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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by otukpo(f): 12:03pm On Oct 12, 2014
chesterlee:
Dear,its not as easy as you think

It takes a lot of grace to fight off some temptation!


And what if it is your woman that is saying this same thing, how would you rate her?

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by otukpo(f): 12:06pm On Oct 12, 2014
chesterlee:
Lol...seeing another guy bleep my wifey live and direct would be like taking 10 years off my life. It would haunt me forever. Anytime I see her face, I would surely remember that moment. It won't be easy to forgive, talkless of forgetting!!!

And if it was your wife that caught you bleeping another woman, would you expect her to forgive?

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by otukpo(f): 12:09pm On Oct 12, 2014
chinziaski:

And you think you've solved the problem, ba?
softsparkyy:
I forget before forgiving sef.

Easier said.

chinziaski:
With the girls are commenting on this thread, it looks like a "women empowerment programme".
Cheating is difficult for both partners to swallow, one mistake can shatter the whole relationship.

Your first statement was quite funny.

Infidelity breaks the woman emotionally as it does the man.

No woman like her man to be shared

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Nobody: 12:11pm On Oct 12, 2014
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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Nobody: 12:15pm On Oct 12, 2014
I have walked out/ended a relationship because of lies talkmore of a cheating partner.
For a Man To have the courage to Cheat on his wife, he must have stopped loving her A long time ago. So what am I still doing in a loveless marriage?
Anamanu
Can't forgive, can't ignore, can't forget, can't live With him.

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by samflex(m): 12:21pm On Oct 12, 2014
chinziaski:


The ladies were just commenting the same thing.

Men don die be dis grin

I dey tell you....only in naija men are always the culprit grin
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Rosarie(f): 12:38pm On Oct 12, 2014
chaircover:
Forgive . . .with great difficulty
Forget . . Never
. . . and things will never be quite the same again as I will see him in a totally different light.
The trust is gone forever and every penny and every oppourtunity from that point on will be for me and my kids alone.
Emotional detachment is inevitbale.


Gbam!

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by chesterlee(m): 12:49pm On Oct 12, 2014
EfemenaXY:


But what if she's truly remorseful? And gave in to temptation in a moment of weakness?

And if you've got kids, shouldn't this be another valid reason to forgive and forget, for their sake?

I will forgive...bt I will never forget it!
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by chesterlee(m): 12:53pm On Oct 12, 2014
otukpo:


And if it was your wife that caught you bleeping another woman, would you expect her to forgive?
These things are really complicated dear...Let's just pray we don't face such temptation in life.
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by chesterlee(m): 12:59pm On Oct 12, 2014
greedie1:


No!!! it's all on you. That excuse that wifey pushed you to cheat is lame at best. there are very many ways to handle whatever without allowing ur 3rd organ think and act for u.




Another lie . Really how does anything happen? A colleague, junior staff or client waltzes in, strips and seduces you at gunpoint?

Or an internet friend wannabe materializes into your private space and again has her way with you at gunpoint?

Perhaps the lady that owns the joint where you and the guys unwind after a hectic day slipped sleeping pills into ur drink and carted you away to her personal rendezvous while ur helpless friends looked on?

Maybe males run on blood and females on water?

My friend, you cant get drowned if you don't go near a waterbody. Stop blaming the devil or ur pulsating member, you alone are responsible for your actions.
Well, what can I say?

Dear sometimes we do all our best to avoid being in such situation. But Its easier said that done!
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Nobody: 4:20pm On Oct 12, 2014
chinziaski:

And you think you've solved the problem, ba?
just joking nii oo
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Kanwulia: 4:27pm On Oct 12, 2014
EfemenaXY:


Why?

Why would it be hard to forgive and forget what you've seen live, before you? Abeg explain...



Lol! I get where you're coming from K, kiss kiss but for the benefit of those guys on here who don't, would you mind breaking it down further for them pls?

In other words. . . .You must mean a lot to me to devote time to such sentiments.
I believe in the 'move on' theory of life o.
I nor even know weda offenders dey alive or dead.

Na so e pain me reach? undecided

If I can't stand you. . . I avoid you. Simple!
Which wan be forgive and forget again? undecided

I nor get that kain time or energy o.
Life is to short for petty grudges. . . ESPECIALLY FROM PEOPLE WHO MEAN ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO YOU OR YOUR LIFE! kiss
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Islie: 4:37pm On Oct 12, 2014
this topic reminds me on Anita baker song. ..... which talks about forgive and forget

where she says I a willing to forgive but I can't forget because u really really hurts mah hearts..


most people that do say they forgive just wanna allow the events slide away but deep down..... the hurts is fresh and she will nag you till eternity about what u did.



best bet..... don't cheat
and if u cheat..... don't get caught

because u would hate ur self

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by EfemenaXY: 5:00pm On Oct 12, 2014
chesterlee:
I will forgive...bt I will never forget it!

Why not?

Isn't this the point where you ought to ask yourself what you've probably been doing wrong to make her stray into another man's arms?

~ Perhaps you've let yourself "go" over the years? You're no longer the sexy guy with tight bùttöcks and rippling six-pack she married, but instead a lazy couch potatoe sporting a beer belly and man bööbs?

~ Or maybe, you don't pray and dry-fast hard enough for her?

~ If she's a working woman, does she come home after a hard day's graft at the office to an untidy home? Whilst you flip through your favourite sports channels whilst yelling at her to bring you freshly pounded yam and Egusi soup?

~ Do you undermine her efforts and take her for granted?

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by EfemenaXY: 5:03pm On Oct 12, 2014
chesterlee:
These things are really complicated dear...Let's just pray we don't face such temptation in life.

