MadCow1:



True..

But even then, such relationship if not customary is considered to be common law marriage and can be decided in court like a full court marriage. What I am not sure the spouses can get is "maintenance" from each other, but the court can award custody to one parent and child upkeep from the other as the case may be as that child's or children's interest must always be protected under the law irrespective of the circumstances of their birth.

MadCow1:



You miss the point of my future ex lover Sweetlemon.

The court or church marriage isn't meant to stop infidelity or abuse but to protect the woman under the law and grant her access to her rights like alimony and more under the law just I case the Nigga starts acting up later.

No need to thank God, thank me.

Sixix:


What a pity!

However would you like me to start counting women who were wedded legally and still got dumped and maltreated.

Court marriage is for 'those' women and NOT WOMEN

Sixix:


What is Alimony and Child Support?

Alimony is a divorce settlement where the man pays his wife the bulk of his monthly salary because the law asked him too

Gives women the power to mentally, financially and emotionally frustrate their husbands and ex-husbands throughout the rest of their lives

To make them incapable of having another 'normal' family

Makes it a crime to be a 'man'

Allows ex-wives to sit their fat lazy asses at home all day because they were mainly dependant on their husbands' income while they were married and are now incapable of getting jobs

Provides ex-husbands and husbands a perfect motive to murder their wives.



And yet it has not stop any man from engaging in activities that are grounds for divorce


In today's world, a divorce settlement is concerned with the protection of women not the man because he is a man

Sixix:


Court marriage or no court marriage, it won't hinder an irresponsible man from shying away from his responsibilities, abusing his wife and from engaging in extramarital affairs.

GooseBaba:


You said traditional marriage does not constitute as absolute marriage, you relegate it to cohabitating. but your opulence for white wedding gives it legal backing....

In your world African traditional marriage is not up to oyinbo traditional marriage... That equals to inferiority complex...

GooseBaba:


Guy abeg try read before you reply person post..

I did and just for the benefit of the doubt, I re read it and my post still stands.

The Inferiority complex you accused Mr. Owoh of having in response to his post shows you didn't understand his post at all..

He simply was trying to say he picks white weddings over trad because of the legality of it over the rest and that my friend is sound academic argument that has absolutely nothing to do with either an inferior or superior complex.

**Okay.. Who am I and why am I making so much sense with such have elaborate big grammar? Infact I am "Oleku"ing myself right now (feeling the boy)..

tatiana009:
OP is right that it's important to sign documents and make the union legally recognised. It's not only about divorce but God forbid incase one of the parties die and the family wants to cheat you and your children out of what you guys worked for. It just helps to protect the family incase of such things since the law will be on your side even if there's no will.

It doesn't have to be an elaborate affair just go to the registry. If a man doesn't trust the woman enough to marry her legally then why is he marrying her at all that is the woman who will raise your children so you should do everything g to protect her

uzolexis:


I agree,traditional wedding should be the recognised one,all others should be formality. The Nigerian govt should start giving certificates 4 traditional wedding.

cococandy:
Sweetlemon the guys won't be happy with you for saying this
The lord is your strength as you fight the ensuing e-battle

OrlandoOwoh:

You're contradicting yourself. Whether traditional or church, the issuance of certificate is what makes it legal. I know of people who sit in their living room and join their children. If there is a case of devorce, then you will know that it is important to have certificate. You think you can just impregnate a girl, give her family the bride price and think the law recognizes you as a couple?

Sixix:


What is Alimony and Child Support?

Alimony is a divorce settlement where the man pays his wife the bulk of his monthly salary because the law asked him too

Gives women the power to mentally, financially and emotionally frustrate their husbands and ex-husbands throughout the rest of their lives

To make them incapable of having another 'normal' family

Makes it a crime to be a 'man'

Allows ex-wives to sit their fat lazy asses at home all day because they were mainly dependant on their husbands' income while they were married and are now incapable of getting jobs

Provides ex-husbands and husbands a perfect motive to murder their wives.



