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Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Exjoker(m): 12:26am On Sep 27, 2014
Today's marriages face an unprecedented
challenge . Never before has there been so
much technology, which despite providing
some benefits, threatens personal interaction
and relationships. On the one hand, couples
are able to communicate more often
throughout the day and even when they are
away. While hubby is at the supermarket, you
can reach him to remind him to pick up the
milk, writes April Masini, the relationship
expert at AskApril.com , in an e-mail. And
while you are in California on business, you
can even see each other through video chats.
At the same time, however, you can get lost in
your text messages, communicate with others,
and be in the same room with your spouse
without even noticing because of the
technological distractions all around you.
Since your marriage is the most precious
relationship you have, you need to protect it.
So, here are Masini's marriage rules for the
digital age:
1. No cell phones at dinner.
When you and your spouse are lucky enough
to dine together (which should happen as
often as possible if not every night), then you
should give each other your undivided
attention. This means that you should shut off
all your devices or remove them from your
presence. "Cell phones may seem to be part of
a dinner time place setting, along with the
salad fork and butter knife, but it’s a good
idea to take the cell phone off the table and
turn it off while you’re eating together," writes
Masini. Sit and talk to each other - face to
face. Share the particulars of your day, some
hopes for the future (even if it's just the
weekend), and interact directly with one
another.
2. Have an electronics-free bedroom.
Ok, this is a tough one. Keeping all electronics
out of the bedroom might seem impossible,
especially if you like to watch TV before falling
asleep. Maybe you can allow the TV and
nothing else. Or you can bring in an iPad for
movie viewing. But you should do your best to
put a limit on the technology entering your
bedroom and keep everything off when you're
trying to get intimate. You should be able to
have sex the old-fashioned way without the
use of electronics. Actually touching each
other is a great experience and one not to be
missed if you know what I mean.
3. Beware the messages you send.
You never leave a paper trail nowadays. Most
people don't know what paper is. But you do
leave a digital trail. Even if you delete
messages or think that your cell phone or e-
mailbox is super private, it's not, reminds
Masini. She hears from people, who tracked
their mate's messages, and didn't like what
they saw. "You may be faithful to your spouse,
but that photo you send your ex, that’s
slightly flirty (or very flirty) will set off
fireworks if and when it’s seen by someone
you didn’t intend," adds Masini. "Think before
you send." If it's something you would not
want your spouse to see, then don't send it.
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4. Make time for physical contact.
Some couples create a false sense of
closeness because of technology. They think
that they are in love or intimate because they
message and video chat all the time. But they
rarely, if ever, see each other in person.
Granted, most married couples have spent
some time face to face. But even those in
long-distance marriages tend to have unique
challenges when they finally get together in
person. "When they do meet up in person, they
realize all the 'holes' in the relationship that
weren’t clear because technology doesn’t
convey everything when it comes to human
dynamics," writes Masini. "A message via
prose or text is not fueled by non-verbal cues
which can be instrumental in conveying
feelings." Touching is magical, so get up,
close, and personal as soon as you can.
5. Be mindful of Internet porn.
The Internet has made porn super accessible
to people. And you don't have to even be
embarrassed because you can check out the
naked ladies from the comfort of your living
room. But wives tend to take it personally
when they discover their husband watching
porn. Masini warns that lots of men look at
porn and it's no big deal. They are visual
creatures seeking stimulation and nothing
more. The problems arise if they are addicted
to porn (their viewing gets in the way of their
real life and relationships) or if they are
soliciting real women with whom they have
inappropriate relationships. That's another
story and one that you must address.
6. Unplug once per week.
If you can, shut off all technology for an entire
day and just be with each other. If once a
week is too often, then consider once a month
or some other schedule that works for you. It
will be a challenge at first, but the rewards
will make it worth it. Just think about the
conversation and all that kissing without a
beep or a ring.

