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How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(f): 7:11pm On Sep 20, 2014
How to Bring a Shy Guy out of His Shell




It can be a little tricky to bring a shy guy out of his shell, especially if you're outgoing and don't know where he's coming from. However, if you want to make a shy guy more talkative and comfortable, you have to work on asking questions that catch his interest and on letting him know that you like him so he feels more open around you. There are many tactics that can work for making a shy guy feel more comfortable, but you should know that it's hard to truly change a person who is really introverted. Still, if you put in the effort, you can go a long way in bringing a shy guy out of his shell and having a great time with him anywhere you go.
1)See him when he is in his element.

If he plays sports, go and watch the game too. Be there as he finishes a marathon. If he is giving a talk, try to arrange to be in the audience. When a shy guy is in his element, he will be at the height of his charisma and at a high point of self-confidence; he will be "in the zone" and less nervous, feeling very good about himself. And this means he will feel empowered to make a move on you if he is really interested. Now, If he is a co-worker try to keep it simple. Say 'Hello' with a big smile when you see him. That will have him thinking about you. Try to keep the questions limited.

2)COMPLIMENT HIM.
Notice something about him or what he is doing that you really like and praise it with a specific and sincere compliment. For example, "That blog you wrote about going to Sicily was hysterically funny and made me want to go, too!" This helps to build his self-esteem in relation to you and will tend to get him to talk more about the topic. And it may even get him to show off a bit for you. It will certainly help him to stop obsessing about your attractiveness making him too nervous to talk to you!
If you choose his very favorite subject, be sure youwantto hear all about it. Even if you don't, be genuine and listen. You'll have your turn soon enough.
Be sure you make it clear that you're not only interested in him for his expertise.

3)Say his name a lot.
Give him a complimentary nickname. This indicates that you're noticing him and that he is important to you. He will be likely to bond more quickly with you when you use his name. Also, choose a complimentary nickname based on one of his qualities that you admire. For example, if he is into cycling, call him “Lance A.” This will get him to laugh and open up with you about his cycling experiences.
Make sure he's comfortable with anything you decide to call him. The best way to do this is to ask, simply saying something like: "Is it OK with you if I call you Lance A?"

4)Ask open-ended questions.
These kinds of questions will help a shy guy open up and talk about himself. And this will lead to him feeling known and being comfortable with you. Good examples include"
"How did you get interested in (your job)?"
"What brought you to live in the city?"
"How do you manage to train for a triathlon when you work full-time?"

5.Ask for help with something.
Men love to help women. They're wired that way, to find solutions. Ask him to fix your computer, your car, your bike, your door—you name it. He will enjoy coming through for you and feel much more connected to you as a result. Ask him questions about what he is doing. This will get him talking more. When he is in the "helper" role, he is much more likely to share with you and be less self-conscious in the process.
Ask him about something he's comfortable doing. Not all guys are Mr. Fix-It. Yours may well fix his own car by taking it to amechanic. If he doesn't know, don't embarrass him by expecting him to know

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(f): 7:27pm On Sep 20, 2014
6)Ask about his interests
.Ask what he likes to eat or what sports, hobbies, or movies he enjoys. Once you find something in common, ask him if he’d like to get together some time to pursue it. Shy guys can be very interested in you, but petrified to make the first move. It is very easy to open the door to a common interest by asking about food, hobbies or other fun activities. When you hit on something you both love, you will instantly become more bonded as similarities are a key way of cementing connection between people. It is easy, then to make the first move and ask about doing the activity together.
This is a good litmus test that will show if he is interested or not. When you're opening the door that much, if he does not respond and make the date, chances are he is not into u

7)Try writing notes.
If either of you love to read and write, exchange notes or meet online and chat with text. It moves a little more slowly, so it gives you both time to compose your thoughts and it gives you both a chance to throw out anything that seems to come out wrong.
coolTouch him gently or even give him a mini massage
.Making physical contact actually releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone, so he may feel closer and start responding to you immediately through the power of touch. Gently grasp his arm or relax him by giving him a mini neck or shoulder massage. This relaxes him so that he is less up-tight and fearful. In addition, making physical contact often opens the door to him making an affectionate gesture towards you later on—where he holds your hand, puts his arm around you or kisses you.
Ask permission first, and make sure he's open to that sort of attention. A mini massage might be considered too forward or intimate in some circles.
9)Make the first move yourself.It's not illegal or even off limits, and it may come as a great relief to a guy who's a bit reserved if you ask him out. You don't have to call it a date if you don't want to. You can also be the one to broach the subject of romance, or to give (or at least offer) that first kiss or hug. Spell it out when you're ready. Some guys don't catch hints, no matter how many you drop, but don't give up.
10)Bepatient, and don't rush things
He's not going to change overnight, and there will likely be vestiges of his shyness for some time to come. Hurrying may only intimidate him, so as your relationship grows, suggest the next move, but try to take his pace. Work to build a trust that will make you both confident with yourselves and with each other when you're together.
Be aware that he may seem awkward around you at first. Be persistent and compassionate.

