Good for you....the wages of sin is death. They innocence of the ppl u've betrayed will haunt. Why can't ppl jst be morally upright!

C

Who is deceiving whom?

wolewill: Good day Nairaland

To crown it all now, I need to go for HIV test to be sure I am not in bigger trouble than I am. right now my wife is in the kitchen preparing break fast while I type this, but I cant help but look back and wail over how I have destroyed the lives of all the people that trusted, believe and genuinely care for me with my selfish acts.

Interestingly my wife keeps practicing her house hygiene without knowing that the greatest threat to her hygienic life is her husband, I kept looking at the situation as she go about her finicky hygiene lifestyle, she is so finicky to the extent that the children cannot come into the living room with their pyjamas in the morning and sit on the couch there because visitors also sit on them and she doesn't want them to pick anything from strangers cloth thereby getting into their bed with.

wolewill: @mrbrownjay. Naturally I am not wont to this behaviour but for the fact that I work away from my family though not excuse to behave badly. I need to confess to my wife but I need to be around her and I am not due for leave anytime soon.

Can't stand all these fake Nollywood stories abeg.

No pity for your friend, she got serve

…but, how did you get it?

EnterPRO:

herpes or syphilis?

Sorry, its syphilis. Na vex.

My eye didn't even register that one.
I dey waste my energy dey type out of compassion.

Op come and answer this question sharp sharp.

blank: Who is deceiving whom?





Can's stand all these fake Nollywood stories abeg.

wolewill: Good day Nairaland

I have to open a new nairaland name to post this in other to remain anonymous. It suddenly just down on me that I have destroyed my very good family of a wife and two children with foolish acts and sexual decisions I made in the past. Not only did I infect my wife, who trusted me and never believed that I could go astray with herpes but I also infected a friend of mine who trusted me a lot but wrongly fell into sexual relationship with me out of loneliness and need for a comforter. The irony of this is that both my wife and this person lost their virginity to me.

Now the other lady has been diagnosed with herpes, I am yet to get a doctor's view of mine but I have seen 95% of the symptoms, my wife is yet to know but she is also exhibiting the symptoms which she thinks is thrush. My other friend is contesting the doctor's diagnoses and waiting to see a consultant gynecologist to confirm since herpes test is not readily accessible in Nigeria but done by few labs that send it out of the countries.

To crown it all now, I need to go for HIV test to be sure I am not in bigger trouble than I am. right now my wife is in the kitchen preparing break fast while I type this, but I cant help but look back and wail over how I have destroyed the lives of all the people that trusted, believe and genuinely care for me with my selfish acts.

I deserve all the names I can be called, but that is not the purpose of this post, but it is a way for me to share this and pour it out of my mind. Since I can't share it with friends and family for now, but carry the guilt in me as all this unfold. I dont want to take my siblings support for granted since will believe whatever story i tell and will want to rally round me, but the guilt will kill me.

I can only share this anonymously on nairaland to get avenue to talk about it, i feel so weak I just move around the house like a robot even when my children jump on me excitedly to share their computer games with me.

Anytime I remembered my friend that is yet to be married that I have destroyed her future, I can only see how unreliable some men like me are.Now I know the trouble has just began.

Severally I have escaped very narrow situations in the past, but I think now this shit has hit the fan and it can only be scattered.


God help me deal with all the possible outcomes. I don't want to pontificate with God name because I was supposed to know better since I was well brought up in a christian way.

Interestingly my wife keeps practicing her house hygiene without knowing that the greatest threat to her hygienic life is her husband, I kept looking at the situation as she go about her finicky hygiene lifestyle, she is so finicky to the extent that the children cannot come into the living room with their pyjamas in the morning and sit on the couch there because visitors also sit on them and she doesn't want them to pick anything from strangers cloth thereby getting into their bed with.


