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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by adconline(m): 12:50pm On Sep 16, 2014
Sweetlemon:

Well if they are living with him without the "funfair" then they should be able to sign documents without funfair as well. It's that simple.
Marriages solemnized in places of worship are as good as court marriage since marriage documents are signed and then turned in to the council registry. It's no biggie signing any marriage document, paying for another expensive wedding is the problem.
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 1:52pm On Sep 16, 2014
Sweetlemon:

Potential legal wedding hater alert. Ladies be warned.
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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by israelbenzion: 11:11pm On Sep 16, 2014
OrlandoOwoh: Church or court wedding is not all about spending money, like the would want us to believe. Yes, you spend money, but the main reason some people do it, including myself, is to give it a legal backing. The certificate you're issued at the registry or court has legal backing. For those that did just traditional marriage or paid only the bride price, before the law you're not a couple, but just cohabitating.


Ignorance in display. Care to state just one law that backs Ur assertion? if u don't know, ask. stop misinforming people. u guys don't have lawyer friends or cousins? na wa o!


Abeg I don tire for this argument. a little research wud do u good.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Omimah: 6:14am On Sep 17, 2014
israelbenzion:


Ignorance in display. Care to state just one law that backs Ur assertion? if u don't know, ask. stop misinforming people. u guys don't have lawyer friends or cousins? na wa o!


Abeg I don tire for this argument. a little research wud do u good.
Shut up.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 6:37pm On Oct 05, 2014
Old thread. angry
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by akpanikpe(m): 6:37pm On Oct 05, 2014
Kachisbarbie:
Majority of the people I have seen do this aren't learned. I haven't seen any learned person do it around me...

Sometimes circumstance leads to that, maybe the babe gets preg, and dey start postponing it till after birth of the child...and keep postponing it.

I think it's ideal to do a court @least. Make the marriage recognised by the law...just incase. lipsrsealed

I haven't done court marriage though. My friends keep telling me to force my hubby to do it, so I can be entitled to his fortune, like they don't pray for me to make good money too...rubbish.
U make sense die.
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by IYANGBALI: 6:40pm On Oct 05, 2014
Blebleswag:
Buh traditional marriage is d most important. Must u wear white gown?
no mind dem,dem be celestial church members,that's why white wedding dey hungry dem

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by j4sure(m): 6:42pm On Oct 05, 2014
OGA OOOOOO
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by IYANGBALI: 6:44pm On Oct 05, 2014
OrlandoOwoh:
Church or court wedding is not all about spending money, like the would want us to believe. Yes, you spend money, but the main reason some people do it, including myself, is to give it a legal backing. The certificate you're issued at the registry or court has legal backing. For those that did just traditional marriage or paid only the bride price, before the law you're not a couple, but just cohabitating.
my friend you know next to nothing about the nigerian law
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GooseBaba: 6:45pm On Oct 05, 2014
Sweetlemon:


I guess you are female.

Take my advise and get an official document. Thank me later.

Official court documents... I agree.. How white wedding or being a christian take make sense inside the matter..!!?
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by IYANGBALI: 6:45pm On Oct 05, 2014
israelbenzion:



Ignorance in display. Care to state just one law that backs Ur assertion? if u don't know, ask. stop misinforming people. u guys don't have lawyer friends or cousins? na wa o!


Abeg I don tire for this argument. a little research wud do u good.
no mind that wannabe lawyer
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 6:46pm On Oct 05, 2014
You don't know that this PDP led economy is harsh?
This government sef.
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GooseBaba: 6:48pm On Oct 05, 2014
OrlandoOwoh:
Church or court wedding is not all about spending money, like the would want us to believe. Yes, you spend money, but the main reason some people do it, including myself, is to give it a legal backing. The certificate you're issued at the registry or court has legal backing. For those that did just traditional marriage or paid only the bride price, before the law you're not a couple, but just cohabitating.

Inferiority complex at its peak... Tufiakwa..!

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by kay29000(m): 6:52pm On Oct 05, 2014
Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.

Couples who make all the noise with d white wedding still end up breaking up months later these days, so what's the use of all the fuss. I think if the couple love each other and have understanding, Registery and Traditional wedding is enough. No need for all the unnecesary spending of a church wedding.
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by OrlandoOwoh(m): 6:53pm On Oct 05, 2014
GooseBaba:


Inferiority complex at its peak... Tufiakwa..!
Could you explain further?

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sixix: 6:53pm On Oct 05, 2014
Sweetlemon:


I guess you are female.

Take my advise and get an official document. Thank me later.

Court marriage or no court marriage, it won't hinder an irresponsible man from shying away from his responsibilities, abusing his wife and from engaging in extramarital affairs.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nicepoker(m): 6:55pm On Oct 05, 2014
Op come to thee and I shall give thou a white wedding. If u see man wey wan carry u put for house after TM no go aboeg. Sit and wait for white wedding my a55.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 6:55pm On Oct 05, 2014
MabraO:
Only in Nigeria our ladies allow us men to marry them 3-4 times in 2/3 days
Wetin sef
If my wife no like traditional wedding
Na she sabi
No time for one Yeye pastor to tell me how to run my marriage wen he can't even run his
you can choose court wedding then
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MadCow1: 6:55pm On Oct 05, 2014
Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.


Erm... Just so you know, Traditional Marriage is recognised by the Federal government and the only proof you need is a marriage picture and witnesses. These are acceptable proof anywhere including Visa offices.

