quinnboy: Chia!!!......she tells me most of these stuffs Oº°ºooOº°ºoo . I don enter one chance.

winner01: some ask for erotiCc reasons, security reasons and also to know the kind of person dey r dealing with, we'll appreciate it if u ddnt cee it as a silly question

ENELDEE: @sleekyposh, that's a nice and realistic list you've done here. But, you also have to realize that lies are inevitable in every relationship that wants to grow, whether from the man or the woman. Lies in a relationship are like music to the ears. Sometimes, you don't understand why they're told but you listen anyway. I will want to believe that the number 1 reason why people breakup cheaply today is the fantastical belief that they should know the truth in every matter concerning their spouse.

Lies are healthy for every relationship and you have the responsibility to allow your lady keep any information from you if she feels it's safer that way and will keep your relationship healthy. It's that simple.

*Modified*

@princecalm: Sometimes, you just can't get people to open up to their inner secrets no matter how hard you try. I believe it is then, more reasonable to avoid any heart-aches and let them enjoy their personal lives even while in the relationship. Have you heard of anything like 'single and married'?
It says that you can choose to be single and enjoy your privacy even while in a healthy relationship. Now, that's making sense.

winner01: some ask for erotiCc reasons, security reasons and also to know the kind of person dey r dealing with, we'll appreciate it if u ddnt cee it as a silly question

jpphilips:


You are right, I don't think I will ask a question which a lie can sit for the answer, what do you need how many men she has slept with for?
If she is not a virgin, then someone or people have been there, it is common sense, some tell to create the sanctimonious impression but it is better when you make it clear that you don't give a damn! How do I know the truth in the first place?
one may react to it when she rubs it on your face, each time you go out and she runs into a fling she exchanges pleasantries and lies he is just a friend, for fvcks sake he was just a fling and shouldn't be dignified with a pleasantry, if he is actually worth something, he would be there not me, that irritates me a lot, and somehow, women give out this aura "we fvcked" when such pleasantries are exchanged.

I feel they are trying to make the fling jealous that they have actually moved on or they have a better person now or they have someone steady now, either ways, you sure gonna be single soon. Better tell me that friend is a colleague or church member or someone close to a relative and I hope for her life it is true.

What happened in those relationships is equally important, "I had an abortion for an ex that ruptured my womb" is not the kinda truth you don't want to hear.

chrisbaba1:

No man wants to fall in love with a who.re!! [/b]Someone who many men have screwed isnt, has never been and will never be desired by any man. [b]Love vanishes at the knowledge of a who.re, thats y every guy will sleep with a loose lady and no one wants love with her... Again its just a mans nature and it wont change......

jpphilips:

You don't get it do you? life does not run on perceptions, perception is influenced by time and chance, perceptions need the reality to translate into a fact.
let me tell you the hard truth, you see most weddings in those big churches and registries, those guys are not even number 10 on the list, do you sincerely think that Annie has slept with only Tuface in her life time or prolly with three other guys? you must be kidding?

The reason is that our world have changed, it is no longer like the days of our parents, never mind which is better, but the best we can do is to adapt to what we have.
You can be a virgin hunter to marry one no doubt but if you sincerely probe the challenges of our time, you will agree completely that virgin hunting is a waste of man hours.

Another reason is that finding a committed man for women is a process, its not a touch and it goes thing, our society has men in a vast majority who have made sex a latent requirement before even thinking of a relationship and they can equally justify it, now where does it leave women?
An average girl who is unlucky in the process of looking for a committed man may likely sleep with a man at least in 6months or 1yr if she is so patient, that patience is a luxury they may not afford if age is no longer on their side,it is a gamble that nature has made them to accept.
Some are so tired that they have given up, some have taken solace in the company of their fellow women because of strings of disappointments, some have run to God to seek the counsel of the omnipotence to guarantee them that this shot will be the last. Some out of immaturity will accept relationships that will never count.

I can guess you are still very young so there are a lot of things that is not supposed to make sense to you now but with time, you will embrace and accept the reality and you will wish things were different.
I know deep inside you, something tells you that once you are through with school, you will run into big bucks hire a flat, buy a clean ride then get yourself a pretty lady right? News flash! some people are paying bribes to actually join the inept, underfunded, disorganized Nigerian army, rightly put, paying for their death, 5yrs ago, I am certain that none of those people will actually believe they will get to that point in life.

Liken the case of women with men, can a rich man recount how many disappointments, losses, deals he incurred before he made it? they have lost count because making money for men is a process, so a lot of sh!!t equally happen on the way, it is same for women too.
I am in no way trying to uphold the insatiable trade for sex inherent in our society today, where sex has become a means to an ignoble end,
I am of the opinion that even the best of girls will likely end up with a high mileage if she gets unlucky in her quest to getting a partner, that is the card reality has kept on an African woman's table

You must review that word "wh0re" because there are loads of unlucky girls out there who have never traded sex for a kobo yet, have a very high mileage, it is a reflection of the unpredictable nature of man.

Saying you cannot fall in love with a girl with high mileage is as s!!lly as saying you will never shake a man who uses his hands to wipe his arsse, conversely, insinuating that women with high mileage is a direct function of "wh0rring" is a proof that you haven't even started life.