Complicated for whom? The man?

chesterlee:
Well, what can I say?
Dear sometimes we do all our best to avoid being in such situation. But Its easier said that done!

You seem to think cheating is the exclusive preserve of the man??
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by avuekwe(f): 5:14pm On Oct 12, 2014
It is not un all cases you can forgive and forget. It is worst when a cheating partner is not remorseful, makes excuses or even blames you for his cheating ways. How can you possibly forgive and forget? I cant forgive o, cos once a cheater , always a repeater.

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by avuekwe(f): 5:16pm On Oct 12, 2014
EfemenaXY:


Why not?

Isn't this the point where you ought to ask yourself what you've probably been doing wrong to make her stray into another man's arms?

~ Perhaps you've let yourself "go" over the years? You're no longer the sexy guy with tight bùttöcks and rippling six-pack she married, but instead a lazy couch potatoe sporting a beer belly and man bööbs?

~ Or maybe, you don't pray and dry-fast hard enough for her?

~ If she's a working woman, does she come home after a hard day's graft at the office to an untidy home? Whilst you flip through your favourite sports channels whilst yelling at her to bring you freshly pounded yam and Egusi soup?

~ Do you undermine her efforts and take her for granted?


sister, you just mentioned it all. Men take us for granted a lot of times. They think they don't have to work hard to keep us attracted to them.

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Nobody: 7:06pm On Oct 12, 2014
@Otukpo It's common for both the cheater, and society at large to see cheating episodes as some sort of mishap or mistake, but it's also a conscious choice, a decision made over and over again - a process if you will. Whose to say the commitment wasn't the mistake? Maybe the person wasn't made for that kind of life. Perhaps he's succeeded in deceiving us both. I don't believe in holding onto people, or holding them back. Let him find what he seeks, and let us move on.

Irrespextive of whatever he says?

What's there to say? And when it's all said and done, what's left but your knowledge of their complete disregard for you, and an environment of distrust, desecrated vows, disdain, hurt? The heart is a fragile thing - though it can numb and forget the pain it bore, the mind does not.

What if you've had kids for him?

I would never burden my own children with being the glue that keeps our 'marriage' intact. I know people who stay together merely to avoid divvying up the critters...pure unadulterated misery. I value my health and piece of mind, and that of any child I may bring into this world.

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by otukpo(f): 8:20pm On Oct 12, 2014
avuekwe:
It is not un all cases you can forgive and forget. It is worst when a cheating partner is not remorseful, makes excuses or even blames you for his cheating ways. How can you possibly forgive and forget? I cant forgive o, cos once a cheater , always a repeater.

You are so on point.

It hurts more when the cheating partner is not remorseful, or tries to put the blame on the cheated.
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by otukpo(f): 8:29pm On Oct 12, 2014
I know od a man whp claims to have forgiven a cheating wife. He said he had to forgive her because of the kids who are still quite young. But each time I see him or speak with him, he doesn't fail to express his disgust and regret over the wife.

Atimes, I will be like "you said you have forgiven, why don't you stop talking about it"?

A woman may not talk about her own everyday, but deep down her, the grudge resides.

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by EfemenaXY: 8:32pm On Oct 12, 2014
^^ I doubt he'll ever sleep with her. It's best they go their separate ways.

It's not healthy for young, impressionable kids to witness their father's disgust of their mother day and night, night and day, 24/7 for 365 days of the year. They'll only damage the children emotionally by staying together, with so much negativity surrounding the kids.

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Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Nobody: 7:54am On Oct 13, 2014
prettythicksme:
just joking nii oo
I for fear o grin
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Nobody: 8:03am On Oct 13, 2014
samflex:


I dey tell you....only in naija men are always the culprit grin
And them go de give us ultimatum! grin
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Nobody: 8:03am On Oct 13, 2014
samflex:


I dey tell you....only in naija men are always the culprit grin
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Nobody: 8:12am On Oct 13, 2014
otukpo:


Easier said.



Your first statement was quite funny.

Infidelity breaks the woman emotionally as it does the man.

No woman like her man to be shared

I think its both sides dear.

God help us all.
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by otukpo(f): 8:49am On Oct 13, 2014
EfemenaXY:
^^ I doubt he'll ever sleep with her. It's best they go their separate ways.

It's not healthy for young, impressionable kids to witness their father's disgust of their mother day and night, night and day, 24/7 for 365 days of the year. They'll only damage the children emotionally by staying together, with so much negativity surrounding the kids.

The man's fear is that if he gets a divorce now, the wife would have custody of the kids and he doesn't want the woman to bring up the kids.
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Hedonistically: 9:59am On Aug 09, 2016
otukpo:



Gbam!!!

I baffles me to hear that some women care less as long as the husband still comes back home.

They must be a different breed of women.

If your husband becomes an Ambode, Atiku, or Femi Otedola tomorrow, would you still feel this way? Would you expect him to be faithful to you lol, really? Would it even matter to you?

You women are quite funny. I have since realised that these your unreasonable expectations of fidelity and rants about how hurt you would feel are only applicable when your husband is a struggling or average guy. I don't see Nigerian women making such noise when they have a super rich or successful husband. So if you are a billionaire's wife or a governor's wife, you would be carrying face about not forgiving or forgetting, as if you honestly expect such a personage to be faithful to you. Kai. Poor man don suffer. The hustle must continue.

Let's not kid ourselves.
Re: Do Women Really Forgive And Forget by Nobody: 7:10pm On Aug 09, 2016
It's easy to forgive but hard to forget

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