However, I do agree that it is sensible for every woman to insist on going to court as most churches (especially pentecostal churches) are not authorised by law to perform weddings and thus the certificate you get from those churches are not admissible in court or anywhere else as proof of marriage.

Also.. Get pregnant for the guy before you are married so the guy no fit Abandon you.. Thank me later. cool

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by OrlandoOwoh(m): 6:55pm On Oct 05, 2014
IYANGBALI:
my friend you know next to nothing about the nigerian law
Gani Fawehinmi, could you explain the law to me as it relates to marriage?

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by zeb04(f): 6:56pm On Oct 05, 2014
Court wedding is a must then we can decide to forfeit any of the celebrations.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by bukatyne(f): 6:57pm On Oct 05, 2014
100Cents:


I am appalled she used Peter Okoye who did only traditional wedding out of choice.

What of most Nigerian men who cannot raise good money to cover both traditional and church weddings ?

@bolded:

'Poor' people have been marrying (doing white, Trad and court depending on the church) for ages.

Trad: Invite the two families alone, drop engagement stuffs and gbam! wedding don stand

White: Buy/Rent a gown (some sew china white; wear white skirt suit etc.) and be joined in church in the presence of ministers, parents & extremely close friends if desired.

Reception can be done aoutside the church; take away packs can be shared in church to cancel reception.

When there is a will, there is a way

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 6:58pm On Oct 05, 2014
Sweetlemon:


I guess you are female.

Take my advise and get an official document. Thank me later.
Document na paper .... what matters most is your personal self. if you like get 100 documents .... if it is not working he may opt out or find a second wife after all the document would not stop him from looking elsewhere.
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MadCow1: 6:58pm On Oct 05, 2014
Sixix:


Court marriage or no court marriage, it won't hinder an irresponsible man from shying away from his responsibilities, abusing his wife and from engaging in extramarital affairs.



You miss the point of my future ex lover Sweetlemon.

The court or church marriage isn't meant to stop infidelity or abuse but to protect the woman under the law and grant her access to her rights like alimony and more under the law just I case the Nigga starts acting up later.

No need to thank God, thank me.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MadCow1: 6:59pm On Oct 05, 2014
bukatyne:


@bolded:

'Poor' people have been marrying (doing white, Trad and court depending on the church) for ages.

Trad: Invite the two families alone, drop engagement stuffs and gbam! wedding don stand

White: Buy/Rent a gown (some sew china white; wear white skirt suit etc.) and be joined in church in the presence of ministers, parents & extremely close friends if desired.

Reception can be done aoutside the church; take away packs can be shared in church to cancel reception.

When there is a will, there is a way



Even a homeless fellow can afford court wedding.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by InvertedHammer: 7:00pm On Oct 05, 2014
Sweetlemon:


Lol!

Those Italians will not be recognized without an official document even in Nigerian courts not talk of their own country.

You missed the emphasis on the legal document and not necessarily the ceremony.
\

In other words, you are going into marriage with divorce on your mind?

Better pray for someone who loves you to marry you bc if your husband believes that the document
you signed with him is the problem, he may device alternatives.

Wait a minute, I think oyibo people call it "unsolved mystery".

Better marry for love o!

I got a call about a marriage rite that will take place next week. Looking at the whole picture, it is heading for
the rocks...a lot of unanswered questions...obvious warning signals flashing but neglected

To insist on court wedding, better hook someone before you turn 30.

Don't curse me out. Blame the society especially Nigeria.



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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by bukatyne(f): 7:01pm On Oct 05, 2014
jmoore:
Growing trend? I don't think so.

Anyway, my plan is to do my traditional and church wedding the same day.


The government needs to do something about our traditional marriage, so we can issue legal documents to back the traditional wedding.

That is the way to go bro

However, be prepared for stress unlimited and hopping from one place to another cheesy
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by OrlandoOwoh(m): 7:01pm On Oct 05, 2014
I still prefer the registry to the church and traditional marriage. I can't stand the stress involved in catering for the huge number of people that attend church wedding and traditional marriage.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by soldierdollar(m): 7:01pm On Oct 05, 2014
Sweetlemon:


Potential legal wedding hater alert. Ladies be warned.

You cannot impose your opinion as you're obviously trying to do . if you feel someone's opinion does not go down well with you , why not give a good reason why you should refute it ?

Like someone saying ... I like beans cause it gives me protein ...
And you will be like ...
Potential garri Hater alert ... Ladies be warned

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by qreese: 7:02pm On Oct 05, 2014
White wedding or court wedding. Its all an idea for the woman in the union. I have never heard of a case where a man demands alimony in divorce. I would urge ladies to do the right thing before moving in with a man. Love is not enough to sustain a marriage. Forebearance, longsuffering, comittement and mutual respect is all that matters.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:03pm On Oct 05, 2014
Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.
is it in Nigeria you want to fight for his property .... well if it is jointly owned , I agree ... sadly most men know how to go about this...you better wake up to the naija reality.
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by bukatyne(f): 7:03pm On Oct 05, 2014
MadCow1:




Even a homeless fellow can afford court wedding.

No mind them

Everybody must wedding alariwo or all weddings must cost millions

preay for favour and wonderful deals will be coming your way

Plan and know what you want and work towards it

The funny thing is that the glamour of wedding ceremony is not the money spent but the organization and effort put into it

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