MizMyColi:
[b]Hmmmph I have a friend like that too. When the chips are down....He's always been a lifesaver. We just know that we aren't meant to date (though like your friend, I once tripped for Him) and we're very content with the role we play in each other's lives.

He tells me that if I choose to date now, that He'd reduce the frequency at which he keeps in touch. I was sad, but I saw reasons with Him. In my case though, I never visit him, we only meet at open spots and do most of our relating via social media. Trust me, this guy has been and is still a BackBone.


Back to your friend - can she honestly answer this question:
"If the tables were turned, what would be her reaction?"

While I will never advise her to completely do away with her bestfriend, in matters like this, wisdom is always profitable to direct.

The Male best friend can also help matters by making the babe understand that he'll always be there for her and why they need to stop rubbing their friendship on the boyfriend's face.


Btw, what makes us think either the guy or girl or both do not have ulterior motives...... especially the male bestfriend
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MRbrownJAY: @OP
when your friend's mother cancelled, didnt she also sent messages to her bf telling him about the changes of plan (or was it only calls)?
the bf would have seen the msgs and understood that there was nothing wrong here.

toke8: Women are fond of accusing their bfs of insecurity or lack of trust after they have acted stupidly. Very few guys will tolerate his gal being too close to another man that is not her family. Girls use your brains! !

Victoriousvic: Well, uhm.. I think she should inform her best friend about the problem she's having with her boyfriend.

Her best friend should be understanding enough to minimise the time he spends with her.

My 2 kobo.

MzPreshie: Thanks dear, will surely tell her that. Though the boyfriend wants the best friend out of the picture totally.

ideology:

Its in ur blood
I envy ur husband.

With knowledge a house is built, with wisdom, a home is establish

Thank You

MzPreshie: At a time like that, the idea didnt cross her mind. And remember the guy was actually supposed to go out to a friend's. She thought maybe he had left already.

2sExy1: he should go fvck himself. in the end, is he going to marry her? I am pretty sure he is also passer by to plug the fruit. what will she do when he is out of her life?

MzPreshie: At least now that he's in it, he wants to be in charge.

MRbrownJAY:

these are the kind of answer that have men not trust their women...... at the time she didnt send any message but then when he is now meeting her on the street, she decide that she wants to send msgs? then they wonder why they dont succeed in r7ship.

she should have tried EVERY possible ways to contact him, and not just phone call.

the fact that she was "in love" with her bestfriend and that they cannot be together because of uncompromisable circumstances (as you put it) is one more reason why this friendship is dodgy and sketchy. certainly cant blame bf for being suspicious.

MzPreshie: Thanks dear, will surely tell her that. Though the boyfriend wants the best friend out of the picture totally.

That would just be selfish of him to do so.

Like you said, they were friends even before she knew her boyfriend. Doesn't He know that?

Victoriousvic:
That would just be selfish of him to do so.

Like you said, they were friends even before she knew her boyfriend. Doesn't He know that?

MzPreshie: According to her, she think of texting because she didn't expect to get a call from her bestie. And the fact that nothing was going on between them was enough to clear her conscience so she see anything wrong in visit a good friend she had not seen for long.

MRbrownJAY:

people like your friend will always fail because they are selfish with their emotion. they only think about themselves in their actions, and if she did have a thought for this guy who is insecure about her r/ship with her bestie, then she will not add oil to the fire in such manner.

the fact that she "was" in love with the best friend is a issue that needs to be solved. this kind of E-party is not healthy for any r/ship.

Yemlizzy: Such a fix that is very awkward,the bf should try to be reasonable and understand how it is. Insecurity poses a problem most times.

MzPreshie: Really, my friend doesn't prefer her bestie to her boyfie, that's a point to note. She loves both but in different ways. And about adding oil to the fire, she had already resolved this issue with her boyfriend the first time he popped it up. She just didnt expect things will go this way.

wasak:
Oh! i see... loves both but in different ways... so. she want to be putting two cakes in her mouth @ d same time because one is milk nd the other is honey

MzPreshie: Really, my friend doesn't prefer her bestie to her boyfie, that's a point to note. She loves both but in different ways. And about adding oil to the fire, she had already resolved this issue with her boyfriend the first time he popped it up. She just didnt expect things will go this way.

MRbrownJAY:

in life, actions speak louder than words, and she certainly dont act right. if all is well, as you want to put it, then she wouldnt be in the mess that she finds herself into. that man can never accept her r/ship with the guy she once fell in love with ( and that she cant be with), it is not a healthy r/ship, it is not practical, it is not proper, and just a catastrophe waiting to happen.

this lady has to decide what is important for her, and get rid of the other. she CANNOT have her cake and eat it too.