This is my own individual write up, written from personal exprience and exprience of friends and collegues. its lengthy though i can bet you won't regret reading it all through. All kinds of comments and critictism are welcomed but constructive critics is preferred.
Friend Zone' an ideology that has become the order of the day. Friendzone simply refers to a situation in which a girl is belived to derive benefits (care, attention, affection and attimes financials) from a guy without a corresponding benefit to the guy. The guy thinks has been friendzoned but the girl tinks of it as normal friendship we all knw. Every guys of this days thinks when you get close to a lady, you guys get to spend time with eachother, you gist go out and enjoy eachother's company they think it is a necessity that a relationship should grow out from such friendship. Both parties might have no specific reason for coming together as friends in d first instance. And with time the friendship starts to grow closer people are already tinking they are dating eachother, but this is yet to even cross d mind of the parties in question. They are both enjoying the company of eachother, they get to rub minds together and talk about reasonable issues that could affect their individuals life postively. From what i know ladies finds it preferable having a guy as a best friend this from exprience is due to the kind of nature ladies have; one little relevant information about you, upon a disagreement between you both they use it against you... rarely would a fellow girlfriend of yours tell you the truth they'ld rather tell u sumtin that will make you feel good. And i hear people say its better you hurt me with the truth than comfort me with a lie. GOSSIP d big word in the feminine world, ladies love to go behind eachother's back and tell the other friends something that is supposed to be discrete this i think is rare in the world of d guys. Thats enough reason why every lady would prefer to have a guy as her best/closest friend. But with time the bond grows stronger both parties begin to grow dis feeling for eachother but the feeling in one is stronger than the other mostly that in the guy. Then there are several failed attempt of kisses and maybe just one successful one. "No this isn't right we are just friends and nothing more" this words crosses the mind of the lady and she breaks the kiss. Both party works away in different direction having different thoughts in their minds.
Guy: now i av become a victim of d frndzone niche. Why did i put my all into dis without aving any corresponding benefit? Why me again?
Lady: we where supposed to b just frnds and where is all this coming from. I like him but not up to the extent of us dating. All i needed was an honest friend and not a lover!
This and many other things comes across there minds. Then the friendship begins to tear apart, d lady probabily just needed a company but she got more than that and she isn't even ready to take this 'thing' to the next level. And the guy concludes 'i was friendzoned, she only used me' Now tell me what wrong has the girl done by looking for a friend? Someone to trust and be open to, sumone who is understanding, Someone she can ask for his opinion on issues and will respond without sentiments. Honestly, i feel guys should get their heads straight and stop thinking every lady that doesnt wants to date but wants just friendship wants to friendzone you. Let your intention known to her at first if she is fine with it no problem. instead of going and other way round and start crying of been friend zoned. There is nothing wrong in a lady just wanting to be friends with you and nothing more than that.
Source is from my archive of personal write ups. Thanks for reading all through.

It would have helped if you punctuated properly and ignored the shorthand thingy.

Well i didn't read all through to the end but all i know is,friendzoning a guy is selfish...That is if u only get to receive the favors and not returning it.NB:not only a guy can be friendzoned.

^^^^Lol
nice write up @op

Djicemob: It would have helped if you punctuated properly and ignored the shorthand thingy.

Well i didn't read all through to the end but all i know is,friendzoning a guy is selfish...That is if u only get to receive the favors and not returning it.NB:not only a guy can be friendzoned.

Thanks for the correction i'ld correct it asap

Generalkorex: ^^^^Lol
nice write up @op

Thanks a bunch.

I think guys always want to benefit frm evry relationship and dats selfish....why cant u just do smthg nd forget abt benefits? You buy me lunch today....tomorrow u want to get in my pants....it doesnt work like dat. That's why y'all get friend-zoned!

Only dumbos get friendzoned

Slimzypink, is that your baby?

MsPat: I think guys always want to benefit frm evry relationship and dats selfish....why cant u just do smthg nd forget abt benefits? You buy me lunch today....tomorrow u want to get in my pants....it doesnt work like dat. That's why y'all get friend-zoned!

Tanx ma'am infact u drived home my point wit dat grt example.

Blessed is the single lady who finds the good qualities in a man and still date him rather than keep him as just a friend

MsPat: I think guys always want to benefit frm evry relationship and dats selfish....why cant u just do smthg nd forget abt benefits? You buy me lunch today....tomorrow u want to get in my pants....it doesnt work like dat. That's why y'all get friend-zoned!

