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10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by lalasticlala(m): 9:50pm On Aug 19, 2014
One of the biggest dating questions which haunt women is whether her boyfriend is ready to commit. She may be sticking around with him for almost a couple of years now, hoping that he will make up his mind and still waiting for the elusive engagement ring. If you don’t want this to happen to you, learn to pick up ten signs which tell you that he’s not going to propose marriage in a hurry.

1.He Never Discusses Marriage

This is perhaps the first hint that should start ringing warning bells in your mind. Your boyfriend cannot be caught dead talking about marriage as an institution or even commenting on commercials for wedding products and services. He won’t mention it even if his own brother is getting married and he is going to be the best man. His aversion to the M-word should be indication enough that marriage does not figure anywhere in his near future.

2.He Is Hugely Ambitious (Overambitious)

Guys whose only mission in their lives is to reach the top of their professional ladder are likely to take their time settling down. This is because emotional commitment to a partner might force them to cut down on their working hours and make networking with business contacts or frequent out-of-town trips difficult. Though this is not to say that married guys don’t find success – witness President Obama and Bill Gates - super ambitious men who are perpetually looking for the next bigger and better thing are more likely to consider marriage as leading to professional stagnation.

3.All His Friends Are Single

This is as sure a sign as any that your boyfriend is not going to propose marriage. If you notice that his social circle is exclusively made of bachelors and divorced men, it is evident that he is uncomfortable around married couples and has no plans to join their ranks in near future.

4.He Has Strong Sexual Needs

A guy who places great emphasis on sex and considers it the most important part of a relationship is unlikely to settle for a single partner. Gone are the days when men could be baited into marriage on the lure of sex. The dissociation of sex and marriage as well as sexual freedom for women has also made it easier for men to keep sleeping around unless they wish to marry for other reasons. And if your boyfriend has a large sexual appetite, it is unlikely to be satisfied by a single person. He will sooner or later get tired of being with you and move on to someone else he can go to bed with.

5.He Lives Out Of A Suitcase

Men with unstable living conditions usually have priorities like work and travel which are bound to clash with a stable married life. You may be thrilled to have a high-flying war correspondent or wildlife photographer as a boyfriend, but such people are unlikely to settle down to tame domesticity. Far easier to spot - and avoid – are guys who are in and out of jobs or in trouble with the law and thus perpetually on the move. Rather look for men who have stable lives since they are the ones more likely to be looking for stable relationships.

6.He Does Not take You To Meet His Family

This is an unmistakable sign that a guy is not considering marriage even though he may be dating someone. Men usually discuss their families only with those who are close enough to be let into their inner lives. If your boyfriend has never suggested that you meet his parents and even appears to be uncomfortable talking about them to you, then perhaps he is not ready to make you an intrinsic part of his life.

7.You Don’t Figure In His Plans

When talking about his future, does your guy merely discuss his goals of starting a business someday and are his dreams limited to retiring by the sea with his very own beach house and luxury boat? If so or something similar, then this is an indication that you are not part of his future plans and thus unlikely to be his wife any time soon. Unless of course, he goes through a life-changing experience and realizes the value of a committed relationship which is again putting too much store by chance and therefore not worth wasting your life for.

8.He Doesn’t Ask You About Yours

In a reversal of the above point, a guy unwilling to commit will also be uninterested to know about your life goals and hopes for the future. The present- comfortably carefree and uncomplicated - is good enough for him. He does not want to know if you want to eventually settle in the suburbs or how many kids would you like to have and whether you would prefer little girls or boys. Hell, he doesn’t even want to know where you have always wanted to go for your honeymoon! If you find all this true in case of your boyfriend, then you can kiss your dreams of marrying him goodbye and start looking for a more suitable guy.

9.He Is Divorced

While divorced men are technically single and thus seeming candidates for a committed relationship, if your guy has gone through a particularly messy divorce, then probably he cannot bear the thought of marrying again. To be sure about this, pry around gently to see how badly he feels about his breakup and whether the scars are deep enough to be permanent. Other than emotional issues, a divorced man may also be caught up in child support and alimony so as to make any further commitments completely out of the question.

10.He Is Not Forthcoming About Personal Information

Have you ever wondered why your boyfriend is always vague when you ask him about his work and where he lives? You might have a rough idea that he is into finance and that he commutes from the suburbs but if he is unwilling to clearly share his personal information with you, probably he has something to hide – a spouse or a lover maybe. Or more likely he is determined to keep you away from the rest of his personal life. Not exactly marriage material, is he?

No one can say for sure what goes on in a person’s mind and what influences his/her decisions. But if your boyfriend displays all or most of the above signs, then more likely than not, he is not yet ready to propose marriage to you.




http://www.futurescopes.com/proposing-marriage/2093/10-signs-hes-not-going-propose-marriage

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Nobody: 10:14pm On Aug 19, 2014
Op,you are looking at it from the men's side only,what if the lady doesn't possess marriageable characteristics?