May experience teach you better!!

stingbreed: Really nice observations but two wrongs they say can't make right,, just because one has become disappointed in relationships it doesn't mean u should now specialise in lying,,,, if a question u know the answer will hurt the person asking,, straight up don't answer,,

Ones a lady starts lying to her man her will know,, she loses a lot of respect,, and believe me ones a man does not respect u............... Well

jpphilips:

It does not work that way, there are questions you just don't have to ask largely because it is inconsequential to the outcome of whatever prospects your association wield.
Have you heard of corporate lies before? why will a sane man put himself in a vulnerable position?

stingbreed: I can put it to u that most of those silly questions come from ladies,, of what good will it do if I start asking those questions because me sef no good,, but ladies love to inquire, it is in this process a guy will now be like what about u and then she use u shine,,
As for me I don't care about ur past as long as it doesn't affect me.....

jpphilips:

You don't get it do you? life does not run on perceptions, perception is influenced by time and chance, perceptions need the reality to translate into a fact.
let me tell you the hard truth, you see most weddings in those big churches and registries, those guys are not even number 10 on the list, do you sincerely think that Annie has slept with only Tuface in her life time or prolly with three other guys? you must be kidding?

The reason is that our world have changed, it is no longer like the days of our parents, never mind which is better, but the best we can do is to adapt to what we have.
You can be a virgin hunter to marry one no doubt but if you sincerely probe the challenges of our time, you will agree completely that virgin hunting is a waste of man hours.

Another reason is that finding a committed man for women is a process, its not a touch and it goes thing, our society has men in a vast majority who have made sex a latent requirement before even thinking of a relationship and they can equally justify it, now where does it leave women?
An average girl who is unlucky in the process of looking for a committed man may likely sleep with a man at least in 6months or 1yr if she is so patient, that patience is a luxury they may not afford if age is no longer on their side,it is a gamble that nature has made them to accept.
Some are so tired that they have given up, some have taken solace in the company of their fellow women because of strings of disappointments, some have run to God to seek the counsel of the omnipotence to guarantee them that this shot will be the last. Some out of immaturity will accept relationships that will never count.

I can guess you are still very young so there are a lot of things that is not supposed to make sense to you now but with time, you will embrace and accept the reality and you will wish things were different.
I know deep inside you, something tells you that once you are through with school, you will run into big bucks hire a flat, buy a clean ride then get yourself a pretty lady right? News flash! some people are paying bribes to actually join the inept, underfunded, disorganized Nigerian army, rightly put, paying for their death, 5yrs ago, I am certain that none of those people will actually believe they will get to that point in life.

Liken the case of women with men, can a rich man recount how many disappointments, losses, deals he incurred before he made it? they have lost count because making money for men is a process, so a lot of sh!!t equally happen on the way, it is same for women too.
I am in no way trying to uphold the insatiable trade for sex inherent in our society today, where sex has become a means to an ignoble end,
I am of the opinion that even the best of girls will likely end up with a high mileage if she gets unlucky in her quest to getting a partner, that is the card reality has kept on an African woman's table

You must review that word "wh0re" because there are loads of unlucky girls out there who have never traded sex for a kobo yet, have a very high mileage, it is a reflection of the unpredictable nature of man.

Saying you cannot fall in love with a girl with high mileage is as s!!lly as saying you will never shake a man who uses his hands to wipe his arsse, conversely, insinuating that women with high mileage is a direct function of "wh0rring" is a proof that you haven't even started life.

May experience teach you better!!

chrisbaba1:

Cant read all your story. Fact still remains that a man will rather have a virgin low mileage lady than a public lady, simple. You can keep with with ur stories. You compare sex to using hands to wipe nd all that ? Really?

chrisbaba1:

Cant read all your story. Fact still remains that a man will rather have a virgin low mileage lady than a public lady, simple. You can keep with with ur stories. You compare sex to using hands to wipe nd all that ? Really?

Krystalxxx:
Now this is how guys think @ ladies on this thread. Probably after spoiling and de-flowering some girls too. Now he wants a virgin,ain't that cute?
When looking for a virgin to marry or asking a girl about the guys she's slept with, guys automatically forget the girls they pressured or used for sex. They forget that they themselves are not virgins.

Before you ask for a virgin,ask yourself who will marry those ones you spoilt. Nonsense

chrisbaba1:

I guess thats why im choosy, I dont mess around so I deserve a decent ladt also. No one is asking for a virgin. No one wants a loose dummy who opened her legs for evrry man that comes her way. U get

Krystalxxx:
Sooo...you're decent. Well we have to look at what you're saying and accept it how it is. Even my bf who is my first claimed before and still claims to be "decent". (Story for the gods).

Number two: Which girl initially chooses to be a dummy for any guy,hmmm? Who deliberately chooses to be a sacrifice for every guy?

What you're saying is that all the girls who have been played, deceived and destroyed in the innocent search for that non-existent love,are dummies right? How nice of you.