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(f): 7:34pm On Sep 20, 2014
And finally!shy guy can somtimes be cute but he might just not be into you not shy
After doing all this and no positive change.learn how to respect yourself and WALK AWAY.







Signed
#TeamBoldGirls

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 7:44pm On Sep 20, 2014
I like shy girls, that are cute as rabbits...

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Neldrizzy(m): 8:01pm On Sep 20, 2014
.........
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by philantoxx(m): 8:21pm On Sep 20, 2014
this nedrizzy all booking space sef.lol
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by 1one: 8:24pm On Sep 20, 2014
Incase...
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 8:26pm On Sep 20, 2014
Moral lesson...

Never bring a shy guy out of his shell.
Things in shells can't live without it. Eg. Snail

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 8:27pm On Sep 20, 2014
Hmmm.. Nyc... I see diz thread making front page....

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 8:41pm On Sep 20, 2014
Bring me a shy GUY....I ll turn him into another thing within days!!!...

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 8:46pm On Sep 20, 2014
temigracie: Bring me a shy GUY....I ll turn him into another thing within days!!!...
with the OP's tutorials??
I don't think so.
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 8:50pm On Sep 20, 2014
krall: with the OP's tutorials??
I don't think so.
..hehehehe...


Yeah....Including my own tips too
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 8:50pm On Sep 20, 2014
Instead of going tru all dis stress,why cnt u just confess ur love to him.

Who is now the shy one?
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by destante(f): 8:58pm On Sep 20, 2014
phantonce: Instead of going tru all dis stress,why cnt u just confess ur love to him.

Who is now the shy one?
hmm I think there is a difference. A shy guy could know a lady loves him and still be shy.
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by computerboy: 9:02pm On Sep 20, 2014
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 9:13pm On Sep 20, 2014
destante: hmm I think there is a difference. A shy guy could know a lady loves him and still be shy.
That's not a shy guy.maybe he is stutter or a dense guy naturally or he is just not interested.

Meanwhile,d lady can jst profess her love to him instead of dis stress.
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by destante(f): 9:17pm On Sep 20, 2014
phantonce:
That's not a shy guy.maybe he is stutter or a dense guy naturally or he is just not interested.

Meanwhile,d lady can jst profess her love to him instead of dis stress.
If you say so. Isoraii.
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by usermane(m): 9:40pm On Sep 20, 2014
Not bad, not bad.

Heebucun: 1)See him when he is in his element.
I wouldn't agree fully with this. Granted that even a shy guy want to impress his love interest, seeing him in his element and cheering him could tense him or even get him shy away out of fear or embarrasing himself.

2)COMPLIMENT HIM.
Don't be excessive here, and don't do this publicly or you create attention which could scare him off.

3)Say his name a lot. Give him a complimentary nickname.
Alright, but ensure this nick name is decent and appealing to him.

4)Ask open-ended questions.
Great tip here. It 'll eventually show you care enough which might be enough to open him. But be too frequent and don't be inquisitive. Sometimes you need to see if he misses your company or not. This could get you see if he is into you or not.

5.Ask for help with something.
I think it has to do with the feeling when a lady entrust you of all people. You want to overcome every odd to impress her. In Secondary school, my crush once sought my assistance to fix her calculator one afternoon. I had no idea, but not wanting to disappoint her, i promised to fix it. It took me the whole day after school, plus nearly all night to disassemble the calculator and fix it via trial and error. This cost me my supper and nearly my homework too. I 'd still do the same today.


6)Ask about his interests. Ask what he likes to eat or what sports, hobbies, or movies he enjoys.
Same with No. 4

7)Try writing notes.

Takes off the pressure of eye contact and often give the shy one more luxury to express himself clearer. No silent or awkward moment.

coolTouch him gently or even give him a mini massage

Ascertain he is fine with this before you attempt it! Only if he truely love you will your move be taken with pleasure.