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by jideomowunmi(f): 10:20pm On Aug 19, 2014
U speak my mind...lovely write up smiley smiley

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Nobody: 10:24pm On Aug 19, 2014
jideomowunmi: U speak my mind...lovely write up smiley

In Rihanna's voice “I like the way you Lie”.

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Houseofglam7(f): 10:38pm On Aug 19, 2014
Hmmmmm......this gat me thinking.....
Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by jideomowunmi(f): 11:00pm On Aug 19, 2014
Ceasar1:

In Rihanna's voice “I like the way you Lie”.



Chai...u don sabi me too much... grin grin grin grin

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Caracta(f): 12:00am On Aug 20, 2014
There are some posters on this section that you wouldn't have a choice than click on their topics.

Nice one OP

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by lalasticlala(m): 5:12am On Aug 20, 2014
Caracta: There are some posters on this section that you wouldn't have a choice than click on their topics.

Nice one OP


thanks dearie

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Ariyke: 7:24am On Aug 20, 2014
*hmm*
Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Anacksunamun: 11:35am On Aug 20, 2014
Yomieluv: Op,you are looking at it from the men's side only,what if the lady doesn't possess marriageable characteristics?

That's a different ball game. You can create a thread for that one, a thread that'd read "10 ways to know women with unmarriageable qualities". This article is for ladies that are ready to settle down, so they'd know the kind of qualities displayed by their men, to ascertain if their men are ready to tie the knots or prefer sampling different single women.

The article is so on point. No lady should ignore these hints.

Nice one Lalasticala, always creating lovely threads. . . A sensible thread out of the numerous dumb threads created on the Romance Section, that's lately made this section a den for unscrupulous and dumb kids with access to internet.

Obinoscopy, Mukina2, move to FP ASAP.

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by boombay(m): 11:38am On Aug 20, 2014
undecided
Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by MadCow1: 11:38am On Aug 20, 2014
lalasticlala:
1.He Never Discusses Marriage

2.He Is Hugely Ambitious (Overambitious)

3.All His Friends Are Single

4.He Has Strong Sexual Needs

5.He Lives Out Of A Suitcase

6.He Does Not take You To Meet His Family

7.You Don’t Figure In His Plans

8.He Doesn’t Ask You About Yours

9.He Is Divorced

10.He Is Not Forthcoming About Personal Information





Stupidly reetarded.. grin


Mbok.. This marriage matter is getting ridiculous by the day.. Too much gaddanm emphasis on the matter.

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Rapsainot(m): 11:40am On Aug 20, 2014
how Many topic wan make front page today...... nairaland is over crowded

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Bazinga(m): 11:40am On Aug 20, 2014
lalasticlala: One of the biggest dating questions which haunt women is whether her boyfriend is ready to commit. She may be sticking around with him for almost a couple of years now, hoping that he will make up his mind and still waiting for the elusive engagement ring. If you don’t want this to happen to you, learn to pick up ten signs which tell you that he’s not going to propose marriage in a hurry.
1.He Never Discusses Marriage
This is perhaps the first hint that should start ringing warning bells in your mind. Your boyfriend cannot be caught dead talking about marriage as an institution or even commenting on commercials for wedding products and services. He won’t mention it even if his own brother is getting married and he is going to be the best man. His aversion to the M-word should be indication enough that marriage does not figure anywhere in his near future.
2.He Is Hugely Ambitious (Overambitious)
Guys whose only mission in their lives is to reach the top of their professional ladder are likely to take their time settling down. This is because emotional commitment to a partner might force them to cut down on their working hours and make networking with business contacts or frequent out-of-town trips difficult. Though this is not to say that married guys don’t find success – witness President Obama and Bill Gates - super ambitious men who are perpetually looking for the next bigger and better thing are more likely to consider marriage as leading to professional stagnation.
3.All His Friends Are Single
This is as sure a sign as any that your boyfriend is not going to propose marriage. If you notice that his social circle is exclusively made of bachelors and divorced men, it is evident that he is uncomfortable around married couples and has no plans to join their ranks in near future.
4.He Has Strong Sexual Needs
A guy who places great emphasis on sex and considers it the most important part of a relationship is unlikely to settle for a single partner. Gone are the days when men could be baited into marriage on the lure of sex. The dissociation of sex and marriage as well as sexual freedom for women has also made it easier for men to keep sleeping around unless they wish to marry for other reasons. And if your boyfriend has a large sexual appetite, it is unlikely to be satisfied by a single person. He will sooner or later get tired of being with you and move on to someone else he can go to bed with.
5.He Lives Out Of A Suitcase
Men with unstable living conditions usually have priorities like work and travel which are bound to clash with a stable married life. You may be thrilled to have a high-flying war correspondent or wildlife photographer as a boyfriend, but such people are unlikely to settle down to tame domesticity. Far easier to spot - and avoid – are guys who are in and out of jobs or in trouble with the law and thus perpetually on the move. Rather look for men who have stable lives since they are the ones more likely to be looking for stable relationships.
6.He Does Not take You To Meet His Family
This is an unmistakable sign that a guy is not considering marriage even though he may be dating someone. Men usually discuss their families only with those who are close enough to be let into their inner lives. If your boyfriend has never suggested that you meet his parents and even appears to be uncomfortable talking about them to you, then perhaps he is not ready to make you an intrinsic part of his life.
7.You Don’t Figure In His Plans
When talking about his future, does your guy merely discuss his goals of starting a business someday and are his dreams limited to retiring by the sea with his very own beach house and luxury boat? If so or something similar, then this is an indication that you are not part of his future plans and thus unlikely to be his wife any time soon. Unless of course, he goes through a life-changing experience and realizes the value of a committed relationship which is again putting too much store by chance and therefore not worth wasting your life for.
8.He Doesn’t Ask You About Yours
In a reversal of the above point, a guy unwilling to commit will also be uninterested to know about your life goals and hopes for the future. The present- comfortably carefree and uncomplicated - is good enough for him. He does not want to know if you want to eventually settle in the suburbs or how many kids would you like to have and whether you would prefer little girls or boys. Hell, he doesn’t even want to know where you have always wanted to go for your honeymoon! If you find all this true in case of your boyfriend, then you can kiss your dreams of marrying him goodbye and start looking for a more suitable guy.
9.He Is Divorced
While divorced men are technically single and thus seeming candidates for a committed relationship, if your guy has gone through a particularly messy divorce, then probably he cannot bear the thought of marrying again. To be sure about this, pry around gently to see how badly he feels about his breakup and whether the scars are deep enough to be permanent. Other than emotional issues, a divorced man may also be caught up in child support and alimony so as to make any further commitments completely out of the question.
10.He Is Not Forthcoming About Personal Information
Have you ever wondered why your boyfriend is always vague when you ask him about his work and where he lives? You might have a rough idea that he is into finance and that he commutes from the suburbs but if he is unwilling to clearly share his personal information with you, probably he has something to hide – a spouse or a lover maybe. Or more likely he is determined to keep you away from the rest of his personal life. Not exactly marriage material, is he?
No one can say for sure what goes on in a person’s mind and what influences his/her decisions. But if your boyfriend displays all or most of the above signs, then more likely than not, he is not yet ready to propose marriage to you.
http://www.futurescopes.com/proposing-marriage/2093/10-signs-hes-not-going-propose-marriage
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One word