However, I feel slightly better now that I have shared a bit of it all. But my story is such a long and harrowing one with all the warnings and signs that I have gotten in the past i still fell into this deadly catch22 situation. When I ever I remember all the people that I have to stand in front and confessed to I shudder with pains and shame, my children who believed a lot in their father, my wife, my siblings and probably some close family friends that will definitely hear about this as event unfolds and be dumbfounded because they least expect it from me. Hmmmmmmmmm

Fake story. If you have ever had cold sores on your lips or when you have fever you have blisters, then you have herpes. 70-80% of the human population have herpes by the way. Most get it through kissing even from their parents sef. It is the genital herpes that is sexually transmitted as most don't know they have it. You should tell your wife. Besides such herpes can still be contracted even with condom. All it needs is skin to skin contact or oral and gbam.Reason why people tell you to stay faithful. It may have even come from your side chick. What? You think she is only with you? Are you with her every minute

@cirmuell it doesnt serve my friend right she was just a victim of circumstances. And dont be unnecessarily righteous. How did I get it I honestly dont know and I dont want to kill my self over it cause I keep thinking several years back and it is killing emotionally.

wolewill: @cirmuell it doesnt serve my friend right she was just a victim of circumstances. And dont be unnecessarily righteous. How did I get it I honestly dont know and I dont want to kill my self over it cause I keep thinking several years back and it is killing emotionally.

I'm not being self righteous, She deserves what she's got right now. Well, unless you r.aped her . That's my opinion. And I think, the earlier you let your wife know about this the better for you and the future of those kids...'cause this act may affect them in so many ways.

From the era of female breadwinners and how married people should behave, we now have infidelity stories...

ok oo

@cococandy what exactly are u reffering to.
My eye didn't even register that one.
I dey waste my energy dey type out of compassion.

Op come and answer this question sharp sharp.

hmmm ah never study ebola finish na herpes i wan begin study.











meanwhile.....just passing by!!

So your friend is in her mid thirties, and she lost her virginity to you?,biko,when exactly did you meet this 'friend? this story is like one from nollywood

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You are this worried when you've not gone for test? Go get yourself tested first before you develop HBP.

wolewill: @cirmuell it doesnt serve my friend right she was just a victim of circumstances.

As for your friend, I'm with cirmuell on this- I think she got served. For one, she knew you were married and she still allowed you in her pants. She prolly was the source of your infection to start with! The person that deserves to be pitied here is your wife.

I actually fell for this story and was reading up on herpes only for me to come back and see your post. I don't even know what to believe again..Maybe he left for his base after wifey finished preparing breakfast

In case this story is true, i have no pity for that your friend sha except you Molested her. Please tell everyone involved so they know what they are in for. You need to tell your WIFE immediately so they(your wife and children) can get tested



God please don't let me find myself in this kind of situation. What i am already carrying is heavy enough o sad

I was just crying for your wife while reading this post,now the innocent woman is also a threat to her kids as well oooo.


daris God ooo

pickabeau1: From the era of female breadwinners and how married people should behave, we now have infidelity stories...

ok oo

you forgot to add single mothers stories

very apt....true that

edwife:

you forgot to add single mothers stories

@cococandy I came in for the weekend always come in by friday and leave early monday morning for my base. But I just couldnt sleep so I woke up early and to tired to be on the way to my base which is some hours from my family. Now why cant I tell my wife in such a short a notice? Because it will be mean to tell over the weekend and leave for my base on monday. It will take time to register and the whole process needs to be gone through. I think it unfair to tell her and pack my things to be away for another 2wks. I need like a week with entire family to pull this thru. I may be wrong. Why did I respond to you? I did because your responses have been encouraging. I might not respond to anyone anymore who insist he or she doesnt believe it. Each person is left to take his or her own action

Ok. I'll modify my post now.
Wish you the best

P.S you can't blame people really. There are trolls everywhere who like to incite e-wars with sensitive topics like this one. So the discrepancies in your narrative opens room for doubt.
Good you explained. Forgive me

wolewill: @cococandy I came in for the weekend always come in by friday and leave early monday morning for my base. But I just couldnt sleep so I woke up early and to tired to be on the way to my base which is some hours from my family. Now why cant I tell my wife in such a short a notice? Because it will be mean to tell over the weekend and leave for my base on monday. It will take time to register and the whole process needs to be gone through. I think it unfair to tell her and pack my things to be away for another 2wks. I need like a week with entire family to pull this thru. I may be wrong. Why did I respond to you? I did because your responses have been encouraging. I might not respond to anyone anymore who insist he or she doesnt believe it. Each person is left to take his or her own action

Yuck!