9)Make the first move yourself.It's not illegal or even off limits, and it may come as a great relief to a guy who's a bit reserved if you ask him out.
Oh, there are varying ways to do this if you are scared of being too forward. Remember, if your crush is really shy, he 'll becareful not to blow you off even if he is not interested.

10)Bepatient, and don't rush things
Patience Always Pay.

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Psalmpy(m): 10:05pm On Sep 20, 2014
Uhmm
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by snakebeat: 10:12pm On Sep 20, 2014
usermane: Not bad, not bad.


I wouldn't agree fully with this. Granted that even a shy guy want to impress his love interest, seeing him in his element and cheering him could tense him or even get him shy away out of fear or embarrasing himself.


Don't be excessive here, and don't do this publicly or you create attention which could scare him off.


Alright, but ensure this nick name is decent and appealing to him.


Great tip here. It 'll eventually show you care enough which might be enough to open him. But be too frequent and don't be inquisitive. Sometimes you need to see if he misses your company or not. This could get you see if he is into you or not.

I think it has to do with the feeling when a lady entrust you of all people. You want to overcome every odd to impress her. In Secondary school, my crush once sought my assistance to fix her calculator one afternoon. I had no idea, but not wanting to disappoint her, i promised to fix it. It took me the whole day after school, plus nearly all night to disassemble the calculator and fix it via trial and error. This cost me my supper and nearly my homework too. I 'd still do the same today.


Same with No. 4


Takes off the pressure of eye contact and often give the shy one more luxury to express himself clearer. No silent or awkward moment.


Ascertain he is fine with this before you attempt it! Only if he truely love you will your move be taken with pleasure.


Oh, there are varying ways to do this if you are scared of being too forward. Remember, if your crush is really shy, he 'll becareful not to blow you off even if he is not interested.


Patience Always Pay.
What if after doing all these things and discover d guy is battling with one contagious STD, that's why he decided to keep calm,not because he's shy, what will u do?

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Psalmpy(m): 10:15pm On Sep 20, 2014
Uhmm...bringing a shy guy out of his shell its more or less like bringin a fish out of an ocean. How do u xpect it 2 survive.
I wud advice u take d shy guy out of a shell(dat makes him shy) to a shell(dat 'll make him audacious $ sCintiLlating)
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by nwaobitex: 10:59pm On Sep 20, 2014
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 11:15pm On Sep 20, 2014
krall: Moral lesson...

Never bring a shy guy out of his shell.
Things in shells can't live without it. Eg. Snail
u re right man
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 11:16pm On Sep 20, 2014
temigracie: Bring me a shy GUY....I ll turn him into another thing within days!!!...
don't be too sure about that
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by DGKN: 11:17pm On Sep 20, 2014
Bam
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 11:18pm On Sep 20, 2014
But I wonder why the shy types are always free on the virtual world

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Nobody: 11:25pm On Sep 20, 2014
temigracie: Bring me a shy GUY....I ll turn him into another thing within days!!!...
ma'am are u sure? oyah see me here cool
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by valmunich(m): 11:34pm On Sep 20, 2014
Funny how ladies think they know guys too well grin

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Dottune(m): 11:38pm On Sep 20, 2014
I'm quite a shy guy in real life, I've probably got good looks. The only way I've been able to get through mine and make a relationship is through Social Media: BBM, Whatsapp and the likes. Once we start talking through social Media and I've gotten to know you really well, when I actually meet the person, I won't be shy around the person @ allz. Had this one time I met a girl on BBM, after we chatted for like over a month and got to know ourselves. we finally met when we had to travel to almost the same location, we boarded the same Bus, we did naughty things and I so wasn't shy. [b/] Being shy is so not nice
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(f): 11:44pm On Sep 20, 2014
Some guys are actually shy actually but on here(nairaland)they are veri bold!Y the change in character?

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Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by Heebucun(f): 11:48pm On Sep 20, 2014
snakebeat: What if after doing all these things and discover d guy is battling with one contagious STD, that's why he decided to keep calm,not because he's shy, what will u do?
See imagination o shocked Temigrace com ansa cheesy
Re: How To Bring A SHY Guy Out Of His Shell by ChikeAndrew(m): 11:49pm On Sep 20, 2014
temigracie: Bring me a shy GUY....I ll turn him into another thing within days!!!...
here is one. *me

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