I was listening to a song which has my topic as its main theme, very funky nice song

but it got me thinking.

Why Do people waste their time pretending, why the stress?

Either you love someone or you find your square-root.

We have only one life to live na.

If you dont love someone, dont waste their time

If Someone dosnt love you, Dont waste your time, Leave!


i hope people can see reason behind this.

How about building the love while in the relationship??
Anything wrong with that??

Love must already have a foundation to which to build it from.
One cannot build love from nothing, if there is no base, worry yourself not with building love.

If you do not love him, leave him.
Time may build love if there's already an attraction.
If not, you're wasting time.

Before you enter a relationship

You know if you are serious or not

even if you dont "love" at the moment, you want to build on it.

Im not talking about the person who has a committed heart.

eldee:

How about building the love while in the relationship??
Anything wrong with that??

I dont see anything wrong in building ur love while in a relationship. I see love as a commitment, a choice u make. Emotions can follow from there. I see true love for the matured minds.

lol
There are people i meet and know i can NEVER love them,no matter what.So basically,rather than wasting their time and deceiving them,its better i just leave them alone.infact make i comot for road,no turn to barrier for someone else. so says Gamine

Tgirl4real:

I don't see anything wrong in building ur love while in a relationship. I see love as a commitment, a choice u make. Emotions can follow from there. I see true love for the matured minds.

I'll take that as 'Eldee's right . . . spot on as usual'

Love is too strong an emotion for any mind. Mature or not.

In time, Love fades.

Do people actually feel love? Do people understand the concept of love?

Then why does love come a-knocking as an uninvited guest, then leaves at it's own timing?

Is there even such thing as love? Is it selective? Understanding that it is not racist, is it sexist?
I mean, why do women love completely, but men barely love?

Is it a must for anyone to love? or is it an emotion that we feel we must behold or understand?

Why do humans so much want to love, when they hardly understand the power it holds?

I still do not understand why we say I Love you, when we actually do not.

Is love a privilege? a blessing? a honor? an obligation? or is it an advantage?

Or is Love a mystery that prfers to stay unsolved? Or is it a myth from the time of Cupid and Zeus, an expression that humans believe but yet not real?

If anyone can define love, inform me of where it lives, and who he is, tyrant or not, then I would indeed believe Love is real.

Right? you wish


Like Ify said, When i meet a dude

i always know two things, if there is Hope or NO HOPE

Girls know these things

don't be a chuku chuku for another pesin o


Love is goes beyond feelings, its in what you DO

thats what people dont get.

eldee:

I'll take that as 'Eldee's right . . . spot on as usual'

I believe in miracles. . . . .
When there's a reasonable level of close proximity between a man and a woman(love usually develops).
It is not what people plan or intend doing. . . . Shit just happen.

eldee:

I'll take that as 'Eldee's right . . . spot on as usual'

U bet . . . 

D problem we have is that we define love as merely emotions. What about the commitments. There is such a thing as lust and infatuation and people just mistake them as LOVE. Have u ever wondered how couples cope in d olden days. They don't date, yet they get married and LOVE.

@Ruby, true love does exist. True, pure, untainted love.

Tgirl4real:

U bet . . .

D problem we have is that we define love as merely emotions. What about the commitments. There is such a thing as lust and infatuation. Have u ever how couples cope in d olden days. They don't date, yet they get married and LOVE.

@Ruby, true love does exist. True, pure, untainted love.

True love, eh.

So what do we call the tainted love?

Is love everlasting? If yes, then why does it die? Why do we love one minute, then dnt in the next hr?

What do you call the love that makes ppl kill, that makes ppl commit suicide? Or is that not love?

Is love sth we should be looking forward to, or sth we should try to avoid?

@topic
Does pity make one pretend to love someone one does not love?

~Sauron~:

I believe in miracles. . . . .
When there's a reasonable level of close proximity between a man and a woman(love usually develops).
It is not what people plan or intend doing. . . . Shit just happen.

Exactly what I'm finding difficult to explain in Anglais
The whole 'Love at first sight' thing only exists in chic flics

Tgirl4real:

U bet . . .  

D problem we have is that we define love as merely emotions. What about the commitments. There is such a thing as lust and infatuation and people just mistake them as LOVE. Have u ever wondered how couples cope in d olden days. They don't date, yet they get married and LOVE.

@Ruby, true love does exist. True, pure, untainted love.

Real love is built . . . it doesn't just sprout
Like a seed, it needs to be watered . . . till it becomes as strong as a bad habit
You begin to share things in common, even your differences hold you together

Is that not how our parents built marriages that lasted generations??
Now look at Guy and Madge

Gamine:

Right? you wish


Like Ify said, When i meet a dude

i always know two things, if there is Hope or NO HOPE

Girls know these things

don't be a chuku chuku for another pesin o


Love is goes beyond feelings, its in what you DO

thats what people don't get.

Yeah it goes beyond what you think the first minute you see him
It might come after getting to know him

hmmmmmmmmm,
what about the gurl after money?
she wont love yet she wont leave

Ruby_Pearl:

True love, eh.

So what do we call the tainted love?

Is love everlasting? If yes, then why does it die? Why do we love one minute, then dnt in the next hr?

What do you call the love that makes people kill, that makes people commit suicide? Or is that not love?

