Gorgeous58:
Strive to be the kind of woman who, when your man hits rock bottom, when his business fails or he is retrenched from his job, can carry the family through. You must be able to provide what he otherwise would. This thing of women who sit doing nothing, and when a man goes through a difficult period, cannot come through for him, or at least even help him make a plan, is not on.

Let us start hustling with our men. We must stop being liabilities when we have what it takes to be assets.

Ladies, what's your take on this?

I guess some if not most are looking for men who has made it and not the one they can make it together, some parent who too are also looking to hooking them girls to those that has made it, even those parent that has done little to bring up their wards. I was some where not too long n over heard guys you will less expect it from saying no more dependent women. You will be more attractive if you have something going too. Seriously some girls need to repent of their ways of thinking.

Pls choose from .
A. A good wife
B. A working wife
C. A housewife
All the rest is history.

Gorgeous58:
Strive to be the kind of woman who, when your man hits rock bottom, when his business fails or he is retrenched from his job, can carry the family through. You must be able to provide what he otherwise would. This thing of women who sit doing nothing, and when a man goes through a difficult period, cannot come through for him, or at least even help him make a plan, is not on.

Let us start hustling with our men. We must stop being liabilities when we have what it takes to be assets.

Ladies, what's your take on this?

are you a nigerian girl?if you are,your types are so rare.

Gorgeous58:
Strive to be the kind of woman who, when your man hits rock bottom, when his business fails or he is retrenched from his job, can carry the family through. You must be able to provide what he otherwise would. This thing of women who sit doing nothing, and when a man goes through a difficult period, cannot come through for him, or at least even help him make a plan, is not on.

Let us start hustling with our men. We must stop being liabilities when we have what it takes to be assets.

Ladies, what's your take on this?

thank you for your idea and touts. Help motivate others.
If we have more of your kind even our economy will shoot up.
basically money for Brazilian Hair for 6 months from you husband pocket would be invested in a durable business and generate probably a stable source of income for your family.

missberrypop5:
hehehehehe, i see am for dream

so u are stil spying me abi? That ur spiritual miror go soon break....

I dnt pray and I'm not working towards becoming a Liability for any man, for myself and for my Society both now and in the future.

The man should even be the one to be working towards His Life now and in Future, so as not to be a Liability to Me, to Himself and His society.

*No time to check time again*

Gorgeous58:
Strive to be the kind of woman who, when your man hits rock bottom, when his business fails or he is retrenched from his job, can carry the family through. You must be able to provide what he otherwise would. This thing of women who sit doing nothing, and when a man goes through a difficult period, cannot come through for him, or at least even help him make a plan, is not on.

Let us start hustling with our men. We must stop being liabilities when we have what it takes to be assets.

Ladies, what's your take on this?

Something keeps telling u re the one am waiting for........(｡♥‿♥｡)( ˘ ³˘)♥

zboyd:


My take?

It depends on the family dynamics.

Some men, like my hubby and the men in my family never look toward their wives to financially support the family. The wives work if they want to - not because they have to. If hard times hit, then it's the husbands that do the hustling - not the wives. Looking toward their wives' purses is an insult and conveys the message that they, the husbands, can't support the family. This is why my hubby fit in so well into my family, even though he's Nigerian. He took his responsibility as a husband and father VERY seriously.

Our biggest fight came about when his entire department was eliminated, due to budget cuts. I wanted to help out the household financially. So I suggested he file for unemployment benefits, until he found another job and I would take up the slack. What was I thinking?!

That man BLEW UP!!! He accused me of not having any faith in him, asked me if I thought him a small boy in need of pampering, propping up and rescuing and told me that if I wanted a sorry azz nig-ger who couldn't take care of his own family, then go and find one. He was sooo pizzed off, he started ranting and raving in his language, which I couldn't even understand.

WHOA NELLY!!!

To say I was shocked by his reaction is an understatement. I thought it best to take the kids to my parents, so he could cool down. I never thought that such a gentle, loving man could go off like that! When I talked to my Dad about it, surprisingly, he sided with my hubby. Dad said that I had seriously wounded his pride and to never, ever tread on his territory again, as head of household, stay in my place as wife and mother and go back home.

Okay...so I did.

Hubby sulked for a couple of days but he came around.

But I admit, I should have known better, growing up around the men I did.

It took him almost 8 months to land a new position but that man hustled his azz off to bring money into the house, without complaint and, I kept my mouth shut.

Result: PEACE!!!

Your husband is a Real outstanding man. May i?

[quote author=andromida post=27545910][/quote]

Yes he is...but a bit stubborn at times.

I'm not all that comfortable with his 'my family - my responsibility' stance but why rock the boat?