Cool story

Herpes is not a death sentence. Most of the population carry it but are unaware. In fact a lot of them never have an outbreak. However, you must tell your wife especially if she could get pregnant. Her doctor would need to know just in case she has an outbreak when the baby is due. Some doctors prefer c-section to protect the baby. Though herpes is not a death sentence it still needs to be treated if there's an ongoing outbreak. It's hard for me to feel sorry for you. I'm really only posting here because of your wife and possibly unborn children

Well I have been stupid, dumb and careless while I thought I was smart. Now it cant be covered anymore. I had to try see my friend to tell but couldnt when I noticed that she is upbeat about herself. I only asked when she is seeing a gynecologist and she said she will this week in a top rated medical centre . May be I am wrong but I could see some blisters on her lower jaw which she explained away could be due to monthly circle. Well she will see a doctor this week painfully it is my family hospital though one of the best in nigeria.

wolewill: Well I have been stupid, dumb and careless while I thought I was smart. Now it cant be covered anymore. I had to try see my friend before leaving lagos to tell but couldnt when I noticed that she is upbeat about herself. I only asked when she is seeing a gynecologist and she said she will this week in a top rated one stop medical centre in lagos. May be I am wrong but I could see some blisters on her lower jaw which she explained away could be due to monthly circle. Well she will see a doctor this week painfully it is my family hospital though one of the best in nigeria. So major examination can be done here.

She would have to specifically ask to be tested for herpes. As far as I know anyway. In the US you do not automatically test for herpes when you do your yearly exams. Even if you're sexually active and ask your gynecologist to do the regular std examination they typically do not include HSV. I think it's just gonorrhea, chlamydia, and another one I'm not sure of. You also need to tell her.


Quick question. Was a culture done on you? You might test positive for HSV which is not unusual but your outbreak could be shingles. Anybody who has ever had chicken pox can get shingles. Chicken pox is also caused by a herpes virus. Shingles look just like a herpes outbreak though it's not contagious. A blood test is simply not enough. Ask for a culture

moca: Herpes is more dangerous than HIV.
My opinion.

Most mad people we see everywhere are d by products of herpes.
Once it gets to d tertiary stage, na straight colomentality.

So d only thing u owe these people is to tell them so they will go seek help medically cos the signs and symptoms will soon disappear(even to a number of yrs) and they will continue life as normal not knowing they r time bomb waiting to explode.

As per unfaithful partners, how I wish its only u guys that suffer d consequences of ur unfaithfulness.

Herpes? Madness?

Well @soulglo thanks. The plan is she goes for the examination base on initial docs diagnosis refering to the diagnosis and requested confirmation with a consultant.

Op from your posts it seems its your side chick you are more concerned of not your wife and kids

@op, I don't pity you or your cheating friend. I only pity your innocent wife. smh...very annoying stuff. better confess your sins now; to your wife I mean.

soulglo:


She would have to specifically ask to be tested for herpes. As far as I know anyway. In the US you do not automatically test for herpes when you do your yearly exams. Even if you're sexually active and ask your gynecologist to do the regular std examination they typically do not include HSV. I think it's just gonorrhea, chlamydia, and another one I'm not sure of. You also need to tell her.


Quick question. Was a culture done on you? You might test positive for HSV which is not unusual but your outbreak could be shingles. Anybody who has ever had chicken pox can get shingles. Chicken pox is also caused by a herpes virus. Shingles look just like a herpes outbreak though it's not contagious. A blood test is simply not enough. Ask for a culture

shingles will not be on his genital area, it will also be painful.
not very likely at his age.



I really dunno why op is making this much big deal out of herpes
I seriously think he has another motif behind this thread, he prolly just came across the word herpes a few days ago and is trying to reach for front page with it. People get oral herpes all the time, like most people have had it at one time or the other. I think a better punishment for your philandering ways would be the good, old, almighty HIV. Your story'll be more interesting then

alutacontinua:


shingles will not be on his genital area, it will also be painful.
not very likely at his age.



I really dunno why op is making this much big deal out of herpes
I seriously think he has another motif behind this thread, he prolly just came across the word herpes a few days ago and is trying to reach for front page with it. People get oral herpes all the time, like most people have had it at one time or the other. I think a better punishment for your philandering ways would be the good, old, almighty HIV. Your story'll be more interesting then

Shingles can definitely be in the genital area and while not very common it is not that uncommon for young people to get shingles. I know a teenager who gets shingles. I wanted him to rule that out because some doctors might just conclude its hsv2 because the blood test is positive and outbreak is close to and on the genital area.