#Bazinga.

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Smartlux(m): 11:41am On Aug 20, 2014
true talk cool

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by shadowwalker101: 11:42am On Aug 20, 2014
nic3 stuff
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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Dreyl(m): 11:42am On Aug 20, 2014
Lalastic always making fröntpage since 600BC

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Nobody: 11:45am On Aug 20, 2014
He always makes excuses to avoid taking you with him for his Family event (Maybe cause he is serious with someone else the family is aware of).

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by dammycrane000: 11:46am On Aug 20, 2014
Dreyl: Lalastic always making fröntpage since 600BC

PDP

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by freecocoa(f): 11:46am On Aug 20, 2014
I don't think all these really apply in the real world o( not all at least).

Any man who is out to deceive a lady will even go as far as giving her an engagement ring, all to continue shining her Kongo or whatever it is he wants her for besides marriage, one just has to keep hoping not to end up in the wrong hands.

I'm not saying "ignore the signs" no, there are definitely red flags but these articles always make it sound like you can outrightly tell a serious/unserious man by following a guidebook.

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by fflamingo(m): 11:48am On Aug 20, 2014
Nice one.
Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by 9jahubcom(m): 11:49am On Aug 20, 2014
na wa
Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Nobody: 11:50am On Aug 20, 2014
Our girls will see the signs yet they would pretend they did not see it so why bother tell them.
Girls are stubborn, they learn from experience.
They would agree with me that this is true.

Talking about marriage sef. Is marriage a sweet experience? Read below:
www.nairamode.com/2014/02/a-friend-of-mine-coming-back-from-uk-is.html?m=1

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by tbagjames(m): 11:50am On Aug 20, 2014
11. He hasn't kissed you since the Ebola outbreak.

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by mohammedmagnus: 11:50am On Aug 20, 2014
Brothers please you don't have to copy and paste the write-up. Just comment and go

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by kheart(m): 11:51am On Aug 20, 2014
sigh
Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by san316(m): 11:51am On Aug 20, 2014
What are the signs that the girl isn't worth proposing to?
Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by montestic(m): 11:51am On Aug 20, 2014
dat number 2. yes . some guys set unrealisic targets of things they wana achieve b4 marriage like building 5 houses at victoria island, building 3 mansions in abuja, building another 2 mansions in their village, buying 10 cars, b4 they wil tink of settling down o. but they kip 4king d babes any how without marriage on mind. lol

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by iyisco2001(m): 11:52am On Aug 20, 2014
Just wanna book a good space in a mumu thread

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Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by publicenemy(m): 11:52am On Aug 20, 2014
wink
Re: 10 Signs He's Not Going To Propose Marriage by Nobody: 11:53am On Aug 20, 2014
Houseofglam7: Hmmmmm......this gat me thinking.....
Thank you so much! My next song's gonna be titled: "you gat me thinking(girl)".

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