Is love sth we should be looking forward to, or sth we should try to avoid?

@topic
Does pity make one pretend to love someone one does not love?

If we want to follow God's original plan, love should be everlasting. Humans are generally selfish dat is fine we can't love truly. We usually want to love our own way and at the same tym expect to get the best from our partner,

Love hurts cos u hav to sacrifice so much.

As for the love that makes u kill, it is nothing else that obsession. If u truly love someone, u will be willing to let go of somethings. As i said earlier, Love is mainly a decision. U choose to love whether u feel smthn or not. Later emotions can build. Ofcourse, that doesn't mean u can't have true love when emotions already exist.  

And it is wrong to love outta pity. That is very bad.

But yet, John Donne decribes Love as

Ah, what a trifle is a heart,
If once into love's hands it come !
All other griefs allow a part
To other griefs, and ask themselves but some ;
They come to us, but us love draws ;
He swallows us and never chaws ;
By him, as by chain'd shot, whole ranks do die ;
He is the tyrant pike, our hearts the fry.

I am to assume that "but us love draws" means that we do not decide who to love or when to love.
It comes on it's timing and leaves on it's own timing.
We do not decide who to love or who breaks our heart.
If Love is a decision, don't you think ppl would be less heart broken since they can [i]decide [/i]not to love that person after he/she denies their love?

Tgirl4real:

And it is wrong to love out of pity. That is very bad.

Yes, I know.
I've done that before, but it is hard to keep it up.
If one does not have a foundation on which to build love, thinking in time love will evolve , then one is wrong.

If there is no friendship, no attraction, no chemistry, then there is no hope for love.

Ruby_Pearl:

But yet, John Donne decribes Love as

I am to assume that "but us love draws" means that we do not decide who to love or when to love.
It comes on it's timing and leaves on it's own timing.
We do not decide who to love or who breaks our heart.
If Love is a decision, don't you think people would be less heart broken since they can [i]decide [/i]not to love that person after he/she denies their love?

That is y u love with ur head not just with ur heart. When ur senses are intact, u can decide when to fall in and out of love. I'm not overlooking the place of attraction here which is equivalent to emotions. Emotions may be there. But true love is not built on emotions only.

Love is indeed a Choice, one you MUST make.

Man was created to Love.


Thats why i said when i meet a dude, i would know whether there is hope or not.

Because surely a foundation has to be there

if not you are just doing boxing contest with fire.


Many people are just in love with the idea of being "in love"

Ruby_Pearl:

Yes, I know.
I've done that before, but it is hard to keep it up.
If one does not have a foundation on which to build love, thinking in time love will evolve , then one is wrong.

If there is no friendship, no attraction, no chemistry, then there is no hope for love.

I donot agree with this. We have people that have loved despite all these.

Gamine, I don't get ur last point . . . a foundation as how?

Wow, see people displaying English Language skills I dey come, make I go find someone to love me first

Ruby_Pearl:

True love,eh

Is love everlasting? If yes, then why does it die? Why do we love one minute, then dnt in the next hr?

I belong to the school of thought that says
love has an expiring date.No matta how long it seem to take
but someday you just find out . . . . those things that used to drive you crazy
begins to matta less and in this case only friendship can keep you both together.
That's actually the first thing I try to build before startin' a relationship.
Either you love me or leave me alone?
Funny!!!  It's worth givin' a trial.That there happen to be an attraction/chemistry
isn't a guarantee that the person would end up lovin' you tho those things matta alot

lol @Busybody

people are quoting Keats n Co.


@Tgirl,

A foundation, yes, go figgar.

@9ja,

Love dosnt have expiry, except you put it dia, urself

hmmmm Dis is a very serious topic. Why generally only women think about these things?

Love is rare. What people commonly think is actually not love but only an attraction for someone. It would otherwise not disappear over the time.

gamine my sister i highly recommend these books as a must read for you.

God is a match maker  - derek prince

making lov last forever - Garry smalley

Till the heart be touched  - Gordon and gail macdonald

@Josh
Thanks

you can send em as well.lol

Gamine:

lol @Busybody

people are quoting Keats n Co.

Keats and kini ^{Okay, I will pretend I understand} Yeah I love his songs too, I have all the collection in my audio library

chaloo:

hmmmm this is a very serious topic. Why generally only women think about these things?

Because we are more sensitive to the deeper issues of life,unlike you men that see nearly everything in only black and white

@post

I don't think its easy for some people to just up and leave when they realize a person doesn't love them cos of the hope factor. They keep praying for a miracle.
Even when they don't love a person. They remain to ''see if anything will change''. Its not always an open-and-shut case.

Cristalz:

I don't think its easy for some people to just up and leave when they realize a person doesn't love them because of the hope factor. They keep praying for a miracle.
Even when they don't love a person. They remain to ''see if anything will change''. Its not always an open-and-shut case.

And why do people bank on the hope factor waiting for a miracle??
Is it not because it has worked for some people in their relationships??
Patience is a virtue. . . . . .The only snag is where to draw the line between "patience" and "love blindness".

Love is blind but Marriage is a real eye-opener

@Busy, ya i see

@Cristalz,

Miracle? can u see where this is heading

it will also be a miracle if ants dont eat the sugar i poured on the kitchen top