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by tomiobj(m): 3:04am On Sep 27, 2014
Lailai oooo. I'll just send d wife lack to her parents. Tech free room. Fym

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by CosmicSensation: 5:55am On Sep 27, 2014
This was close.
My closest yet.
I will get there.
I shall get there!

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Adyrin(m): 5:56am On Sep 27, 2014
Yex Ooº°
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Nobody: 5:57am On Sep 27, 2014
correct
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by amtalkin(f): 5:57am On Sep 27, 2014
So many marriage advice. Yet the way couples divorce these days is jux too much!

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Tallesty1(m): 5:58am On Sep 27, 2014
Hmmmmmmm
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by kennyonthrone(m): 5:58am On Sep 27, 2014
Which one be digital marriage again eh OP?well me I still prefer my papa nd my mama type of marriage .....

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by coolvitus(m): 5:59am On Sep 27, 2014
Well said and well taking
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by chidiebere2020(m): 6:00am On Sep 27, 2014
Nollywood .........
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Nobody: 6:00am On Sep 27, 2014
Too much marriage advises all over the place... tell me something I don't already know.
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Adyrin(m): 6:00am On Sep 27, 2014
U̶̲̥̅̊ must be dreaming still

CosmicSensation: .
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by onlymase(m): 6:00am On Sep 27, 2014
seriously!
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by CharlieMaria(m): 6:01am On Sep 27, 2014
Still reading

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by LMAyedun(m): 6:03am On Sep 27, 2014
Nice One
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by EbirichBen(m): 6:03am On Sep 27, 2014
Alright. What Else Do You Expect?
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by drkay(m): 6:03am On Sep 27, 2014
I need more of it, getting hooked soon.

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by 9jahubcom(m): 6:08am On Sep 27, 2014
Kk
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by CosmicSensation: 6:10am On Sep 27, 2014
Adyrin: U̶̲̥̅̊ must be dreaming still

lol. Are u a learner?

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by IYANGBALI: 6:11am On Sep 27, 2014
All dis copy and paste bullshiiit does not work here in Naija.

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by leonard509(m): 6:13am On Sep 27, 2014
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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by pabon(m): 6:14am On Sep 27, 2014
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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by honour6(m): 6:16am On Sep 27, 2014
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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Vstuffs(m): 6:17am On Sep 27, 2014
technology have it disadvantages and advantages in a family
Advantages
-communication
Disadvantages
-Some spent too much time online than with their family








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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by 9jahubcom(m): 6:19am On Sep 27, 2014
Ok
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Nobody: 6:20am On Sep 27, 2014
very true...
Technology has spoilt a lot, I remember @ a point, I enjoyed chatting with my husband on phone than in reality...
When he asks me 'what where you saying then on phone?'
I will say 'iyaff forget' grin

...but all these marriage this, virgin that...e af doooo! This 'hustle' is real o
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by paul288yahoo(m): 6:24am On Sep 27, 2014
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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by DesChyko: 6:26am On Sep 27, 2014
Nice piece.
I really thought I was being unfair when I sometimes choose not to reply my wife's messages on facebook/whatsapp, although I tell her I don't always want to.
I just don't feel it's appropriate, substituting these 'word messages' for 'looking into her eyes and listening to her voice as she tells me what she wants'.
Digital is good, but it actually ruins moments in relationships.
I hope baby sees that eventually.

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by AMAKAVIOLA: 6:38am On Sep 27, 2014
#Endless list# continues
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by germainediva(f): 6:44am On Sep 27, 2014
Some women enjoy fone sex because of lack of sex from their cheating husband........if not 4 technology wetin dem4 do........African men r full of shit when it comes to marriage........technology has lessen d womans pain........

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Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by Missyetty(f): 6:48am On Sep 27, 2014
Yes oo, it is realy getin too much, diff tips day in day out [quote author=Valeree]Too much marriage advises all over the place... tell me something I don't already know.[quote]
Re: Marriage Rules For The Digital Age by mzlizabelle(f): 6:48am On Sep 27, 2014
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