by Emeka Asinugo
Our dear Anita: I am addressing this
letter to you because I know it's you who
hold the key to triumph over the
challenges that have recently raised
their ugly heads in your family and in
your ministry. I am convinced that even
if you don't read this letter directly from
me, some of the numerous members of
Christ Embassy across the globe could
read it and draw your attention to the
words of an old man who is pretty much
in the same calling as you and your
husband are. I am writing this from my
home: The Vicarage, St. Matthew's
Church of England, Stratford, E15 4JX,
where my wife, Christy is the Vicar, and
the co-ordinating Chaplain of Westfield,
Stratford City.
We were all taken aback when we read
about your intention to file for a divorce
against your husband, Pastor Chris. It
was a scandal, Anita, and you must not
let it happen.
I need not tell you that in today's world,
many factors tend to get in the way of
successful marriages. It is, therefore,
practically impossible to recommend a
general panacea for all the troubles that
can hamper the success of any marriage.
But in all our travails, as Christians, we
must bear in mind the fact that in a very
profound sense, marriage is the most
intimate of human relationships,
involving sharing a person's entire life
with his or her spouse.
By its very nature which emphasizes
conjugal love, the institution of
marriage is ordained for procreation
and for the ultimate education of
children who come from such
marriages. It calls for self-surrender
to the other spouse, a surrender that
is so intimate and complete that
spouses become "one," not only in
body, but also in soul, without
necessarily losing their individual
identities...
As the servants of God, you must ask
yourselves where the ultimate education
of your children comes into this divorce
prompting. If this divorce actually takes
place, how would your daughters who
you are preparing to become future
leaders in the church and mothers in the
family feel, knowing they come from a
broken home? And how do your
numerous followers interpret your
individual identity with reference to your
commitment to family and church?
There is an African adage that says:
there is no age when a man can say: 'I
have known it all'. That adage also
applies to the institution of marriage. No
one can claim to know all there is in that
human relationship called marriage. It is
a university. Those in it learn by the day
from it. And most times, the lessons
come in different shapes, culminating in
various experiences. As a result, the
marital experiences of people actually
differ one from another, depending on
circumstances and such factors as
upbringing, environmental pressure and
work demands. In all of these, no one
can claim to have a ready answer to all
the myriads of problems that couples
face daily in their marriage
relationships. It is even more
complicated these days when people
marry for various reasons that can range
from legal, social, emotional and
economic needs to spiritual stability or
upliftment. But no matter the reason a
couple gets married in the first place,
the demands of marriage remain
ultimate and constant. Husband and
wife must have a unity of purpose in all
their undertakings. In short, they must
be seen as, and remain, "an item" in the
eyes of their society.
Many of your admirers across the globe
want to believe that work pressure,
which is pressure from those you work
with or think you are working with, is
responsible for this undesirable
development of you, Anita, filing for a
divorce against Chris. The truth they
want to believe is that not only has
Satan attended service at Christ
Embassy, just as he attends services in
all churches that are reputed to be doing
well, he is waiting to receive Holy
Communion! He has penetrated your
ministry and is using your work force to
direct you. That is the challenge.
Don't forget that God allowed Satan to
sift the quality of those who profess to
worship Him. God cannot be mocked. If
Satan wins this battle, then God was
never in your Ministry in the first place.
Your millions of admirers across the
globe will be greatly disappointed but
they will not make any mistake about
the truth.
You sure must know that your admirers,
even from other Christian
denominations are in their millions.
Many of them look up to you as their
role model. Think again. Must you let
them down? Is this idea of divorcing
Chris so binding? Think about it again. Is
this not selfishness? Here in England,
many homes break up, with their
families torn apart. But when you look at
the situation closely, you find that
selfishness on the part of one of the
spouses was the fundamental reason
the family broke up. Should that be the
testimony of your Ministry? Would you
allow material things like money or
alleged sexual indulgence destroy your
Ministry and make a mockery of all you
have invested into it? To remain
married, spouses must be ready for a
long-term commitment in every
conceivable respect, financially,
emotionally and in terms of maturity
and ageing.
Having said this much, I would like to
quickly point out that there are many
things about marriages, especially
among Christian Families that are often
taken for granted. One of them is the
sacrosanct promise publicly recited by
couples in front of their witnesses, and
in front of God. They usually vow to love,
cherish and respect each other "until
death do us part!" Think about the
admonition God gave Adam in the Holy
Book. Adam and his wife Eve were the
first recorded couple on earth, according
to our Christian belief. God created the
Garden of Eden for them, with all the
glamour and beauty that the scenic
environment portrayed, just as He has
prospered Christ Embassy.

LOL, i couldn't even read it all.
It's nobody's business tho. You don't know what the Pastor did that caused her to file for divorce.
She's a practical woman, i'm sure she would have considered all these factors.
Y'all should just stay outta this and stop trying to play 'Counselor'.

MzNelly: LOL, i couldn't even read it all.
It's nobody's business tho. You don't know what the Pastor did that caused her to file for divorce.
She's a practical woman, i'm sure she would have considered all these factors.
Y'all should just stay outta this and stop trying to play 'Counselor'.

abegi...make i hear world. U think it is every r/ship that shld b allowed to drown like urs? These are public figures and, expect the public to have a share in their family life.
@topic. I dont knw why the so called men and women of God throw God out of their affair when they ar tested by the same God.

Caseless2: abegi...make i hear world. U think it is every r/ship that shld b allowed to drown like urs? These are public figures and, expect the public to have a share in their family life.
@topic. I dont knw why the so called men and women of God throw God out of their affair when they ar tested by the same God.

Are we considering the fact that neither you nor i know why they're going up for a divorce? They're adults! Why does everyone want to have a say in this?

MzNelly:
Are we considering the fact that neither you nor i know why they're going up for a divorce? They're adults! Why does everyone want to have a say in this?

they can do whatever they like. I dnt care!