And yet it has not stop any man from engaging in activities that are grounds for divorce


In today's world, a divorce settlement is concerned with the protection of women not the man because he is a man

tatiana009:


I've heard of cases where it's the man collecting Alimony even though it's rare so the laws is there for both parties it's just that it favours more the party that isn't as rich as the other

CoCoLav:



Thank you! By the time one husband's brother will suddenly come from the village and explain to them how they are 'property' and so cannot inherit their husband's wealth (some of which the both of them even worked for) then their eyes will clear.

This kind of topic no need to argue sef. Just fold hands and watch.

warrior01:


The certificates are readily available. Just go to the local govt and register your marriage.

GooseBaba:


But, Bros... That's not what you said before. You said white wedding gives marriage legal backings...how so..!?

In the system of government policy in Nigeria. Traditional marriage and court registration of marriage is all one needs... But of course, colonial madness of marriage raises its ugly head..

InvertedHammer:

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Try enforcing alimony and child support in Nigeria

My problem with MadCow1 is that he is prescribing antidepressant medications for malaria.

The question is about marriage in Nigeria and he/she is reciting some legal mumbo jumbo he read somewhere.
.

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I knew one of you Niggas would take that bait..


Now let me test your knowledge of Nigerian Laws with regards to the marriage act. ..

Question : Do you my friend know what term 'maintenance' means as regards the marriage act of Nigeria?

If you do (or if you Google it and find out) then what's your point about enforcement? If the courts awards maintenance to a spouse and the other party refuses to comply, that party would be in direct breach of court orders and would be sent to jail..


I no be lawyer o! But it's still a surprise that I am not..

Thanks for reading more of my legal mumbo jumbo.

tatiana009:


I've heard of cases where it's the man collecting Alimony even though it's rare so the laws is there for both parties it's just that it favours more the party that isn't as rich as the other

majekdom2:
A made man knows what to sign , I guess thats why psquare only settled with the traditional. if you like sign document , if you name or your children's name are not included in the will ... there is nothing you can do . and yes even if there is no will , it depends on whose name he puts down as the next of kin . some men still put down the names of their younger ones as next of kin. you should know the law fully so as not to make a wrong decision.

InvertedHammer:

/

Try enforcing alimony and child support in Nigeria

My problem with MadCow1 is that he is prescribing antidepressant medications for malaria.

The question is about marriage in Nigeria and he/she is reciting some legal mumbo jumbo he read somewhere.
.

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majekdom2:
A made man knows what to sign , I guess thats why psquare only settled with the traditional. if you like sign document , if you name or your children's name are not included in the will ... there is nothing you can do . and yes even if there is no will , it depends on whose name he puts down as the next of kin . some men still put down the names of their younger ones as next of kin. you should know the law fully so as not to make a wrong decision.

MadCow1:


I did and just for the benefit of the doubt, I re read it and my post still stands.

The Inferiority complex you accused Mr. Owoh of having in response to his post shows you didn't understand his post at all..

He simply was trying to say he picks white weddings over trad because of the legality of it over the rest and that my friend is sound academic argument that has absolutely nothing to do with either an inferior or superior complex.

**Okay.. Who am I and why am I making so much sense with such have elaborate big grammar? Infact I am "Oleku"ing myself right now (feeling the boy)..

Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.

CoCoLav:



Thank you! By the time one husband's brother will suddenly come from the village and explain to them how they are 'property' and so cannot inherit their husband's wealth (some of which the both of them even worked for) then their eyes will clear.

This kind of topic no need to argue sef. Just fold hands and watch.

CoCoLav:



That's where you are wrong. There's something called reasonable financial provision for dependants. If there's no will, that's where your legal marriage comes in or in the absence of a legal marriage, the next of kin.

But then again....I don't want to argue. Wise women know what to do.

majekdom2:
do you really know how the average Nigerian man goes about acquiring and securing his properties as it concerns his family ?

Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.