Missy89:


SHUT UP

Ilovenigeria:

Can I borrow him for some years?

zboyd:


lol

No way, Jose!

Some men, Nigerian or otherwise take their role as head of household VERY seriously.

Best to go with the flow - keeps down arguments.

One thing though - they don't tolerate ANY smidgen of disrespect.

If a woman thinks she's going to run them, she is sadly mistaken.

Give this type of man utmost respect and they will return the same.

To do otherwise, and you will find yourself kicked to the curb so quick, it will make your head spin!

SirShymex:


I'll smack that ar.se!

Off topic: I just finished watching finding ya roots on PBS, and Nas is fvcking NIGERIAN!!!!! I went nuts - Anthony Davis blocking 9 shots instantly flew out of my head. Nasir Olu Dara Jones, the great great grandson of the slave Pocahontas is NIGERIAN!!! Nas is the greatest rapper ever, yo!!

Ilovenigeria:

I'm glad it's working out for both of you. God bless your home.

Missy89:


I just edited my post. i was driving when i posted those 2 words.

I see that you are very interested in African history. I dont like rap by the way

Missy89:

SHUT UP. Smh!

As usual, you are mixing up the point. Now i am beginning to wonder if you do this on purpose.
It is not about Painting Africa black. While there might be few exceptions, Africa is overwhelmingly a patriarchal society. You can name few tribes but that does not change the fact this this is true.

"When you say women tend to focus on marriage while guys face their career" That is not very factual. Like i pointed out, this is not entirely the fault of the woman. That is what the society expects of her. and i also pointed out that this mentality will change if we have an overwhelming reorientation and encourage and support women that have outstanding careers and support them. I will give you a quick example. Look at the RITA DOMINIC thread and see what most guys (and some girls) were saying there. They were more concerned that she is single and not married and totally ignored her relative success in her chosen career.

This is one of the reasons why most women are relaxed.

I already explained why women and men DO NOT have the same privileges already. this has nothing to do with the educational system but post education. If this isn't addressed, There will always be high proportion of women depending on their spouse instead of working and making a good career for themselves. It is clear that our society respects married women more than professional ones.

Now there is nothing wrong with a woman working and supporting her household as long as she can manage her time. My initial reaction was to the men "thanking" the OP for her post without looking at the fundamental problems that should be given serious consideration when it comes to this issue. Some of them were happy about the post not because they really want their spouse to compete or work just like they do and be an "asset". Most of them only acknowledged the post because they have "FAILED" to live up to their own expectations and their spouse is leaning on them. (my observation)

Gorgeous58:
Strive to be the kind of woman who, when your man hits rock bottom, when his business fails or he is retrenched from his job, can carry the family through. You must be able to provide what he otherwise would. This thing of women who sit doing nothing, and when a man goes through a difficult period, cannot come through for him, or at least even help him make a plan, is not on.
I support the whole women not being liability thingy but you must know that when a lady is realy successful b4 she gets married she ends up attracting broke niggas playing mr right just to have a bite of her ****** & her money.success is might be cool for a guy but to ladies it is just the right tool for the devil when he wants you to be filled with hate,disappointments and regret. but that shouldn't stop you from getting that green.

Ilovenigeria:

Forget all the gra gra, until that time comes, you may never know a hard working wife. Some will be forming industrious because them still dey single once you marry them, them go just park bus.

vacant06:
ma'am if u are for real I pray u wil one day be president wife in nigeria

Neldrizzy:
heyyssssss add Dangote Nelson Dangote

donephi:
This face looks familiar like som1 in Uj. Are u damsel?

missberrypop5:
see another reason why your eyes big? good morning. I think say by now na memorial service we go deh do for this account. Wata guan?

julisa2020:
you're very correct...@op...and even when a woman works hard to be successful,to her a rich guy is only a bonus..and not a ladder of upgrade...

missberrypop5:
eiyah. No.

kittykat1:


Why can't u pray for her to be d president? Must a man always define a woman?

SirShymex:


1) Nah, you painted it black by saying it's "patriarchal" like other continents aren't mostly patriarchal. There are more women in position of power in Nigeria right now, than the UK for example. And I think Africa has two female presidents compared to only Angela Merkel in Europe - so I don't understand the need to always stigmatise Africa. Why not just talk about what you perceived as the wrong towards women, rather than bringing Africa/black (or in most cases black men like you lot do) into it? It's condescending.

2) You can't always blame the society for your own flaws. As far as I'm concerned, males and females are raised the same way on equal footing. So you have no excuse whatsoever not to be out there competing with males. In the west for example: the society expects every black guy to be obnoxious and inarticulate. That's the strereotype. So, should we now start using that as an excuse to start fitting into that inane stereotype? I don't know who the hell "Rita Dominic" is, and I'm not in a position to answer that. However, always endeavour to make the best out of yourself, and whatever opportunity you have - and stop playing the blame game.

3) I'm lost here. Can you expatiate further on the privilege disparities in post education you're alluding to?

Women just need to start taking responsibilities for their inabilities to outsmart men. It's a woman's world like I always say. But you lot just don't understand the game, and the power you have. When you stop whinging, you will see the light. No one is holding you down. Get a career, and become an asset, not a liability.

MissMeiya:
Insecure men can't handle a woman who outperforms him. So get ready to do a lot of ego-stroking.

Source: witnessed and experienced

Neldrizzy:
lolzz who tod u i av big eyes?

kamez:
OP u re sleeping on mouka foam..


Women have already started hustling with their men.. Except the lazy few who will never change.

where have u been all this while? Anyway glad u re finally awake

Better late dan never

Misogynist2014:
Remove the make up, the fancy hairdo(natural hair) and use a normal camera. Then I can know if you're truely beautiful.

ekemini007:


Datin a woman wit a source of livelihood is equivalent to a woman datin a man becuse he hs a source of livelihood. This u knw is wt we men cl "greedy girls". Wt mks a "real woman" is situational n nt dispositional jst like wt mks a "real man"

Even witout livelihood, strive to find a woman wit "character" fr within dis is al d source of "livelihood" u nid.

Missy89:


You are actually making my point for me. Because of the type of society we live in. Women are politically weak and have very few leverages.

Things don't necessarily come to any group because they try. You need political will to get what you want especially in places like Nigeria where ideology doesn't matter and it is all about power politics.

If you think people get empowered because they work hard you are living in a fantasy world. Power dictates the haves and the have nots and in almost every society, the Men always have the advantage and in places like Nigeria that is even more conservative, Women have very few options and it is all about survival.

That doesn't mean there are no successful women but many factors have to be considered when you look at the way they get to the top (Family background, association, etc) But the disparity between both genders in African societies would remain if there are weak institutions protecting the rights of one of them and there is no re orientation

Misogynist2014:
Here comes the long awaited woman! A woman that can spoil me with money- an independent woman. Pls, hook me up. PM me and let's talk

ocheu:
fantastic, maybe she's looking for a husband and feels posting this will help trap one. I wonder if the women in the market, banks and other organizations are men or probably ghosts. Women are even competing with men this days even in businesses. Please do i have supporters here

Gorgeous58:
Strive to be the kind of woman who, when your man hits rock bottom, when his business fails or he is retrenched from his job, can carry the family through. You must be able to provide what he otherwise would. This thing of women who sit doing nothing, and when a man goes through a difficult period, cannot come through for him, or at least even help him make a plan, is not on.

Let us start hustling with our men. We must stop being liabilities when we have what it takes to be assets.

Ladies, what's your take on this?