I buy u lunch today,tomorrow u want me to still buy u dinner and continue the same process all over again.And u don't consider it selfish? Mehn! den i rest my case.Reasons why guys wanna get in ur pants and not feel cheated.

Why is it people can type "tyme" and not "time"?

Nice write up, but it would have hurt a lot less if you'd been gracious enough to use the right spellings and ditched the shorthand.

Any guy who thinks he's been friend zoned in my opinion can take a hike. It's suddenly become one of those words Nigerians use out of context. No biggie really.

Djicemob: I buy u lunch today,tomorrow u want me to still buy u dinner and continue the same process all over again.And u don't consider it selfish? Mehn! den i rest my case.Reasons why guys wanna get in ur pants and not feel cheated.

Must u buy her things? Besides we re talkin abt classy girls here not i-never-chop....if u like, u buy...if u dont, keep ur change. Sumone else will buy heer things. Guys spend chewin gum money nd expect d legs to open....e no go possible!

@Op,do you expect people to read the shorthand you wrote? I wanted to read all through, but the shortening of words and lack of puntuaction marks wouldn't let me. Back to the topic, Friendzoning is not cool. It's selfish. Ladies do that a lot. That's the reason why the op(female) thinks its cool. Can you ever be friends with someone you truly love? You can't. Even if there was a reason why you can't be together, it'll still be hard to be friends.

Some Guys just never learn..

MsPat: Must u buy her things? Besides we re talkin abt classy girls here not i-never-chop....if u like, u buy...if u dont, keep ur change. Sumone else will buy heer things. Guys spend chewin gum money nd expect d legs to open....e no go possible!

U have a mentality of a dependent lady,tell me y guys won't want to take advantage of ya'll? U claim classy but want someone to buy u stuffs.SMH for your irony.

Now listen, FRIENDZONE is when a guy likes a girl initially and with the impression of making a girl a girlfriend. Girl turns guy down but wants to keep him close even WITHOUT benefits. The guy stupidly agrees to be a friend just because he hopes one day her feelings would evolve from friendship to a romantic one

The period in which he plays this role with hopes of being more than a friend is what we refer to as FRIENDZONE

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Ok i get u. But what if the lady is not ready for such relations and she has made that clearly known to you. Then why the cry thereafter of been friendzoned? If she accepts to be with him without loving him back thats anoda issue again...

Djicemob: It would have helped if you punctuated properly and ignored the shorthand thingy.

Well i didn't read all through to the end but all i know is,friendzoning a guy is selfish...That is if u only get to receive the favors and not returning it.NB:not only a guy can be friendzoned.

@bolded,that was just what I was thinking. Shorthand irritate me!

Mehn! I give up on this 'friendzone' thingy!


It take maturity and self-control to be just friends with the opposite sex.

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whizqueen:
Thanks for the correction i'ld correct it asap

Have you carried out the correction?


For God's sake,do away with shorthand. Hian!

Djicemob: I buy u lunch today,tomorrow u want me to still buy u dinner and continue the same process all over again.And u don't consider it selfish? Mehn! den i rest my case.Reasons why guys wanna get in ur pants and not feel cheated.

UjSizzle: Why is it people can type "tyme" and not "time"?

Nice write up, but it would have hurt a lot less if you'd been gracious enough to use the right spellings and ditched the shorthand.

I so hate shorthand! I don't know what's fun or cool with using shorthand to type.

i have more guys in my friendzone ranging up to 100. Even my bra they will not see talkless of my pants.

Liability: i have more guys in my friendzone ranging up to 100. Even my bra they will not see talkless of my pants.

Congratulations.Ur bra and pants should be taken to Central bank.

Liability: i have more guys in my friendzone ranging up to 100. Even my bra they will not see talkless of my pants.

you must be very stuupid for saying this. SHe-diot.

no biiiitch can friendzone me.

mencade5: you must be very stuupid for saying this. He-diot.

she a girl,next Time you say she-diot

Liability: i have more guys in my friendzone ranging up to 100. Even my bra they will not see talkless of my pants.

See person dey form frosh wen she be side chick

Liability: i have more guys in my friendzone ranging up to 100. Even my bra they will not see talkless of my pants.

achievement or Wtf ? y'all be Holding a nigga down like "you have him great" and collecting cash from him,Smh for all of y'all.......
I hate this whole shit,tell him straight you aren't interested in his lunch,dinner,movie offer.or whatsoever so he backs the Bleep off.... Well,it isn't y'all fault.

broke ass bitches