it makes for a good match
There is always someone to balance things and keep it centered when it wants to veer off to the extremes
I know two very introverted people that are a couple,however and I remember people wondering how he even proposed to her since they are both very very quiet.
At the wedding,he could hardly give a vote of thanks in front of the crowd and she just smiled shyly and was looking down most times.

What a fascinating thread!
I'm also an introvert. I hate to be the centre of attention, I enjoy my own company a lot, no matter how hard I try I can't chat up a stranger. I talk a lot...to myself. I tend to be tongue-tied when talking to people I'm not familiar with.
I think I'm friendly and easy going, but only friends and family know that. Outwards, I come across as a snub. I may not speak much physically, but there is so much speech going on in my head at any given time.
A perfect day for me would be; me, alone with my thoughts, and music playing in the background.

I'm a confirmed introverts, I find it very difficult to mingle with people, I keep to my self most times and I don't get bored. I enjoy my own company, I detest been seen everywhere and any where, i don't have friends cos most times they turn out to be fake...I don't really care what people think of me...so far I can have my peace and space I'm good to go. I enjoy my quietness and solitude.

pinkishgal: I'm a confirmed introverts, I find it very difficult to mingle with people, I keep to my self most times and I don't get bored. I enjoy my own company, I detest been seen everywhere and any where, i don't have friends cos most times they turn out to be fake...I don't really care what people think of me...so far I can have my peace and space I'm good to go. I enjoy my quietness and solitude.

You should make attempts to socialize
Little baby steps
You miss out when you don't socialize
There must be a group you can fit into
Do you intend to be alone the rest of your life?

Djtm:
That's true. I don't have my pic on social media.

Loool.

ladyinred: What a fascinating thread!
I'm also an introvert. I hate to be the centre of attention, I enjoy my own company a lot, no matter how hard I try I can't chat up a stranger. I talk a lot...to myself. I tend to be tongue-tied when talking to people I'm not familiar with.
I think I'm friendly and easy going, but only friends and family know that. Outwards, I come across as a snub. I may not speak much physically, but there is so much speech going on in my head at any given time.
A perfect day for me would be; me, alone with my thoughts, and music playing in the background.

@ the bolded


I know that feeling; you have plenty thoughts - intelligent, imaginative or weird thoughts in your mind...but means of letting them out na d wahala . You then enjoy all of them on your head when you r alone.
Sometimes you might even start smiling after sharing some thoughts alone.

Talking to oneself is a sign of mental illness, have u give it a thought?

sisiafrika: Talking to oneself is a sign of mental illness, have u give it a thought?

Dokita without stethoscope
You are now making diagnosis over the web

For the introverts,what are your thoughts on dating,marriage and meeting the right person
How do you intend to meet them?
Does the thought scare yoU?

I am an introvert. I enjoy my own company. I can enjoy sharing space with many people for a limited time, after a while I withdraw into my shell. Even at big family occasions, the first few hours with them I'll talk alot and then my mouth begins to physically hurt. People that don't know me wonder if something they said pissed me off, they have no clue in just resting my mouth.
I also have conversations with myself alot! My family has gotten used to me. My mum just chatters away because she knows she won't get response from me most of the time.
As for meeting the right person, I need God's intervention, I'm in my early 20s and I guess I should be building a relationship now but its just not happening as I don't keep many friends and I don't attend many social functions.

elektra: I am an introvert. I enjoy my own company. I can enjoy sharing space with many people for a limited time, after a while I withdraw into my shell. Even at big family occasions, the first few hours with them I'll talk alot and then my mouth begins to physically hurt. People that don't know me wonder if something they said pissed me off, they have no clue in just resting my mouth.
I also have conversations with myself alot! My family has gotten used to me. My mum just chatters away because she knows she won't get response from me most of the time.
As for meeting the right person, I need God's intervention, I'm in my early 20s and I guess I should be building a relationship now but its just not happening as I don't keep many friends and I don't attend many social functions.

You can start small by attending events like birthdays
Just convince yourself to go
Find someone you are comfortable with and go with them
Join a church single's ministry
Allow people to introduce you to people
One small step at a time

sisiafrika: Talking to oneself is a sign of mental illness, have u give it a thought?

lol. Are you for real. Studies have shown that creative people tend to talk to themselves.