What actually turns a man into a demon?
How can a human being be filled with wickedness and hatred for his own wife bikonu?

He complains all the time, never knew men nag until I met the demon married to my next door neighbour.
He practically sent her packing yesterday and never to return to his house because he wanted her to stay without bathing for 2days but she did.
How can a woman stay without having a shower or bathing 4 of her kids
He is practically asking them to go hungry too because she needs water to also cook.

The water in the tank finished earlier, against the supposed 1week it is meant to last before he pumps another water that will last for another week. So according to him, her punishment for mismanaging water was to stay without water for the remaining 2days that completes a week.

Well wifey stubbornly asked for my gen, pumped water. I travelled and came back today only to be told that he sent her packing for disobeying him.I called her and she kept asking me to beg her husband so she can return atleast for her children sakes but deep down inside of me I don't want her to return.
Enough of his wickednes and maltreatment towards that lady. I don't want to meddle in their affairs and I pray he never knows peace.
I don't knw what to do to help my confidant who is in a dilemma

I find it disturbing that an adult woman can be chased away from her own home and children.

Well welcome to Nigeria where some husband's have every right to be irrational while wife just sitdon dey look

Poverty na bastard..

I find it more disturbing that the woman wants to beg him.....

crackhaus: Poverty na bastard..

Well you won't believe it if I tell you that the man travels to china often for business, so it has nothing to do with poverty.

Pump water for a week? When his mates are pumping everyday. The guy just used that as an excuse, he had wanted the woman out before now.

Mynd44: I find it more disturbing that the woman wants to beg him.....

what would you rather have her do?

Mynd44: I find it more disturbing that the woman wants to beg him.....

A mother usually puts her children into consideration before herself. Sad

3cycle:
Well you won't believe it if I tell you that the man travels to china often for business, so it has nothing to do with poverty.

Then I'm left to agree with your initial assertion, demons are tormenting him...hence the wickedness.

Does the woman have a job?

egopersonified: Pump water for a week? When his mates are pumping everyday. The guy just used that as an excuse, he has wanted the woman out before now.

Yeah I agree, he threatens her daily with divorce so I think he hasbeen waiting for an excuse. But they are both young, barely 13 years of marriage.

slimyem: what would you rather have her do?

When she can have a beter life without the goat she calls a husband?

She should walk, keep walking then find a way to get her kids

3cycle:
A mother usually puts her children into consideration before herself. Sad

And in the end, both the wife and kids don't get a better deal. Why not live and when she is stable fight him for the kids

crackhaus:
Then I'm left to agree with your initial assertion, demons are tormenting him...hence the wickedness.

Does the woman have a job?

Nope, full time housewife.
She studied microbiology in school, though he trained her through out her uni days but after that he stopped her from job hunting.
He wanted her to stay back and look after their kids

3cycle:
Nope, full time housewife.
She studied microbiology in school, though he trained her through out her uni days but after that he stopped her from job hunting.
He wanted her to stay back and look after their kids

A sad situation.......

Mynd44:
And in the end, both the wife and kids don't get a better deal. Why not live and when she is stable fight him for the kids

Culture does not allow women fight for their kids, you either stay and endure or you leave and forget them.
You talk like you are not Nigerian

Mynd44: I find it more disturbing that the woman wants to beg him.....

because of her Kids.

ahnie: because of her Kids.

Will her returning change anything? You guys make it seem like her presence there will mean the kids will have a better life...if she gets out and makes something of herself, she can come for them

3cycle:
Culture does not allow women fight for their kids, you either stay and endure or you leave and forget them.
You talk like you are not Nigerian

You said culture. Does the law say the same thing?

3cycle:
Culture does not allow women fight for their kids, you either stay and endure or you leave and forget them.
You talk like you are not Nigerian

It is time the women in this country left retrogressive cultures and start making new ones.

It is time to change the rules and demand for more else the male folk will ride on them

she should dust her certificate n hit the labour kasuwa(market).a whole micro biologist sittin at home.

texanomaly:

You said culture. Does the law say the same thing?

Law? Do we have laws in Nigeria
I doubt

ahnie: she should dust her certificate n hit the labour kasuwa(market).a whole micro biologist sittin at home.

Yeah my thoughts exactly but where are the jobs?

3cycle:
Nope, full time housewife.
She studied microbiology in school, though he trained her through out her uni days but after that he stopped her from job hunting.
He wanted her to stay back and look after their kids

Herein lies his power over her, too bad.

I have a feeling the matter will be resolved and she'll be let back into the house...
The problem however is that he'll continue treating her badly if not even worse than before until something is done about it.

3cycle:
Yeah my thoughts exactly but where are the jobs?

then she must have save some money to do some little business.she failed to set her boundaries from the start.

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author=crackhaus]
Herein lies his power over her, too bad.

I have a feeling the matter will be resolved and she'll be let back into
the house...
The problem however is that he'll continue treating her badly if not
even worse than before until something is done about it.[/quote]only she can help herself.seems she z very weak in the mind...judging from the (FIR) by the op.

dis na rainy season sha, no one dey beg 4 water

i suggest u look 4 d real story behind the story

ahnie: then she must have save some money to do some little business.she failed to set her boundaries from the start.

Savings Hmmm she doesn't save a dime!
She told me she returns his change anytime she buys anything and the money remains.
She is a good wife but in an annoying way.
Who returns change in this age and time?

3cycle:
Nope, full time housewife.
She studied microbiology in school, though he trained her through out her uni days but after that he stopped her from job hunting.
He wanted her to stay back and look after their kids

It's unfortunate.
I didn't expect a degree holder to accept such level of humiliation.

Gosh...her case is complicated

3cycle:
Savings Hmmm she doesn't save a dime!
She told me she returns his change anytime she buys anything and the money remains.
She is a good wife but in an annoying way.
Who returns change in this age and time?

Never let anyone make you feel that you are less than you think of yourself. If hubby says stay at home, cant she start her own business. She can have a poultry or fish farm at home. Or sell things when doing sch runs. Or talk to him about opening a shop in front of the house. Even mama peace is still a perm sec and not just depending on her husband.

The reason he sent her packing is unknown.