So I save and invest most of my income and spend the rest on me and the kids' little whatnots and entertainment.

And he's comfortable with that.

Op, on a lighter note, how many pms have you received? I am just curious oh.

zboyd:


Yes he is...but a bit stubborn at times.

I'm not all that comfortable with his 'my family - my responsibility' stance but why rock the boat?

So I save and invest most of my income and spend the rest on me and the kids' little whatnots and entertainment.

And he's comfortable with that.

I guess a man like your hubby would have to be stubborn sometimes to be who he is and its all cool since he is such a great man.

I understand you not being comfortable with his 'my family-my responsibility stance' but yeah why rock this boat it seems to be sailing just fine.

you married a good husband.

zboyd:


My take?

It depends on the family dynamics.

Some men, like my hubby and the men in my family never look toward their wives to financially support the family. The wives work if they want to - not because they have to. If hard times hit, then it's the husbands that do the hustling - not the wives. Looking toward their wives' purses is an insult and conveys the message that they, the husbands, can't support the family. This is why my hubby fit in so well into my family, even though he's Nigerian. He took his responsibility as a husband and father VERY seriously.

Our biggest fight came about when his entire department was eliminated, due to budget cuts. I wanted to help out the household financially. So I suggested he file for unemployment benefits, until he found another job and I would take up the slack. What was I thinking?!

That man BLEW UP!!! He accused me of not having any faith in him, asked me if I thought him a small boy in need of pampering, propping up and rescuing and told me that if I wanted a sorry azz nig-ger who couldn't take care of his own family, then go and find one. He was sooo pizzed off, he started ranting and raving in his language, which I couldn't even understand.

WHOA NELLY!!!

To say I was shocked by his reaction is an understatement. I thought it best to take the kids to my parents, so he could cool down. I never thought that such a gentle, loving man could go off like that! When I talked to my Dad about it, surprisingly, he sided with my hubby. Dad said that I had seriously wounded his pride and to never, ever tread on his territory again, as head of household, stay in my place as wife and mother and go back home.

Okay...so I did.

Hubby sulked for a couple of days but he came around.

But I admit, I should have known better, growing up around the men I did.

It took him almost 8 months to land a new position but that man hustled his azz off to bring money into the house, without complaint and, I kept my mouth shut.

Result: PEACE!!!

egopersonified:
Op, on a lighter note, how many pms have you received? I am just curious oh.

Thank you jare. That was the first thing I thought when I read OP's post. Either this is a jobless and poor dude looking for a gf to support him or its some lonely woman desperately seeking male attention. His/her points had no depth, no meaningful intellectual analysis, nothing in short. Just shallow aspersions.

@zboyd: Men like your hubby are just a delight. I am not even the type that wants to depend on a man but I can appreciate guys that are capable of taking care of themselves and don't need a woman's help.
So many lazy and pussified slobs these days. You want to lead me and at the same time you want me to take care of you and your house with my money.
Pure crap.

andromida:




I guess a man like your hubby would have to be stubborn sometimes to be who he is and its all cool since he is such a great man.

I understand you not being comfortable with his 'my family-my responsibility stance' but yeah why rock this boat it seems to be sailing just fine.

lol...That stubborn streak can be a bit annoying at times. He will not budge in this area. So it's best to leave it alone.

CHoccolaTE:

Thank you jare. That was the first thing I thought when I read OP's post. Either this is a jobless and poor dude looking for a gf to support him or its some lonely woman desperately seeking male attention. His/her points had no depth, no meaningful intellectual analysis, nothing in short. Just shallow aspersions.

@zboyd: Men like your hubby are just a delight. I am not even the type that wants to depend on a man but I can appreciate guys that are capable of taking care of themselves and don't need a woman's help.
So many lazy and pussified slobs these days. You want to lead me and at the same time you want me to take care of you and your house with my money.
Pure crap.

I hear you.

I make my own money and save and invest most of it and my hubby is fine with that.

I detest a man who will lay up on a woman and expect her to take care of him. And I definitely detest women who allow men to lay up on them, especially, if she has kids. It's not uncommon, over here in the States. It's even worse, if the woman is getting government benefits.

Why are grown women, supporting sorry azz men who are more than capable of working? And some useless Naija men are copying this mess and are now calling themselves 'house husbands' yet aren't keeping house at all. I never thought I'd see the day.

Isn't it enough that we have a bunch of American men doing this? Why add to the problem? If more women put their foot down and stop acting like they're so desperate for joysticks, mess like this wouldn't be happening. You know how tired I am of hearing: "Girl, the s-x is out of this world!"? So to keep enjoying that joystick, these women allow these lazy, non-working fools to lay up in their houses, entertaining themselves while they work their azzes off! Is s-x going to pay the rent, the mortgage, the utility bills or put food on the table? Hell no!