If you're really and truly decent though...I wish you luck in finding a good girl. On another note,just a personal opinion for the public,there are virgins and their scarcity is exaggerated,they are there but the wise ones,and I hope they remain wise, hardly announce themselves.

jpphilips:

was actually meant for people who will understand it

chrisbaba1:

Like I earlier said, im not specific about virginity but be decent at least you make mistakes a couple of times a woman should learn from it. Having a body count of 20 as an unmarried lady is NOT a mistake; its either gullibility or plain perversion. .... can You make the same mistakes 5 times and not learn?

jpphilips:

You don't get it do you? life does not run on perceptions, perception is influenced by time and chance, perceptions need the reality to translate into a fact.
let me tell you the hard truth, you see most weddings in those big churches and registries, those guys are not even number 10 on the list, do you sincerely think that Annie has slept with only Tuface in her life time or prolly with three other guys? you must be kidding?

The reason is that our world have changed, it is no longer like the days of our parents, never mind which is better, but the best we can do is to adapt to what we have.
You can be a virgin hunter to marry one no doubt but if you sincerely probe the challenges of our time, you will agree completely that virgin hunting is a waste of man hours.

Another reason is that finding a committed man for women is a process, its not a touch and it goes thing, our society has men in a vast majority who have made sex a latent requirement before even thinking of a relationship and they can equally justify it, now where does it leave women?
An average girl who is unlucky in the process of looking for a committed man may likely sleep with a man at least in 6months or 1yr if she is so patient, that patience is a luxury they may not afford if age is no longer on their side,it is a gamble that nature has made them to accept.
Some are so tired that they have given up, some have taken solace in the company of their fellow women because of strings of disappointments, some have run to God to seek the counsel of the omnipotence to guarantee them that this shot will be the last. Some out of immaturity will accept relationships that will never count.

I can guess you are still very young so there are a lot of things that is not supposed to make sense to you now but with time, you will embrace and accept the reality and you will wish things were different.
I know deep inside you, something tells you that once you are through with school, you will run into big bucks hire a flat, buy a clean ride then get yourself a pretty lady right? News flash! some people are paying bribes to actually join the inept, underfunded, disorganized Nigerian army, rightly put, paying for their death, 5yrs ago, I am certain that none of those people will actually believe they will get to that point in life.

Liken the case of women with men, can a rich man recount how many disappointments, losses, deals he incurred before he made it? they have lost count because making money for men is a process, so a lot of sh!!t equally happen on the way, it is same for women too.
I am in no way trying to uphold the insatiable trade for sex inherent in our society today, where sex has become a means to an ignoble end,
I am of the opinion that even the best of girls will likely end up with a high mileage if she gets unlucky in her quest to getting a partner, that is the card reality has kept on an African woman's table

You must review that word "wh0re" because there are loads of unlucky girls out there who have never traded sex for a kobo yet, have a very high mileage, it is a reflection of the unpredictable nature of man.

Saying you cannot fall in love with a girl with high mileage is as s!!lly as saying you will never shake a man who uses his hands to wipe his arsse, conversely, insinuating that women with high mileage is a direct function of "wh0rring" is a proof that you haven't even started life.

May experience teach you better!!

marieolae: hello..longest time

jpphilips:

Crap!! may make sense to kids though

steppin: Lies won't crumble everything if they're harmless. If a guy with his friends admires a lady with a heavy backside in a joint and he later goes home to tell the gf about the harmless flirting they did, what do you think would happen? The lady would make a huge fuss over it. Was it worth telling? That's what the guy meant by a harmless lie. If your gf is the jealous type and you come in and tell her that a lady was all over you, but you declined her gestures, how do you think she'll take it? Give you a serious hug? I doubt it.

chrisbaba1:

Like I earlier said, im not specific about virginity but be decent at least you make mistakes a couple of times a woman should learn from it. Having a body count of 20 as an unmarried lady is NOT a mistake; its either gullibility or plain perversion. .... can You make the same mistakes 5 times and not learn?

winner01: naaah, its not crap, its just a few words, maybe you should read it over again and it might just make sense to you, Nawa for all these "social media heroes" sef....you expect me to have a serious relationship with a girl that has slept with about 15 different guys before 25 and still fails to realise that sex is not working, its obvious that such a gal might be out of control and it just gives me a hint on the kind of person I'm dealing with, or you expect me to view a decent girl (not necessarily a virgin) the same way ill view a lady with the above case while we might be in a room together and anything can happen (now that's where security comes in)....I didn't need to type all this,its obvious ur only grown up online, if not, the patience associated with maturity would have made you understand my point at once.....well, I won't tell a kid to grow up.

Obinoscopy: Despite your epistle, a virgin is still desirable by most men. But I think faithfulness is more important than virginity. Nevertheless, we can't erase the fact that a man would never forget his nuptial night with his wife if he's the first . And he will always be proud of her even if he doesn't admit it in her presence.

chrisbaba1:

Meant for people with an unrealistic sense of maturity actually..... women might support you but even if you present such a woman to ur mum or sisters, they will discourage the union (even though they should understand as women. )[b][/b] its life, thats why we are all responsible for our choices, as you lay your bed....... uno