skydeep:
I chose women as the subject because they are the pillar of the house. Shaky pillars is a warning to a catastrophic occurrence of a building. Today's women are really focused on their careers more than their families . An instance is the trend, or can I say the norm of celebrities especially the women having failed marriages. Does that mean our women have lost the motherhood qualities? They embrace their careers so much that it almost choke. Where is the love for the family?

I have a friend who was filing for divorce just because her husband asked her to quit her job and concentrate on building the joy back to their family.
There are things we just have to compromise for the sake of the future of our children.

chaircover:


. . . and women running successful charities and volunteer all over the place
Some women are out there in Syria and Liberia just handing out food and medical supplies. They dont even get paid for it
Pastors wives nko?
Are they career women?

Kimoni:


Can it be averted? Can you ever be happy with someone that is killing your goals in life?

Imagine if your father stopped you from furthering your education in order to take care of him in his old age? You were top in ur class and always wanted to be a medical doctor. Can the frustration within you be averted especially when you have classmates who also have aged fathers and were able to agree alternative arrangements with them, but ur own father refused to work anything out and insist you must stop school as his time on earth is very limited.

How would you feel? Remember he seems to have very valid reasons.

chaircover:


Are you saying that the fish seller who wakes up at 3am to catch the 4am danfo to badagry to buy fish, comes back home to Barracks to smoke the fish, then sells them at Iyana Iba market in the afternoon and the night market at okoko is not a career woman?

People think carrer woman and automatically think of the women holding board positions and wearing skirt suits. . . . .

A lot of women are out there providing for their familes and many just dont have choices especially in a place like Nigeria where there is no welfare state for widows, divorcess etc

4C2215131:
This is a re-cycled, over-flogged, dissected and analysed topic. Mods please do your jobs! With due respect to the Mods, in other forums I happen to contribute to discussions, there are usual admonitions from Mods amongst which is one advising would be thread starters to make sure they use the search tool to make inquiries about their topic of intent with the aim of seeing if it had been discussed in the forum already. The purpose is to keep the forum lively, fresh, entertaining, trendy and informational.

Sadly, this isn't the case here. You keep seeing old re-worded topics hitting FP. It makes the whole NL experience boring and un-fulfilling. Indeed NL in my opinion has seen its better days, it needs an over-haul (it might still be the best thing since Indomie noodles for some folks, but I suppose these folks didn't know the Nairaland of the mid to late '2000s). Folks may dis-agree with me, but again, certain folks know I'm on point. Mods sit up!

kaboninc:


Just to answer you, not everyone is capable of making sacrifices. And I strong doubt if you're also capable.

In fact sacrifices that seem so silly and foolish yet valid as you said.

zeb04:
Asking someone to quit their is to the extreme.

Why do we take decisions without considering the other party.is it only the woman's duty to bring joy into the family, .......weren't our mother's successful family and carrier women .

You don't ask someone to make sacrifice you know you cannot do youself and marriages don't just pack up because of someone's ambition.

We all have purposes,ambitions,goals in life and we can do that carrying everyone along.

Kimoni:



Still searching for ur answer...

kaboninc:
Very controversial topic.

Whether we like it or not, it is the duty of a man to provide for his family. If the woman supports, beautiful. Most importantly the man provides and that's the pride of a man. The woman's role is to support and if possible complement his efforts. That's her joy.

Sadly life can turn you upside down that it becomes the woman who provides. A caring, loving and responsible man will always support his wife to see her aspirations come true especially when she is playing a crucial role to his success. Today women are actually taking up traditional 'manly' roles in business, government, academia, etc. To me, there's no problem but she must never forget her 'primary' duty. So long as she doesn't, she's got my support. Besides, there are times when ones career would have to be put on 'hold' and never 'terminated' as its been argued here; most cases it is the woman's career and in few cases, it is the man. This is where compromise and sacrifice comes in.

My 2 kobo.

GodofGrace:
I couldn't wait to read page 2&3 before I make my point, I'm still in my middle twenties anyway but I have to say this why do you women think you can compare your self with men?. is not that I don't want career women to grow but at the same time if your family is felling the pain of your career then is out of ordinary, the last time I check my bible it said wives are the helper of their husband....... the little I expect woman's to do is assisting their husband spiritual, financial,emotionally and morally to bring up their children in a Godly way. so now tell me when woman become a competition with men in a career world.
insult me if you want,I don't care I have said my mind.

Busybody2:
Something's got to give and in most cases its the children that loses out on "quality" time.

jaybee3:

Do you really want to compare physical stress to mental stress?

A career woman must have gone through all sort of hoops just to climb the career ladder.

chaircover:


she is a career woman
she did an apprenticeship on how to smoke the fish

Do you know that there are apprecticships for things such as selling fabric and how to repair shoes
All those girls in isale eko measuring fabric are learning how to be fabric merchants too one day


@moca, when you go to dubai, you will think that half Nigerian women have left Nigeria. These are the women running these so called "family friendly" businesses.
There are also tailors that sew express and are up all night

zeb04:
what the hell is that

moca:

Sis, u don't have to tell me,I've been there several times to witness what happens.
In my office alone, d ladies joggle office workk with supermarket and children all together plus parents o!
Common balogun or onitsha main market is another example. Some will sell o, park their things out for d night session. U will see some selling and breasttfeeding at d same time.

Its only here that women r not celebrated.

Abeg my family celebrates me a lot.
If I tell u my everyday schedule now,u won't believe it.
Some folks simply need reorientation.

skydeep:

She is busy woman