Lawd! There are some silly azz women over here!

They act like they are so desperate for a man and his joystick, they'll put up with anything.

It's ridiculous!

As for the men doing this - SHAME ON YOU! How can you fix your mouth and call yourselves men?!

You are definitely LIABILITIES!

seconded.

egopersonified:
Op, on a lighter note, how many pms have you received? I am just curious oh.

Over 20 and counting... It's fun though!

My dear, ur right, we need to help our diff bfs and not milking them

Neldrizzy:
so u are stil spying me abi? That ur spiritual miror go soon break....

Amin . If 'e break i go use super glue mend am

CHoccolaTE:

Thank you jare. That was the first thing I thought when I read OP's post. Either this is a jobless and poor dude looking for a gf to support him or its some lonely woman desperately seeking male attention. His/her points had no depth, no meaningful intellectual analysis, nothing in short. Just shallow aspersions.

@zboyd: Men like your hubby are just a delight. I am not even the type that wants to depend on a man but I can appreciate guys that are capable of taking care of themselves and don't need a woman's help.
So many lazy and pussified slobs these days. You want to lead me and at the same time you want me to take care of you and your house with my money.
Pure crap.

Easy tiger! That's just my opinion in my post. Attack the post not my person. By the way, I'm not looking for a man cos I've got my own... Cheers!

Gorgeous58:


Over 20 and counting... It's fun though!

Kai, I trust my guys, but some might be serious. How you determine that is a story only the gods can answer.

missberrypop5:
Amin . If 'e break i go use super glue mend am

werey girl

Gorgeous58:


Easy tiger! That's just my opinion in my post. Attack the post not my person. By the way, I'm not looking for a man cos I've got my own... Cheers!

Na your mama and papa be tiger, no be me.
Shameless jobless man.

@zboyd, excellent post

CHoccolaTE:

Thank you jare. That was the first thing I thought when I read OP's post. Either this is a jobless and poor dude looking for a gf to support him or its some lonely woman desperately seeking male attention. His/her points had no depth, no meaningful intellectual analysis, nothing in short. Just shallow aspersions.

@zboyd: Men like your hubby are just a delight. I am not even the type that wants to depend on a man but I can appreciate guys that are capable of taking care of themselves and don't need a woman's help.
So many lazy and pussified slobs these days. You want to lead me and at the same time you want me to take care of you and your house with my money.
Pure crap.

am sure she is just waking up

CHoccolaTE:

Na your mama and papa be tiger, no be me.
Shameless jobless man.

@zboyd, excellent post

In ur American mind, the Op is a man and jobless? You think no sensible woman will free up her man esp when her demands are outrageous. You wonder why there are more widows than widowers. Oh smoking and drinking kill the husbands.

CHoccolaTE:

Na your mama and papa be tiger, no be me.
Shameless jobless man.

@zboyd, excellent post

Wow! The term 'Tiger' as used in the post is not anyway derogatory. I don't know what to say other that what you speak reflects who you are! By the way I aint a dude!

MissMeiya:
Insecure men can't handle a woman who outperforms him. So get ready to do a lot of ego-stroking.

Source: witnessed and experienced

Share?

From my experience, I've noticed that they tend to take things very generally. For example, a comment like "...that's irresponsible" in reference to something very specific is perceived as an attack on their general responsibility as a person. "...that's irresponsible" is suddenly being countered with "How am I not responsible? Don't/Aren't I..." (ego). Whereas if I said the same thing to a girlfriend, she would not only intuitively note the tone of the remark, but respond (in whichever fashion she choose) within the context the remark was made.

That most men prefer/like blunt (not rude, mind you) speech is a lie from the seven pits of hell.

I wish i could say this into my Dad's head,my Dad don't let me work,i'm starting school(uni) next year,i got a job dat would at least gave me money to pay my fees while in school,but my dad said i shouldn't work,dat i should stay at home,february2015 i will be in school,and guess wot?,i gonna drain all the money frm his pocket

Ladies pls Get dis messg correctly::::::::::especially Tomboys don't ova do it. Oo

As much as I like been financially independent, I would also like my hubby to take his position as the head of the family in cash and kind especially
when he is financially buoyant. And we ladies could always offer support when we know and really know that he is working hard enough but can't meet all the needs in the home.After all thats why we were called helpmeet. We can always chip in.

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Gorgeous58:


Wow! The term 'Tiger' as used in the post is not anyway derogatory. I don't know what to say other that what you speak reflects who you are! By the way I aint a dude!

Offspring of Mr Tiger and Mrs Tigress, I hope your homosexual äss is enjoying the attention your PM senders are bombarding you with.